FANTASY "Weddings" Are POSSIBLE but FANTASY "Marriages" Are IMPOSSIBLE For Most Couples

Fantasy Weddings Are POSSIBLE to obtain but Fantasy Marriages Are IMPOSSIBLE to sustain....

Come on ladies, isn't HALF of a fairytale far better than YOU having no fairytale at all? Why in the world would you want to have a simple wedding? That's no fun. A SIMPLE WEDDING is nothing to brag about and show off to your girlfriends and family, right? After all, the wedding ISN'T about longevity in your marriage, it's all about YOU, YOUR EGO and the moment REGARDLESS of it's consequences to the marriage afterwards, right?

Huh, you can ALWAYS get married again which you probably will do anyway after your first marriage for all the WRONG reasons to a man that was PRESSURED or FACED WITH AN ULTIMATUM to get married OR end the relationship. That HUGE wedding ceremony was all about YOU and your FIRST DIVORCE will probably be BLAMED ON HIM.

AFTER you've gone through the SELFISH fantasy, you can have a SIMPLE wedding and marry for the RIGHT reasons the second time around that will have a better chance of lasting.

If the second time around DOES NOT work as well, then go to the PET STORE and purchase YOUR lifelong companion that YOU can CONTROL and have your way with (LOL).

I typically will place some definitions before getting started to hopefully minimize ASSumptions and SENSELESS COMMENTS from those IDIOTS and MORONS out there who REFUSE to apply COMMON SENSE and are simply looking to start a SENSELESS argument. You can never really eliminate all stupid comments from them. You can only attempt to minimize their number of senseless comments.

DEFINITIONS:

Fantasy - The faculty or activity of imagining things that are impossible or improbable. If that fantasy is acheived, in most cases, it can ONLY be sustained for a limited period of time.

Wedding - The ceremony or process in which two individuals are united in marriage.

Marriage - The legal union of two individuals.

Let me begin by stating that I have long since STOPPED buying people wedding gifts. Hell, any two fools, idiots or morons can have a wedding and be married. After I decided to stop wasting my money on wedding gifts, due to the numbers of marriages that expired even BEFORE the warranty expired on my gift, I decided to start a NEW tradition for these newly weds. The tradition is simply this, "You Get Married and I Give You a 5 Year Anniversary Redeemable Certificate". This simply means that if you break up within 5 years I will have saved myself money (LOL).

FANTASY WEDDINGS ARE POSSIBLE - For the majority of the average, everyday people that wedding can bear a heavy price, IF NOT PLANNED MATURELY, in the form of "Pre-Wedding Preparation Stress" as well as "Pre & Post-Wedding Financial Stress" and/or "Post-Wedding Regrets". Usually the pre-wedding preparation stress begins to subside at the beginning of the wedding and after a SEXUALLY satisfying honeymoon.

FANTASY MARRIAGES ARE IMPOSSIBLE - For the majority of the average, everyday people their marriage was or will be based upon pressure, desperation, lies, entrapment, DENIAL or deceit. For more detail, go to my February 4, 2010 posting of "Marriage and the 3D's - Deceit, Desperation and Denial" if YOU aren't in denial or afraid to see the TRUTH about what your marital relationship might be like (LOL).

The thought of or an attempt at a FANTASY wedding and marriage will never go away because most people need a reason to be happy and satisfied with themselves due to their personal laziness, insecurities or shallowness which is PERFECT for ECONOMIC STIMULATION, DIVORCE COURTS and DIVORCE ATTORNEYS (LOL).

CONCLUSION

If you are to have or attempt to have that FANTASY wedding and marriage, make it based upon YOU and YOUR MATE'S obtainable and EASILY sustainable REALITY and not SOMEONE else's PAINFUL and SHORT-LIVED FANTASY.

FOR THE WEDDING GOERS keep in mind my traditional "5 Year Anniversary Redeemable Certificate" whether you choose to do it or not. If they have prepared themselves MATURELY, they should not be EXPECTING and ABUNDANCE of gifts anyway but rather an ABUNDANCE of family and friends in attendance and with nothing but smiles, positive attitudes and well wishes for the newlyweds.

Females Have The PowerTo Make a MAJOR Change but Will They?

DISCLAIMER: I find myself having to do this quite often in my blogs, emails or discussions for the IDIOTS out there. Here I go, "This DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL FEMALES, OK? Unless I state ALL FEMALES or unless this applies to YOUR thinking and/or behavior then don't ASSume such or take it personal".

Females can practically DICTATE the behavior of most males IN A POSITIVE WAY with very little effort. Why don't they? Well, let me begin with SELFISHNESS, GREED, IRRESPONSIBLE, LAZY and INAPPROPRIATE behavior that she's ALLOWED to get away with because MOST males are MENTALLY WEAKER when it comes to interacting with females they are attracted to and will FOOLISHLY ACCEPT or MAKE EXCUSES for her inappropriate behavior or bad attitude.

FEMALES CONTROL CHILD BIRTH not males. Females are NOT IGNORANT of the potential consequences of willingly choosing the wrong man because this is no hidden secret and is publicized far too often in the media. Females CLAIM to be INTELLIGENT and STRONG yet want SYMPATHY and SUPPORT after making those KNOWN poor choices in men.

MOST OF THEM don't and will never care about you. They care about:

- what SERVICES they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM
- what FINANCES they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM
- what INFORMATION they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM

FEMALES are in TOTAL CONTROL of their behavior:

- They control whether or not to AVOID decent, good men
- They control whether or not to PAY THEIR OWN WAY while with you
- They control whether or not to LISTEN to the bullshit that comes out of a man's mouth
- They control whether or not to spend time with Players and Bad Boys depending upon their priorities
- They control whether or not to GET INTO a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
- They control whether or not to REMAIN in a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
- They control whether to lay down, open their legs and ALLOW these PLAYERS and BAD BOYS to ejaculated into them
- They control whether or not to conceive
- They control whether or not to get pregnant
- They control whether or not to LIE about who the biological father is

If females want to improve their PERSONAL situations and relationships between males and females in general then they need to change THEIR value system, thoughts and behaviors because THEY HAVE THE POWER to do so.

Let me explain:

Females, beginning at a very young age, can determine the behavior of MOST SANE males they come in contact with by the behavior they ACCEPT or REQUIRE from males. HER criteria, priorities and choices, which primarily comes from her parent or parents as well as other relatives, friends and media, will dictate the types of males she accepts that comes in contact with her.

Here are, as a MINIMUM, my suggestions of what FEMALES can EASILY do:

- STOP EXPECTING or REQUIRING the FANTASY dress-to-impress, nice home, high income mate career, fine dining at expensive restaurants (that he pays for), smother you with attention, spend lots of money on you, take you on vacations (that he pays for) relationship SALES PITCH because they are usually TEMPORARY or just a bunch of BULLSH^T LIES,

- APPROACH WHAT APPEARS TO BE DECENT MALES in an attempt to get to know them,

- DO NOT get personally involved with MARRIED men or men that CLAIM to be SEPARATED from their wives,

- BEHAVE in a RESPONSIBLE and MATURE manner and accept NOTHING LESS from males,

- ALLOW herself to be more open and SOCIALLY approachable for more than just what you can get male(s) to give you or do for you,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate using clear and proper English but rather ENCOURAGE him to improve his verbal communication skills,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate in a mature and intelligent manner but rather ENCOURAGE him to communicate in a more mature and intelligent manner,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if education is not a HIGH priority in his life but rather ENCOURAGE him to make education a high priority in his life,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he is making less money than you but rather RESPECT him for earning an HONEST living and work together with him,

- NOT STRESS HIM to make more money to satisfy YOUR UNNECESSARY but SELFISH DESIRES but rather CHANGE YOUR PRIORITIES, ADJUST YOUR LIFESTYLE and LIVE WITHIN YOUR FINANCIAL MEANS to make things easier for the both of you,

- NOT IGNORE him if he displays NO RESPECT for the elderly or the community but rather ENCOURAGE him to be more respectful,

- NOT IGNORE IT if he thinks dropping him pants BELOW his butt and having a HARD ATTITUDE is attractive and impressive to you but rather REQUIRE him to pull his pants up and get a better attitude if he expects to gain your acceptance of him,

- NOT IGNORE IT if he cannot communicate to you WITHOUT using profanity but rather REQUIRE him to not speak in that manner when in your company and ENCOURAGE him to cease communicating in that manner period,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks spending HIS MONEY on you makes him a man,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he REFUSES to attempt to resolve issues or conflicts in a NON-VIOLENT manner,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks INITIATING VIOLENCE towards males or females makes him a man,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks being LOUD and RUDE is normal behavior,

- NOT MATERIALISTICALLY motivated so do not INSULT you by trying to impress you with material things,

- NOT FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT on him and DEMAND that you PAY YOUR OWN WAY when spending time getting to know each other,

- DO NOT WHORE your time nor your body so do not ATTEMPT TO BUY either by spending money on you (NOTE: if she is a minor HER PARENTS should be providing money to her if she's going out on dates),

- WILL NOT engage in UNPROTECTED sex,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) until AFTER i have 1) been in a CONSISTENTLY healthy, non-marital relationship, 2) gotten married because of that healthy relationship, 3) have spent at least a year together in a healthy marriage and 4) have PLANNED and AGREED to MUTUALLY providing time, resources and finances in the raising of OUR child(ren),

- WILL NOT have child(ren) until AFTER i have completed my education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF him has not completed HIS education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF he has multiple children by multiple women and was not married to them,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF he already has child(ren) that he does not care for,

- WILL NOT have children UNLESS i am in a consistently healthy relationship with a man that wants to have children and WILL provide time, resources and finances towards the care of those children or UNLESS i can SOLELY provide the necessary TIME, RESOURCES and FINANCES to care for however many children i CHOOSE to have.

The majority (i will say about 85 percent minimum) of what MOST males do is in an attempt to get the attention, favor or acceptance from the female. Males, IN GENERAL, have been socialized to be the salesmen. They typically will do the knocking on the female's door (i.e., approach her, initiate contact) and attempt to sell her his goods (i.e., himself).

Now depending on what HER priorities are and what she is looking for, she will OPEN THE DOOR OF OPPORTUNITY for him to enter be he an average guy, a criminal, a hustler, a player, a thug, a baller, a wealthy man, an entertainer, an athlete, a MARRIED man, etc. (yea i said married man because there are MANY females that DO NOT RESPECT that GOD SANCTIONED institution of marriage).

So with that said let me conclude with, "Females, YOU GOT THE POWER to CHANGE the mentality and behavior of males WITHIN one generation if YOU change your ATTITUDE and BEHAVIOR immediately".

I am a man, a sensible and decent man, so I am telling you that you can invoke MAJOR CHANGE in how MOST males are today. Look at the potential benefits to SOCIETY in general and YOU in particular by changing and adopting what I have stated above:

- a HUGE DECREASE in divorces

- a HUGE DECREASE in unwanted child births

- a HUGE DECREASE in childhood delinquency

- a HUGE DECREASE in domestic violence and deaths in relationships

- a HUGE DECREASE in stress that contributes to mental and physical health issues

- a HUGH INCREASE in your chances of make a better choice in males and having that happy, healthy relationship


NOTHING that I have stated above requires MONEY or EXTREME EFFORT. All it requires is MINIMAL EFFORT and the RIGHT ATTITUDE.

Do I believe the majority of females will AGREE with this blog? Absolutely not.

Then what is my point? Simple. I simply want to PROVE that the MAJORITY of females are SELFISH LIARS when speaking about:

- How they want a MUTUALLY LOVING, HEALTHY and LONG-LASTING relationship,

- How they play no part in becoming VICTIMS of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,

- How they are SO CONCERNED about a child's future and well-being,

- Their claims of there are not being enough GOOD MEN available.


With all of that said, "Go ahead, take your best shots at me and let the chips fall where they may". I welcome ALL comments be it from MEN, WOMEN, PLAYERS, WANNA-BE PLAYERS or SKEEZERS.

Peace and much enlightenment to us all.

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RULE #2: GO FIND YOURSELF SOME BALLS, ANY BALLS!!!!!

Knowledge is the key to success when attempting to engage in interaction with females. Now knowledge is no good if you don’t have the FUNCTIONING balls to use it.

Yea, I know we all carry a pair but for many of YOU (not me), you might as well DONATE them to the scientific community for research and strap on a pair that was designed by a MAN to benefit a man and not designed by a Skeezer to SERVE a Skeezer. Before you attempt to use any of my rules, I suggest that you print this coupon and redeem it at any CERTIFIED testicle transplant clinic.

For some unexplained reason there exists a large group of males that seem to fear the thought of not having a female in their company on a regular basis. Therefore they will do anything to get their attention and make them happy which includes, but not limited to, giving up whatever dignity and possessions he has.

I am sure that MANY of those emasculated males in those unhappy, miserable, domineering and BALL BUSTING relationships were counseled by other EMASCULATED males to REMAIN in those relationships (after all, emasculated males need the company of other emasculate male to relate to, right?) or those emasculated males were counseled by other females who themselves have EMASCULATED their man (or men).

Far too many males have lost the fortitude to apply these rules to a female that he’s attracted to because he has lost his balls or have had them removed. He also fears speaking openly and honestly about what he’s thinking or feeling regarding her or any female if he thinks it will upset her. He also will not speak about a subject he thinks she may not like without the fear of rejection or confrontation with her (i.e. no backbone). Knowledge is what I am attempting to give you but balls are what you have to acquire on your own if you’ve lost yours, had them disconnected or removed by some selfish, controlling, inconsiderate female.

Response:

Go and find yourself some balls and I mean any balls be it monkey balls, elephant balls, baseballs, meat balls, golf balls, tennis balls, ball bearings, etc. and have them attached to your backbone. At this point it really doesn’t matter what type of balls or where they come from as long as you have some until you can grow yours back.

Reason:

THERE ARE LOVING, CARING AND THOUGHTFUL WOMEN that exist that's seeking a mature, mutually respectful and rewarding relationship and won't de-value, emasculate or even attempt to emasculate YOU. There is no sensible reason why you should remain in an unhappy relationship UNLESS you know you CAN'T DO any better than what you are in now.

Balls are the source of power for your backbone and directly control your ability to stand upright to females and hold your ground. Having balls attached, of any kind, will allow your backbone to function in its natural manner so you will not tolerate any females’ nasty or selfish attitude, have no fear of expressing your own thoughts to her as well as saying NO to a female without fear of being rejected and especially by the females that you are attracted to.

You can acquire all the freedom, riches and respect that you are capable of but it’s your balls that will be the key to keeping what you have acquired when it comes to engaging with females. If you don’t have balls, chances are that you will foolishly and freely give up that which you have sacrificed and worked for to the next female you will be attracted to because you have NO BALLS.