My Momma Didn't Raise No Fools

Ever hear someone say, "My Momma Didn't Raise No Fools". Well, hold on because if YOU have ever said or thought that, this may apply to you, your children or somone you know so CHECK YOURSELF before going public with a statement like that. I believe, "If you refuse to RESPONSIBLY plan and guide your child's life or your momma did not RESPONSIBLY plan and guide your life then they (or you) just may have raised A FOOL".

Society, in general, has deemed it a requirement for males to be responsible and accountable in all areas of their lives whether males comply with that requirement or not. Society, in general, has deemed it an option for females to be responsible and accountable in areas of their choosing as well as given an option to pass certain responsibilities and accountabilities on to the male if she chooses do so. Sadly enough many males have also contributed to this irresponsible and unaccountable behavior by many (not all) females.

How about we stop using society as the excuse for being responsible and blame the sperm donor and incubator for being IRRESPONSIBLE and NEGLECTFUL?

RAISING CHILDREN (Many Parents Will Not Like This)

Many (not all) parents fail to IMPOSE responsibility on their children as it applies to personal and co-operative responsibilities in the household. This is one of the MAJOR reasons why there are so many irresponsible and inconsiderated adults today. I chose the word impose because it's a word that conveys responsibility being a REQUIREMENT and not an OPTION. There are 6 areas that should be a REQUIREMENT on children as they are developing in the home: 1) Education, 2) Self-Discipline, 3) Financial Management, 4) Household Duties, 5) Respecting Others and 6) Accountability.

**Important** - Self-Discipline, as applied to the parents, INCLUDE not having more children than you can afford to spend money on to support AND spend time with to develop. This applies to a one and/or two parent home. IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD EM, DON'T HAVE EM. Get yourself a pet or a talking baby doll and save everyone else the trouble of having to support and/or raise YOUR child(ren).

ADULTHOOD

Failure to apply the above requirements to children will, in most cases, produce irresponsible and inconsiderate male and female adults with no expectations of accountability for their irresponsible and inconsiderate actions. Life to them is simply DO MY THING NOW and let someone else deal with the consequences later.

These actions DO NOT reflect neglect on ALL parents who's children end up this way. There are many parents that "don't know about" or "don't know how to apply" those above requirements because THEIR parents did not do or did not know so the cycle continues to repeat itself as they pro-create. That does not excuse ALL parents because there are some SPERM DONERS (males) or INCUBATERS (females) that truly DON'T GIVE A SHYT about anything or anyone else and nothing can be done about those types EXCEPT PRAY that they don't pro-create or keep pro-creation to an absolute minimum. There will also be a percentage of parents who WILL provide responsible direction and the child(ren) will still end up irresponsible and inconsiderate. I typically will place their situations in the SHIT HAPPENS file.

ADULT INTERACTIONS

There are 3 levels of interaction: 1) Personal, 2) Professional and 3) Social levels. All of these levels are considered relationships and are very important in our overall development with other male and female individuals. The majority of most adults INABILITY to fairly and sensibly interact with each other at those levels will typically be due to the NEGLECT or POOR PARENTING they received as a child.

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

Here is where I go out on a limb, "There are very few BAD monogamous marital and non-marital personal relationships". I know what your response to that one is, "Bullshit, you needed to spend time with me in my last relationship before you made that stupid statement". Well, if you had not been so emotional and interrupted me you would have respectfully allowed me to complete my other sentence which I will do now (thank you). "There a many BAD choices that we make for those relationships".

I personally believe that UNTIL one gets to the point where there is NO physical stimulation or sexual desires that maturity, multiple dating experiences and physical attraction should be the 3 primary requirements in selecting a mate for a monogamous relationship.

This paragraph, which is one of many examples, describes FOOLISH behavior as a result of the neglect or poor parenting guidance as a male and female child. UNFORTUNATELY, due to the behavior of many low self-esteem, desperate, lonely and foolish males, we have to include a 4th requirement for most (not all) females which is financial wealth to upgrade HER lifestyle. In many cases, for many females, financial wealth can be a replacement for physical attraction since the true attraction is to HER lifestyle upgrade and not HIS physical appearance so she will SETTLE for the average, wealthy male until she can upgrade to an attractive, wealthy male or an attractive male with a HUGE personality and knows how to use it to make her submit to him. The female will sometimes attempt to keep the "CASH COW" and the "STUD" to fulfill her fantasy of having that COMPLETE relationship.

CONCLUSION

If you are seeking a monogamous relationship SPEND MAXIMUM TIME WITH and MINIMAL FINANCES ON that person while getting to know him/her. Impress them by simply being your day-to-day self. THERE ARE still SENSIBLE people out there so take your time and choose wisely or YOU may end up with some momma's FOOL.

If you are seeking a booty call then WISELY SPEND MINIMAL TIME WITH and MAXIMUM "AFFORDABLE" FINANCES ON that person, PROTECT YOURSELF as you hit it and move on until the next time.

If you CHOOSE to IGNORE all that is written above, then just maybe YO MOMMA DID RAISE A FOOL.

If You "INVITE" Me You Pay, If You "INFORM" Me I Pay

I sometimes like to begin with definitions in an attempt to minimize or eliminate immature mind games, confusion and/or ASSumptions thus improving the chances of having a mature, intelligent and common sense discussion. If we are going to use words or expressions, let's be clear in the beginning, as to what it means.

Definition of Invite: A request (spoken or written) to be present or take part in something (Ex: "Hey, I am inviting you to come with me and see my friend perform tonight at the concert").

Definition of Inform: To give or provide (spoken or written) information to be present or take part in something (Ex: "Hey, I am letting you know that I am going to see my friend perform tonight at the concert").

I'm sure we are all familiar with the phrase, "Whoever Invite Should Pay", right? Well, my question is, "Should that be ONLY reserved for dating"? By the way, dating nowadays applies to opposite and same sex individuals.

Here's a broader question. Should whoever invite for anything pay? My reason for broadening the question is due to the numerous INVITES I receive to attend some sort of gathering or event. I would like to propose that IF YOU are going to INVITE someone as opposed to INFORM someone of a gathering or event then there should be NO COST REQUIRED to the invitee.

Here are a few examples:

- There is a sporting event (Basketball, Football, etc.) occurring and someone extends an INVITE to come out and enjoy at a place of business,

- Someone is having a personal event (anniversary celebration, birthday party, wedding afterparty, DIVORCE party) and extends an INVITE to come out and celebrate at a place of business,

- Someone is promoting a social event and extends an INVITE to come out and enjoy at a place of business.

Invite, Invite, Invite and did I mention that somewhere in that INVITE there is going to be an admission charge that YOU have to pay? Why shouldn't "Whoever Invite Pay" apply in this instance? Don't give me that, "It's different than dating" lame excuse because in most cases it's the same for most people. I've even heard of instances where the person that extended the invite was a no show so what's up with that? Should they be required to provide a refund IF you pay and enter the event based upon THEIR invite and they don't show?

My issue is not the cost because I believe in personal, financial responsibility unlike many others so I will pay if I want to attend an event IF that's a requirement. My issue is the INVITE and the ASSumption that "Whoever Invites Pays" (whether they show up or not) which IS NOT the case in these kind of social event situations.

I guess I've just gotten to the point of "Put Your Money Where Your Invite Is" or "Stop Communicating That You Are Inviting Someone and Just Inform Them". In my opinion, people usually do that because they are accustomed to behaving in that manner in their past and/or just don't know any better. Can people change their way of thinking? Sure they can. Will they? That is yet to be seen but I believe that most of them won't.

Hopefully this blog will encourage those that have misused or confused the intent of the words INVITE and INFORM to clarify and properly apply them when communicating to others. Am I going to hold my breath and wait for the CHANGE to occur with others? Of course not. I enjoy living too much to hold my breath and die for someone's refusal to apply common sense (lol).

As always, your comments are welcomed.

ELIMINATE THAT WASTE - A Cleansing Is Good For The Mind, Body and Spirit

I perform this twice a year and it's made a HUGE difference in my life. WE are all human and therefore subject to making poor choices in people and activities throughout our lifetime. I'm sure that we all would like to not make those poor choices in our lives but realistically we do. The key is REFUSING to ELIMINATE those poor choices after we recognize them or NOT REPEATING those same poor choices again.

I started doing this years ago at the beginning of December of each year such that I remove the NEGATIVE people and activities out of my life. Once I started I realized that I needed to also perform an END OF SUMMER CLEARANCE for all the waste I accumulated during the first part of the year and through the summer so now I do this twice a year. You'd be surprised just how much time and expenses you will NO LONGER WASTE and have for yourself to do more productive things or SIMPLY LET YOUR BODY and MIND rest and regenerate. If you don't try it, then continue to OVERDOSE on energy pills and STRESS.

FAMILY (my definitions) are those that are caring, loving and bring joy, positive support, information that can improve your life, peace-of-mind, safety, respect and honest criticism with intentions of helping you. That is usually associated with family behavior but ANYONE can provide that regardless if there is a "blood connection (i.e., family)" or not.

Speaking for myself, I have more people OUTSIDE of that traditional "blood connection" that I consider FAMILY based upon THEIR behavior (in general and especially towards me and other blood connections) than I do with those INSIDE of that traditional "blood connection". Those inside of that "blood connection" that behave in that INCONSIDERATE and NEGATIVE manner I simply consider them to be BLOOD RELATIVES, minimize or avoid contact with them completely (whenever possible) not consider them to be FAMILY RELATIVES.

FOR MANY, elimination of that BLOOD RELATIVE waste is a very difficult and emotional thing to do. Well, think about this. IF they were behaving and treating YOU like family is supposed to be then ELIMINATION would not be necessary. Why don't they do it? Well, two reasons come to mind although there may be others:

1. They are MENTALLY and/or PHYSICALLY HANDICAPPED and incapable of behaving in a caring and loving manner (this behavior is excuseable).
2. They just DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOU (this behavior is totally unexcuseable as far as I'm concerned).

Very few (if any) of us have the ability to CHANGE or CONTROL the behavior of others. Nowadays, unfortunately, the most common forms of behavior is:

- IRRESPONSIBLE Partying,
- PRETENDING to be all that you aren't,
- OVER EATING with very little exercise,
- Impulsively and Foolishly OVER SPENDING,
- Trying to get someone to spend THEIR money on them,
- TAKING or ATTEMPTING TO TAKE advantage of others
- TALKING about things they CLAIM they gonna do (but don't),
- CHASING poon (I said "chasing" not "getting"),
- TALKING or LYING about what poon they got years ago (no recent conquests),
- LYING to each other about things they CLAIM to have done (but didn't),
- UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS of someone else bailing them out of BAD situations that they SELFISHLY and IRRESPONSIBLY got themselves into.

Will ANY of that behavior be replaced or complimented with productive behavior? Unfortunately, for MOST of them the answer is NO. Fortunately, for a VERY FEW of them the answer is YES.

My advice? ELIMINATE THAT WASTE and align yourselves with sensible, responsible, CONSIDERATE, respectable, productive and POSITIVE people. AVOID those NEGATIVE people as often as possible even if they reside within YOUR "so-called" family because eventually they will cause you discomforts and maybe even financial problems.

There are enough DECENT family and non-family people out there such that you don't need the negative. If you are caught up with those NEGATIVE people (blood and non-blood types), I suggest that you re-think your position, re-think your life and do what I do which is ELIMINATE THAT WASTE.

ON THE OTHER HAND, if you choose to NOT eliminate that waste you certainly have that choice to do so and live with it but PLEASE DO NOT come to us and complain about it during or afterwards.

Don't Hate The Player, Learn The Game

THEY KNOW he's a player and they LET HIM play so why not?? There are plenty of DUMB and GULLIBLE SHEEP out there ready to WILLINGLY follow him and financially support HIS GAME.

Are ALL pastors "con artists" or "wolf's in sheeps clothing"? Of course not but those that can are waiting for AND definitely will answer the call of OPPORTUNITY to get into THE GAME.

Excerpt from my book "The Good Man's Survival Guide - How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer" (2005). These types are no different than the other religious HYPOCRITES that knowingly violate their teachings KNOWING that all they have to do is claim weakness and ask for forgiveness. It's an OLD RELIGIOUS GAME that typically NEVER fails be they in the pulpit or in the congregation.

- PULPIT PIMP (The President of the Players Klub; the Top Dog) - He has the best game in the Klub. He uses religion as his game of choice and will seek women that have no man in their life. He realizes that most of those women will be more loyal to him than to their own man. Women are addicted to his social and financial status and are literally standing in line waiting for their chance to allow him lay hands and whatever else he wants on them to bless them and spiritually comfort them. He typically will have an ATTRACTIVE WIFE THAT KNOWS ABOUT HIS GAME but is not giving up the material perks, ego stroke and envy from other women so she accepts his behavior. Some of them will COMPENSATE YOUNG BOYS to receive sexual pleasure.

- He receives regular sacrificial offerings of TITS and ASS on the side. He’s the only member that gets the quick cash and spanks that ass without effort. His behavior is not considered criminal and if he is caught he knows that all he has to do is CLAIM that he is just a man, ask for forgiveness and it shall be done. He is the smoothest operator in the Klub and even the Player’s game is not as tight as his game.

These players weren't the first and they definitely won't be the last. Look at the benefits:

- SEX (Definitely all that you can handle),
- FANS (Oops, I guess I should play the game and use the politically correct term "worshippers") that are so DESPERATE to belong to something they will accept his behavior,
- MONEY (Especially from women and also from their husbands/boyfriends if he knows what's good for him),
- EXPENSIVE HOME and a LAVISH LIFESTYLE, (at the expense of the egotistically well-to-do, barely surviving and poor members of his congregation),
- ATTRACTIVE WIFE (if he has good taste) that, in most cases, won't leave him because she wants that money, envy from other women and lifestyle upgrade. She typically is simply the TROPHY wife and does not provide wife-like servies on a consistent basis (i.e., cooking, cleaning, sexing him to his satisfaction, etc.), and finally
- FORGIVENESS for his LIES and SINS by simply asking for it and is expected to receive a FIRST CLASS TICKET TO HEAVEN.

Now what PLAYER (oops, I mean man) in his right mind is going to walk away from an opportunity like that if they get the chance to do so?
For you DESPERATE and FOOLISH souls out there, "May God bless you and the PULPIT PIMP keep you emotionally high while you are FINANCING his HEAVEN here on earth" since you refuse to give him up and THINK FOR YOURSELVES.

FINALLY: I must say that IF following those PIMPS keeps you from doing physical, mental or financial harm to ANYONE ELSE in anyway possible then by all means NEVER leave them. IF that's the case then they are doing a wonderful COMMUNITY service.