tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post4945576346648212830..comments2023-05-15T08:22:07.945-07:00Comments on Jai Duval's Continuing Education: Marriage, Marriage Vows and Marriage Behaviorjduvalserieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04006591542746964588noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post-78879104954298502052010-12-14T14:20:10.346-08:002010-12-14T14:20:10.346-08:00I don't know what these women are doing to the...I don't know what these women are doing to these guys. First women and men need to do one very important thing. Stop making the past your future. Learn to be honest. Stop lying to your mate. If she cheated on him, what should have happened was THE TALK. Tell him your not feeling the relationship. How can you have 2 at once unless all parties agree. <br /><br />Lying, greed, and low morals are turning our relationships upside down. One of the worse things you can do to another human being is give him/her a false sense of happiness, of being content with another. It's like walking on a cliff and the person you trust pushes you over the side. So technically it's like a mental/spiritual murder that the other commits. What you have to do is be smart, careful and watch out for signs. But don't have bitter/hate in the mix because it will become your future, who wants that to be there all the time? <br /><br />When my guy comes home (not everyday but 2 or 3 times a week) he walks in and says "man I am glad to be home". You know why? Because I try to keep the nagging down to things I really can't do myself. I cook, yes I said it. I cook about 5 days a week and bring him his plate. Yes I said it. And guess what he does when he comes home? What ever he wants and I do the same. I suppose some women would say that I am acting like an old fashioned women out of the 50's or something. Well what the heck is wrong with that? I am very intelligent person. I am an analyst at work and a woman at home. I can do double duty. So you women need to put that apron on, smile have a good conversation with your guy then leave him alone and you I hope have something to do to when you want to relax. <br /> <br />First and foremost you need to find someone who has the same basic morals as you do then go from there. And if you do find someone and you 2 get along really well, cherish it and nurture it.Breezyzenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post-3114312893043645322010-11-28T03:33:51.911-08:002010-11-28T03:33:51.911-08:00Wow... My divorce was just finailzed last month a...Wow... My divorce was just finailzed last month and I have to say I was one of those men that married thinking I was going to make the relationship better. It did not get better, it got worse. Interestingly enough, she was the one that cheated with an old boyfriend and when she got caught claimed that she could not get him out of her life. We dated for a year before getting married and I was so caught up in pleasing her that I did not realize initially that I was making myself miserable in doing so. I was always told that no sacrifice is too great to please a woman. Well, I fell for that one but fortunately there aren't any children or alimony so I can freely move on without complications, emotional or financial ties. I have many male friends that complain about their relationships and I will certainly refer them to this one and others before they make the mistake that I did. God bless you and your messages.Chadnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post-7649077862388948472010-11-24T16:44:10.352-08:002010-11-24T16:44:10.352-08:00Mrs Jamison thanks for taking the time to comment....Mrs Jamison thanks for taking the time to comment. First let me say I am not a marriage counselor or marriage expert. I am a "How To Not Waste Your Time and Money By Making Foolish Emotional Decisions In An Attempt To Help Or Make Someone Else Happy" counselor because I've been there and done it. Fortunately, for me, I did not go down in flames like so many others and just experienced 1st degree burns (lol). <br /><br />I would really like clarity on exactly what I placed here that is stupid so that I can intelligently respond or apologize PUBLICALLY for displaying such stupidity.jduvalserieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04006591542746964588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post-8521270867496596342010-11-24T10:12:18.377-08:002010-11-24T10:12:18.377-08:00So you think that you are a marriage counselor. T...So you think that you are a marriage counselor. This advice you are giving people is stupid in my opinion. It sounds like you have been hurt pretty badly and you have serious issue when it comes marriage. Are you divorce or single and miserable? People don't need instructions for marriage. They simply need to pray and leave the marriage in the hands of God because though him all things are possible. It sounds like you don't have a personal relationship with Jesus or you would not be writing any of these things you have written. I will pray for your sins and salvation.Mrs. Jamisonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post-19003360497227157552010-11-24T09:57:16.824-08:002010-11-24T09:57:16.824-08:00I was told by a girlfriend of mine that you hate a...I was told by a girlfriend of mine that you hate all women and you express your hatred through your blogs. I have read this blog and some of your other blogs and I see nothing indicating that you hate all women. I do see that you have a fond dislike for certain types of behavior from women and to me that is simply a personal choice. I am divorced and I can honestly admit that I made a poor choice in a husband. I can also say, since I am anonymous, that I knew before I got married that he was not for me and I felt that his behavior would change after we married which it didn't. We were married for 18 months divorced afterwards. After reading this blog and others, I can honestly say that I have to stop blaming him for the divorce and look at myself and the choice that I made. I am now dating one of those guys you say we pass over trying to get to the one we should not want and surprisingly I am now a very happy and loving woman. I will definitely share your blog site with my other friends. Keep up the good work Mr. Duval.Adriananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post-83116527901837040692010-11-24T09:25:14.525-08:002010-11-24T09:25:14.525-08:00J this is great advice... they naysayers should be...J this is great advice... they naysayers should be referred to divorce rate statistics. Relationships, marriage or otherwise are indeed not designed to bring happiness... happiness must be brought into them by both parties and the synergy created by the combined happiness is what the real "fairytale" of marriage is all about. It's like they say at those exotic couples retreat desination where estranged couples go to recapture their past love..."if they didn't bring it here with them on the plane, they won't find it here"nicholasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268883243845373514.post-16738054598858534502010-11-24T06:18:25.370-08:002010-11-24T06:18:25.370-08:00This is incredible. Mr. Duval where were you 2 ye...This is incredible. Mr. Duval where were you 2 years ago when I got married. I read some of your other blogs and I can see why some don't like you. As you have stated, they don't want to handle the truth about their situation. If I had seen this blog I would have surely given second thought to rushing into marriage and probably would not have gotten married. By the way, I am now divorce and in court fighting for custody of our child and the bill still has not been completely paid for the huge wedding and cruise expenses. I will surely pass this blog on to my single friends that are considering marriage. Thanks for the information.Jamesnoreply@blogger.com