I just happened to be browsing the net and came across this page titled, "10 Ways To Commit Relationship Suicide". I thought to myself, "What a Great Concept" and figured I would put a J Duval spin on it.
Bottom line, you are FRUSTRATED, you WANT OUT but you are afraid to or just DON'T KNOW HOW to do it. These 10 ways is no guarantee that she will leave but simply increases HER frustration level to a point of her possibly leaving. Although these ways are numbered, they do not represent any order of importance or effectiveness although I am certain that #1 and #10 will DEFINITELY increase the chance of her leaving you more than the others.
Well, due to the recent relationship related murders and suicides I decided to change the title and modify it's contents in a manner that is geared toward those frustrated, unsatisfied males that are paying to be in UNFULFILLING and many times UNSAFE relationships and are being MURDERED financially, psychologically and physically.
These methods should be applied by any male that is NOT MARRIED. If you are MARRIED, I cannot help you. You FOOLISHLY got yourself into that MESS and you will have to get yourself out of it without my suggestions.
WARNING: Apply these methods below AT YOUR OWN RISK. I will not be held responsible for the results that may occur due to your actions or her response to your actions. My personal opinion is that you should have made a better choice in a female to begin with.
10 WAYS TO GET HER TO BREAKUP WITH YOU
1. IGNORE HER. Most females are attention whores and cannot stand to be ignored. This is by far one of the best, non-violent methods because no attention is one of the worst tortures that most females can be put through. They NEED TO vent their SELF-INFLICTED frustrations, NEED TO GOSSIP about other people and NEED TO be catered to in order to SANELY exist. Want her out of your life, just ignore her. Caution: This method could possibly backfire on you since most of them may NOT have any other place to go since they are lazy and living off of you and will GO CRAZY ON YOU as opposed to GO AWAY FROM YOU.
2. DESCRIBE A NOT-SO-LAVISH FUTURE TO HER. Females love to fantasize about being Cinderella with her Prince Charming catering to her every desire. Now this will be effective in getting her to leave ONLY if she isn't already doing this for you. Tell her you want her to start cooking for you, washing your clothes (not taking them to the dry cleaners) and cleaning your place (if the two of you don't live together) on a weelkly basis. Tell her (if you aren't already doing this) you and your boys will be going to the strip club (or just out with your boys if there is no strip club) at least once a week.
3. STARE AT YOUNGER, ATTRACTIVE FEMALES WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER. Don't just take a quick peek like many females do. If you see a younger, attractive female nearby, trust me when I say she has already seen her, take a good long look at her and use the ELEVATOR EYES METHOD which means run your eyes up and down her frame. She is just waiting for the opportunity to catch you staring at her so give her the opportunity to do so. If she makes a comment to you about your staring just look at her with a smile and say, "DON'T FEEL SO INTIMIDATED BY HER YOUTH AND BEAUTY HONEY. YOU STILL LOOK GOOD FOR YOUR AGE".
4. CAUSE NIGHTLY RUCKUS. No matter how patient or understanding she may be, you’ll be able to wear their patience thin if they’re exhausted. Females tend to want you to agree with them most of the time so simply disagree with her or don't do something that she wants you to do that she feels is important.
5. DESCRIBE YOUR TYPE. Describe the physical features and personality qualities of your ideal mate to your partner. Make it very clear, without actually saying it, that non of the characteristics you list are a part of her persona.
6. DON'T REPLACE THE EMPTINESS. The empty toilet paper roll, the empty shampoo bottle, the empty milk carton, etc. should remain empty after you’ve used them.
7. FORGETFULNESS. If she does not bring it up (which most of them won't just to see if you will remember), DO NOT acknowledge her birthday, your anniversaries or any other special occasions that has occurred between the two of you. If she questions you, simply say you forgot.
8. TALK ABOUT YOUR DISAPPOINTING RELATIONSHIP TO HER FRIENDS. Make sure that when the two of you are in a group setting you talk discretely about how bad you think your relationship is to her female friends. Females constantly gossip and eventually one of them will tell her what you said. All you need to say are the words, "I AM NOT HAPPY ANYMORE". This is what females usually say when they have another prospect and are thinking DUMPING YOU so this should worry her enough to DUMP YOU FIRST. That prospect is usually an ex, a player or an ex that is a player that's trying to get a piece of ass so he's telling her all of the lies he has to in order to get in.
9. GO AWAY FOR THE WEEKEND WITHOUT HER. Most females are very controlling and nosy. This should be done AFTER you have executed number 8. Put some distance between the two of you for a weekend and don't contact her during that time. If she asks where you are going simply tell her you are going to visit a buddy of yours. If she wants to know who that is or exactly where you will be going then simply say to her, "I will not be questioned or watched over like some child. Don't you trust me? Where there is no trust, there is no relationship". IN MOST CASES, she does not care about you, she is AGAIN just being controlling and nosy.
10. TELL HER THE TRUTH AND STOP SPENDING YOUR MONEY ON HER. If all else fails, stop spending your money on her and simply tell her what you couldn't say in the beginning in order to be accepted by her which was the TRUTH. We know that most males have to spend his money on females and lie to females, in the beginning, to get in. Tell her what you really thought about her when you first met her and this will definitely cause her to leave you.
CAUTION: If she does not leave you within a reasonable amount of time, I suggest that you silently make plans to leave her. Reason? If you tell her and behave in the above stated manners and she is still there, there is a very good chance that she is plotting to retaliate againt you for saying or doing those things. Remember, it's YOU that are unfilfilled and frustrated and not her so what you are doing is upsetting HER comfort level (which SKEEZERS do not like) so she will retaliate generally by doing PHYSICAL harm to you or FINANCIAL harm to you.
Friday, July 24, 2009
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
NON-MONOGAMOUS Relationships ARE NEGOTIABLE
There exist NON-MONOGAMOUS MARITAL and LIVE-IN relationships that are CONDITIONALLY ACCEPTED by wives that AREN'T supposed to be mentioned to them or publicized. I am NOT speaking of OPEN or SWINGER type relationships since those are discussed with each other and there are no fake, academy award nominating "OH MY GOD", "I'M SO HURT THAT HE WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO ME" or "I WAS NOT AWARE OF ANYTHING LIKE THAT GOING ON" defensive response by the wives or live-in partner once it becomes public.
MAAAAAYYYYYYBBBBBEEEEE I might buy this statement below that I found on the Yahoo! Sports website today 07-08-2009:
"NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP)—An associate said Wednesday that the wife of ex-NFL quarterback Steve McNair didn’t know about Sahel Kazemi before the 20-year-old woman was found dead alongside her husband".
MAAAAAYYYYYYBBBBBEEEEE some wives don't know the NAMES of their husband's other woman or women but no one will be able to convince me that MOST, if not all, wives DON'T KNOW or SUSPECT when their husbands have had (or are having) relations with another woman or other women on a regular or periodic basis.
Let's look at reality for a moment. Having access to females that are STROKING THEIR EGO's and SEXUALLY throwing themselves to them on a regular basis are just a few of the PERKS that comes with FAME and/or FORTUNE.
Even many of the average or broke, got no job, fat/over-weight (or should I have said THICK), lesser attractive HUSBANDS (or live-in mates) are attempting to live or actually living the life of those males mentioned above but just at a much lower economic level. Now if the average joe is going out there PURSUING POON and in some cases are successful, don't tell me that the MAJORITY of elite males mentioned above that are HUSBANDS, being PURSUED BY POON and CAPABLE OF SEXUALLY ACCOMODATING these females will remain MONOGAMOUS. Of course we all know that EVERY wife will say, "Oh no, my husband WOULD NOT do that to me". Yea, right!
I will hold steadfast to my position which is, "NON-MONOGAMOUS Relationships ARE NEGOTIABLE". It simply depends on what the wife will receive in EXCHANGE for SHARING HER HUSBAND. In many cases, here is (at minimum) the package she MUST receive in order to accept non-monogamy:
- HE PROVIDE HER the CINDERELLA lifestyle that MOST females dream of but will NEVER achieve (i.e., big home, expensive clothes, expensive car and the ENVY of other females),
- HER OPTION to work,
- HER OPTION to financially contribute as opposed to spending HIS and HER money on HER,
- HER OPTION to have a housekeeper that SHE CHOOSES so that the housekeeper will not be younger or more attractive than SHE,
- HE RESPECTING HER which means KEEP THOSE OTHER RELATIONS PRIVATE so she won't be emarrassed and FORCED to react in an unpleasant manner to make it APPEAR as if she didn't know about it.
CONCLUSION:
Am I condemning NON-MONOGAMOUS relationships? ABSOLUTELY NOT because as I have stated before that is a PERSONAL CHOICE to enter and/or remain in FOR WHATEVER THEIR REASON and should not be ANYONE ELSE's BUSINESS. Simply accept whatever the consequences are as a result of YOUR choice.
Then what is my point? The APPEARANCE of surprise, hurt or DISAVOWing any knowledge of such behavior by MANY wives when these situations become public. By the way, this behavior is NO LONGER restricted to husbands. There are many wives that are now doing the same things but the exchange for husbands are not as beneficial.
QUESTION TO YOU:
Am I the ONLY ONE that believes that these type of elite wives in particular as well as many wives in the average to low income category DO KNOW OF or DO SUSPECT their husband of behaving in a NON-MONOGAMOUS manner?
MAAAAAYYYYYYBBBBBEEEEE I might buy this statement below that I found on the Yahoo! Sports website today 07-08-2009:
"NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP)—An associate said Wednesday that the wife of ex-NFL quarterback Steve McNair didn’t know about Sahel Kazemi before the 20-year-old woman was found dead alongside her husband".
MAAAAAYYYYYYBBBBBEEEEE some wives don't know the NAMES of their husband's other woman or women but no one will be able to convince me that MOST, if not all, wives DON'T KNOW or SUSPECT when their husbands have had (or are having) relations with another woman or other women on a regular or periodic basis.
Let's look at reality for a moment. Having access to females that are STROKING THEIR EGO's and SEXUALLY throwing themselves to them on a regular basis are just a few of the PERKS that comes with FAME and/or FORTUNE.
Even many of the average or broke, got no job, fat/over-weight (or should I have said THICK), lesser attractive HUSBANDS (or live-in mates) are attempting to live or actually living the life of those males mentioned above but just at a much lower economic level. Now if the average joe is going out there PURSUING POON and in some cases are successful, don't tell me that the MAJORITY of elite males mentioned above that are HUSBANDS, being PURSUED BY POON and CAPABLE OF SEXUALLY ACCOMODATING these females will remain MONOGAMOUS. Of course we all know that EVERY wife will say, "Oh no, my husband WOULD NOT do that to me". Yea, right!
I will hold steadfast to my position which is, "NON-MONOGAMOUS Relationships ARE NEGOTIABLE". It simply depends on what the wife will receive in EXCHANGE for SHARING HER HUSBAND. In many cases, here is (at minimum) the package she MUST receive in order to accept non-monogamy:
- HE PROVIDE HER the CINDERELLA lifestyle that MOST females dream of but will NEVER achieve (i.e., big home, expensive clothes, expensive car and the ENVY of other females),
- HER OPTION to work,
- HER OPTION to financially contribute as opposed to spending HIS and HER money on HER,
- HER OPTION to have a housekeeper that SHE CHOOSES so that the housekeeper will not be younger or more attractive than SHE,
- HE RESPECTING HER which means KEEP THOSE OTHER RELATIONS PRIVATE so she won't be emarrassed and FORCED to react in an unpleasant manner to make it APPEAR as if she didn't know about it.
CONCLUSION:
Am I condemning NON-MONOGAMOUS relationships? ABSOLUTELY NOT because as I have stated before that is a PERSONAL CHOICE to enter and/or remain in FOR WHATEVER THEIR REASON and should not be ANYONE ELSE's BUSINESS. Simply accept whatever the consequences are as a result of YOUR choice.
Then what is my point? The APPEARANCE of surprise, hurt or DISAVOWing any knowledge of such behavior by MANY wives when these situations become public. By the way, this behavior is NO LONGER restricted to husbands. There are many wives that are now doing the same things but the exchange for husbands are not as beneficial.
QUESTION TO YOU:
Am I the ONLY ONE that believes that these type of elite wives in particular as well as many wives in the average to low income category DO KNOW OF or DO SUSPECT their husband of behaving in a NON-MONOGAMOUS manner?
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Is It God or You Doing The Choosing?
I know this blog won't sit well with MOST of you and it may upset MANY of you for me asking since I should not DARE to question statements like these and DISRUPT your FANTASY moment but WTF.
The 3 types of G's that causes many people to choose mates are:
- God (or so we claim such)
- Greed (the money or lifestyle UPGRADE is just too great to resist)
- Genitals (I'm horny)
This is NOT about anyone's religious or non-religious beliefs. This is about the POPULAR GOD SENT expression that is so often used when someone DESPERATELY wants to feel they have found THE ONE. It does not matter to me whether you BELIEVE or DON'T BELIEVE in God. What matters to me is YOUR behavior and how you TREAT others and RESPECT their belief or non-belief.
I find it to be A JOKE when so many males and females use the GOD SENT expression when they CLAIM to have been sent THE ONE. After that HEAVENLY MIRACLE has turned into a HELLISH SITUATION, I usually hear the EXCUSE, "God sent him/her to me for a season", "God sent him/her to me to teach me a lesson" or "God brought us together to create this beautiful child (or children)".
I received an email regarding a celebrity's ex-wife getting married. It is not important who he was or she is. What I found interesting and quite common are these words or something quite similar, "I kept praying to God to send someone" or "I heard a voice".
Here are the sentences that I noticed in the email, "I kept praying to God to send someone who loved God, my son and me, and then I heard a voice ask, 'What more do you want?'" admits Sheree. "I knew then he was The One."
This is not the first time someone has prayed to God to "send them someone" or "change that person's behavior who HE/SHE should HAVE NOT CHOSEN to begin with" and I am sure that it won't be the last. For those of you that have heard THE VOICE when you FELT you had finally met THE ONE after praying (or not praying), do you think it was God's voice or just your overwhelming desire to have THAT PARTICULAR PERSON?
THAT MYSTICAL VOICE:
If it was God's voice urging you on to that maital relationship, would God urge you on to a temporary situation that would eventually lead you to emotional trauma, physical abuse, separation and ultimate divorce?
Would God be so cruel and vicious to set you up, have a child or children and then divorce (for those who claim God sent that person) which is BAD for the children created during that marriage?
DID GOD instruct you to NOT engage in sex before marriage yet, in that same breath, TOLD YOU to NOT spend time with them if they DON'T spend money on you PRIOR TO MARRIAGE?
DID GOD tell you to keep YOUR LEGS CLOSED but make sure the other person keeps THEIR WALLET/PURSE OPEN to YOUR selfish attitude and inconsiderate desires?
DID GOD instruct you to NOT judge him/her buy the CONTENT OF THEIR CHARACTER but rather by the CONTENTS IN THEIR WALLET/PURSE?
LUST, DESPERATION, STUPIDITY and/or LIFESTYLE UPGRADE:
Since we all (excluding those that are mentally incapable) have the ability to make MATURE choices in our lives I believe that the PRIMARY driving force for the GOD SENT expression is based upon lust, desperation, stupidity and/or lifestyle upgrade.
- LUST - You are PHYSICALLY attracted and SEXUALLY motivated.
- DESPERATION - You want so badly to have a relationship with THAT PERSON as YOUR mate due to loneliness, society's pressure or family/friends pressure.
- STUPIDITY - You KNOW that relationship is not good for you but you enter into it anyway.
- LIFESTYLE UPGRADE - You want what HE/SHE has to make YOUR life better and more appealing.
QUESTION FOR THE FEMALES:
IF YOU CLAIM that God has sent him/her to you after you have found THE ONE, which EXCUSE will you use IF your relationship with that God sent person and YOU don't last?
- God sent him/her to me for a season
- God sent him/her to me to teach me a lesson
- God brought us together to create this beautiful child (or children)
Since I am out of touch in the RELATIONSHIP EXCUSE department, are there any NEW excuses that are out there that I need to know about?
CONCLUSION:
Can we simply AGREE that YOU made a choice based upon what YOU thought would benefit YOU, ENJOYED some (or all) of that time while it lasted and if didn't last it was based upon YOUR choice and not God bringing someone PLEASANTLY IN and UNPLEASANTLY OUT of YOUR life?
Can we simply AGREE that God DID NOT make you reject, avoid or turn away from that decent, GOOD PERSON who just happened to be the everyday, average person who probably would have given YOU more LOVE, HAPPINESS and SPIRITUAL PEACE-OF-MIND than you could have ever imagined instead of the one YOU FOOLISHLY selected?
YOU CHOSE to reject, avoid, turn away from that decent person who would have really loved you in a genuine, non-materialistic (that means not trying to impress you with things or money) way.
As I said in the beginning, this may upset many of you but TRUTH and REALITY of YOUR poor choices in a mate, that DON'T LAST, is embarrassing to many and an EXTREMELY difficult pill to swallow.
The 3 types of G's that causes many people to choose mates are:
- God (or so we claim such)
- Greed (the money or lifestyle UPGRADE is just too great to resist)
- Genitals (I'm horny)
This is NOT about anyone's religious or non-religious beliefs. This is about the POPULAR GOD SENT expression that is so often used when someone DESPERATELY wants to feel they have found THE ONE. It does not matter to me whether you BELIEVE or DON'T BELIEVE in God. What matters to me is YOUR behavior and how you TREAT others and RESPECT their belief or non-belief.
I find it to be A JOKE when so many males and females use the GOD SENT expression when they CLAIM to have been sent THE ONE. After that HEAVENLY MIRACLE has turned into a HELLISH SITUATION, I usually hear the EXCUSE, "God sent him/her to me for a season", "God sent him/her to me to teach me a lesson" or "God brought us together to create this beautiful child (or children)".
I received an email regarding a celebrity's ex-wife getting married. It is not important who he was or she is. What I found interesting and quite common are these words or something quite similar, "I kept praying to God to send someone" or "I heard a voice".
Here are the sentences that I noticed in the email, "I kept praying to God to send someone who loved God, my son and me, and then I heard a voice ask, 'What more do you want?'" admits Sheree. "I knew then he was The One."
This is not the first time someone has prayed to God to "send them someone" or "change that person's behavior who HE/SHE should HAVE NOT CHOSEN to begin with" and I am sure that it won't be the last. For those of you that have heard THE VOICE when you FELT you had finally met THE ONE after praying (or not praying), do you think it was God's voice or just your overwhelming desire to have THAT PARTICULAR PERSON?
THAT MYSTICAL VOICE:
If it was God's voice urging you on to that maital relationship, would God urge you on to a temporary situation that would eventually lead you to emotional trauma, physical abuse, separation and ultimate divorce?
Would God be so cruel and vicious to set you up, have a child or children and then divorce (for those who claim God sent that person) which is BAD for the children created during that marriage?
DID GOD instruct you to NOT engage in sex before marriage yet, in that same breath, TOLD YOU to NOT spend time with them if they DON'T spend money on you PRIOR TO MARRIAGE?
DID GOD tell you to keep YOUR LEGS CLOSED but make sure the other person keeps THEIR WALLET/PURSE OPEN to YOUR selfish attitude and inconsiderate desires?
DID GOD instruct you to NOT judge him/her buy the CONTENT OF THEIR CHARACTER but rather by the CONTENTS IN THEIR WALLET/PURSE?
LUST, DESPERATION, STUPIDITY and/or LIFESTYLE UPGRADE:
Since we all (excluding those that are mentally incapable) have the ability to make MATURE choices in our lives I believe that the PRIMARY driving force for the GOD SENT expression is based upon lust, desperation, stupidity and/or lifestyle upgrade.
- LUST - You are PHYSICALLY attracted and SEXUALLY motivated.
- DESPERATION - You want so badly to have a relationship with THAT PERSON as YOUR mate due to loneliness, society's pressure or family/friends pressure.
- STUPIDITY - You KNOW that relationship is not good for you but you enter into it anyway.
- LIFESTYLE UPGRADE - You want what HE/SHE has to make YOUR life better and more appealing.
QUESTION FOR THE FEMALES:
IF YOU CLAIM that God has sent him/her to you after you have found THE ONE, which EXCUSE will you use IF your relationship with that God sent person and YOU don't last?
- God sent him/her to me for a season
- God sent him/her to me to teach me a lesson
- God brought us together to create this beautiful child (or children)
Since I am out of touch in the RELATIONSHIP EXCUSE department, are there any NEW excuses that are out there that I need to know about?
CONCLUSION:
Can we simply AGREE that YOU made a choice based upon what YOU thought would benefit YOU, ENJOYED some (or all) of that time while it lasted and if didn't last it was based upon YOUR choice and not God bringing someone PLEASANTLY IN and UNPLEASANTLY OUT of YOUR life?
Can we simply AGREE that God DID NOT make you reject, avoid or turn away from that decent, GOOD PERSON who just happened to be the everyday, average person who probably would have given YOU more LOVE, HAPPINESS and SPIRITUAL PEACE-OF-MIND than you could have ever imagined instead of the one YOU FOOLISHLY selected?
YOU CHOSE to reject, avoid, turn away from that decent person who would have really loved you in a genuine, non-materialistic (that means not trying to impress you with things or money) way.
As I said in the beginning, this may upset many of you but TRUTH and REALITY of YOUR poor choices in a mate, that DON'T LAST, is embarrassing to many and an EXTREMELY difficult pill to swallow.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
I Have No Problem With Spending My Money To Have A Good Time
I received this email as well as several calls from this female that I was seeing off and on for about two months. You can provide comments in the comment box if you wish for others to see. Please don't email me your comments because others will not be able to read them. Thanks!
From: her name removed
To: jduvalseries@yahoo.com
Sent: Sunday, June 28, 2009 10:59:49 PM
Subject: I'm so happy to have found you
It's the end of the day and I was thinking about you, as usual. I called several times but was not able to reach you so I am sending you this email. I want you to know how much I sincerely love the times we've spent together. It means so much to me. It truly seems like I've known you forever and I honestly can't imagine life without you now. There will be no looking back, no second thoughts and no regrets. I want you and need only you ... and that love will only grow stronger. Do not be scared my love. Sometimes life hits you with unexpected things that take you totally by surprise. All I can say is you're the best surprise life has given me and your capacity for love, caring, and understanding never ceases to amaze me. I've truly been blessed by finding you and I'll never let you go even if I have to bring you back to my heart myself!
Your darling,
her name removed
My PHILOSOPHY:
I will NEVER get serious with a female if I have to pay and bear the effort and expenses of us being together. I will ENJOY what I have PAID FOR and will LEAVE that person whenever I am ready to move on.
My REASONING:
If I HAVE TO PAY then it is not a GENUINE relationship, it's a BUSINESS TRANSACTION which I have no problem with as long as I am getting what I am expecting to receive. Once I get what I have PAID to receive, the transaction is over and I have the OPTION to perform another BUSINESS transaction (by bearing more expenses) if she is in agreement or I can move on to a more beneficial transaction for possibly less BUCKS elsewhere WITHOUT any feelings of GUILT.
My FINAL ACT - DECLARATION OF HER INDEPENDENCE:
I have enjoyed my time with her. I have WILLINGLY PAID for that time WITHOUT argument, disgust or hesitation so you skeezers out there can save the CHEAP comments, ok? Although she wants to get closer emotionally, I can't see myself getting involved with someone who has established themselves as a financial liability and a business transaction.
You may say it's COLD, I say it's REAL. If she DIDN'T want to be a financial liability she could have assisted in the expenses of those dates. By the way, she NEVER offered and I NEVER made a scene about it and accepted her taking the PAID FOR RIDE. She is quite capable of paying, she is STRONG and INDEPENDENT (oh yea, she said it to me) so there was no reason for her to NOT do so. Like females will say, "The FIRST impression is important". Well, we went out on four dates and all four dates ended up with the SAME impression.... Liability, Liability, Liability, Liability. I only continued because I CONTROLLED how much I would spend and where I would spend MY money. Now don't even go to the sex thing because you, not me, would be calling her a whore if you think sex in exchange for my expending funds is a fair exchange. So are those your thoughts? I think LIKE a female and not FOR a female and just like them it may be simply to stroke my EGO and has NOTHING to do with SEX and especially with all of those STDs going around out there.
I will TERMINATE this BUSINESS relationship on INDEPENDENCE DAY so that she can go and get herself someone she has a GENUINE interest in or get another series of BUSINESS transactions. By the way, I was smart enough to NOT do something STUPID like try to impress her by taking her to very expensive places. I kept it within an AFFORDABLE amount.
NOTES:
I said, on my blog page, I DON'T DATE and WILL NOT put forth any effort toward a personal interest in certain women. The situation above is one of those reasons why. I did not say that I don't conduct business transactions with them. Until I find that GENUINE woman, if these sell their time, I will CHOOSE which one of them I will pay to occupy their time. It's nothing personal, it's simply what they have established it to be which is a BUSINESS transaction (i.e., "If I want to spend the time, I will have to spend the money"). I could not see myself maintaing an extended business relationship with her or any of them. I have to be business smart and seek more enjoyment for less buck.
The economy is BAD now so I am sure that there are many BARGAINS available to me until I find someone that IS NOT a BUSINESS TRANSACTION.
From: her name removed
To: jduvalseries@yahoo.com
Sent: Sunday, June 28, 2009 10:59:49 PM
Subject: I'm so happy to have found you
It's the end of the day and I was thinking about you, as usual. I called several times but was not able to reach you so I am sending you this email. I want you to know how much I sincerely love the times we've spent together. It means so much to me. It truly seems like I've known you forever and I honestly can't imagine life without you now. There will be no looking back, no second thoughts and no regrets. I want you and need only you ... and that love will only grow stronger. Do not be scared my love. Sometimes life hits you with unexpected things that take you totally by surprise. All I can say is you're the best surprise life has given me and your capacity for love, caring, and understanding never ceases to amaze me. I've truly been blessed by finding you and I'll never let you go even if I have to bring you back to my heart myself!
Your darling,
her name removed
My PHILOSOPHY:
I will NEVER get serious with a female if I have to pay and bear the effort and expenses of us being together. I will ENJOY what I have PAID FOR and will LEAVE that person whenever I am ready to move on.
My REASONING:
If I HAVE TO PAY then it is not a GENUINE relationship, it's a BUSINESS TRANSACTION which I have no problem with as long as I am getting what I am expecting to receive. Once I get what I have PAID to receive, the transaction is over and I have the OPTION to perform another BUSINESS transaction (by bearing more expenses) if she is in agreement or I can move on to a more beneficial transaction for possibly less BUCKS elsewhere WITHOUT any feelings of GUILT.
My FINAL ACT - DECLARATION OF HER INDEPENDENCE:
I have enjoyed my time with her. I have WILLINGLY PAID for that time WITHOUT argument, disgust or hesitation so you skeezers out there can save the CHEAP comments, ok? Although she wants to get closer emotionally, I can't see myself getting involved with someone who has established themselves as a financial liability and a business transaction.
You may say it's COLD, I say it's REAL. If she DIDN'T want to be a financial liability she could have assisted in the expenses of those dates. By the way, she NEVER offered and I NEVER made a scene about it and accepted her taking the PAID FOR RIDE. She is quite capable of paying, she is STRONG and INDEPENDENT (oh yea, she said it to me) so there was no reason for her to NOT do so. Like females will say, "The FIRST impression is important". Well, we went out on four dates and all four dates ended up with the SAME impression.... Liability, Liability, Liability, Liability. I only continued because I CONTROLLED how much I would spend and where I would spend MY money. Now don't even go to the sex thing because you, not me, would be calling her a whore if you think sex in exchange for my expending funds is a fair exchange. So are those your thoughts? I think LIKE a female and not FOR a female and just like them it may be simply to stroke my EGO and has NOTHING to do with SEX and especially with all of those STDs going around out there.
I will TERMINATE this BUSINESS relationship on INDEPENDENCE DAY so that she can go and get herself someone she has a GENUINE interest in or get another series of BUSINESS transactions. By the way, I was smart enough to NOT do something STUPID like try to impress her by taking her to very expensive places. I kept it within an AFFORDABLE amount.
NOTES:
I said, on my blog page, I DON'T DATE and WILL NOT put forth any effort toward a personal interest in certain women. The situation above is one of those reasons why. I did not say that I don't conduct business transactions with them. Until I find that GENUINE woman, if these sell their time, I will CHOOSE which one of them I will pay to occupy their time. It's nothing personal, it's simply what they have established it to be which is a BUSINESS transaction (i.e., "If I want to spend the time, I will have to spend the money"). I could not see myself maintaing an extended business relationship with her or any of them. I have to be business smart and seek more enjoyment for less buck.
The economy is BAD now so I am sure that there are many BARGAINS available to me until I find someone that IS NOT a BUSINESS TRANSACTION.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Inmates Comments to "How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer"
In my attempt to reach out to ALL males, I decided to donate my books to a California correctional facility for males to read and provide feedback. Their feedback is provided below and I have chosen to remove their names to protect their privacy. Feel free to make your comments in the comment box if you desire to do so.
"You have dared to reveal the thoughts, fears, and realities of dealing with the opposite sex. Your boldness of information will save men money, time and needless frustration."
"The fellows gotta keep/get up on this one."
"I thought that the book was very well written and informative by the author. It is a must read for any lame brother who gets suckered by women."
"My name is (name removed), but to you it's P.R the pimp. I've dealt with skezzers, hoes, and tricks, so I know how to deal with them acordingly.."
"The book was a good read and I enjoyed it."
"I thought it was cool, just that some of the words you use made me think it didn't apply. If you make a part two, change the language to widen your audience."
"The part the was written about the Suckerman was interesting. In light of the example the author use. The very center of the topic is a reminder to be careful of what you wish for."
"I felt that the book is enlighten to degree of a over all outlook. But you really can't judge all by one female. Their is no perfect person. Compromise and sacrifice to make a good relationship. Understanding and communication is key!!!"
"I like when the man said that when on the dinner date strike up a good conversation and just before the bill comes look her in her eyes and don't look away and ask her if she wants to see you again? And the rest you already know."
"I felt that some chapters in this book were extremely accurate and overall I found the book as a whole to be humorous and yet informative in a light reading quick paced style. Thanks for sharing."
"I've lived with a number of skeezer's and they made me what I am today. I like the book, it is a taste of reality."
"I think this author has gone threw it, so have I and most readers. This book is good, keep it coming brotha man."
"This reminds me of woman that I once dated, Miss Gold Digger, page 59. She was young, attractive and had the gift of gab, well so do I. We would clash. Overall the book brought great laughter and I as well as others enjoyed it."
"You have dared to reveal the thoughts, fears, and realities of dealing with the opposite sex. Your boldness of information will save men money, time and needless frustration."
"The fellows gotta keep/get up on this one."
"I thought that the book was very well written and informative by the author. It is a must read for any lame brother who gets suckered by women."
"My name is (name removed), but to you it's P.R the pimp. I've dealt with skezzers, hoes, and tricks, so I know how to deal with them acordingly.."
"The book was a good read and I enjoyed it."
"I thought it was cool, just that some of the words you use made me think it didn't apply. If you make a part two, change the language to widen your audience."
"The part the was written about the Suckerman was interesting. In light of the example the author use. The very center of the topic is a reminder to be careful of what you wish for."
"I felt that the book is enlighten to degree of a over all outlook. But you really can't judge all by one female. Their is no perfect person. Compromise and sacrifice to make a good relationship. Understanding and communication is key!!!"
"I like when the man said that when on the dinner date strike up a good conversation and just before the bill comes look her in her eyes and don't look away and ask her if she wants to see you again? And the rest you already know."
"I felt that some chapters in this book were extremely accurate and overall I found the book as a whole to be humorous and yet informative in a light reading quick paced style. Thanks for sharing."
"I've lived with a number of skeezer's and they made me what I am today. I like the book, it is a taste of reality."
"I think this author has gone threw it, so have I and most readers. This book is good, keep it coming brotha man."
"This reminds me of woman that I once dated, Miss Gold Digger, page 59. She was young, attractive and had the gift of gab, well so do I. We would clash. Overall the book brought great laughter and I as well as others enjoyed it."
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
YOU ARE THE FATHER: DNA May Not Be The Only Solution
I received an email and felt it necessary to copy and paste it here for your information. It amuses me as to how I am negatively criticized for calling no good, scandalous, females skeezers yet time and time again I can show justification for doing so.
It appears that DNA can be proven to a high degree who the father is but should he be required to PAY in ALL proven cases? Here is a perfect example (at the bottom of this blog) as to why he SHOULD NOT be required to pay child support eventhough it is biologically HIS CHILD.
People will say, "Well, what about the child? He/She didn't ask to come here". My response (which most refuse to agree with) is, "Let the child deal with the pain and suffering that the MOTHER has caused him/her by HER SCANDALOUS act of FREELY CHOOSING to collect sperm, conceive, go through child birth and bring that child into this world UNPREPARED and then seek compensation from a sperm donor that did not want a child. VERY FEW, if any, want to hold females ACCOUNTABLE and RESPONSIBLE for their INAPPROPRIATE and IRRESPONSIBLE behavior. Choosing to have a child WITHOUT a willing male participant agreeing to impregnate her and mutually parent that child is IRRESPONSIBLE UNLESS she is CAPAPABLE of providing the time, resources and finances WITHOUT him.
It's HER choice, HER body so let it be HER SOLE RESPONSIBILITY. When a female has a child and she knows (most of them do) that the male does not want children at that time, she is KNOWINGLY collecting sperm and making a decision to bring a child into this world WITHOUT the sperm donor's concent.
That act is NOT about the child. It is about a scandalous, selfish female and what she feel she can get or who she can attempt to control through EXPLOITATION by having that child. I consider acts like that to be PRE-MEDITATED CHILD ABUSE.
Many of you will say, "Well, he is part responsible for making that baby". I have another blog that I am creating to show exactly where HIS control of making that baby begins and end and where HER control of making that baby begins and end. I am NOT speaking of legal, financial responsibility. That's a totally different issue. I am speaking ONLY of who really has CONTROL of that situation.
This blog of who has control should put an end to that "he is responsible for making a baby" EXCUSE and show who is IN TOTAL CONTROL of conception, pregnancy and opting out of parental responsibility. Of course this blog will not apply to those that are "MENTALLY handicapped and not capable of making rational decisions", "PHYSICALLY restrained such that they have no control over their body" or "lying in a defenseless COMATOSE state".
Please feel free to comment AFTER reading this blog. I copied and pasted the words below and they are not mine.
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SHOOTING FOR SPERM
Published by Runteldat on Tuesday, June 23, 2009 at 12:17 am.
In “you are nastier than sin news,” word is that some woman is selling the semen of pro athletes to [desperate] women who yearn to have a baby by a baller. Or better yet collect child support from one.
It seems she’s collected the sperm of a dozen athletes and is ready to sell off her collection to the highest bidder.
According to the sperm pimp’s Web site, she’s already sold to two women who inseminated themselves and have gone on to collect child support payments in the give figure range.
Here’s a thought: Go get a job.
Still interested in taking the ‘you are the father approach’ to success? Well you’re in luck, the woman claims to have NBA All Stars and even an Olympian in her inventory. If you’re wondering how this woman got the kids of the pros, she allegedly collected samples from used condoms and then had them frozen.
I can’t. That’s nasty. Please be a lie. No woman could be that desperate, could they?
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It appears that DNA can be proven to a high degree who the father is but should he be required to PAY in ALL proven cases? Here is a perfect example (at the bottom of this blog) as to why he SHOULD NOT be required to pay child support eventhough it is biologically HIS CHILD.
People will say, "Well, what about the child? He/She didn't ask to come here". My response (which most refuse to agree with) is, "Let the child deal with the pain and suffering that the MOTHER has caused him/her by HER SCANDALOUS act of FREELY CHOOSING to collect sperm, conceive, go through child birth and bring that child into this world UNPREPARED and then seek compensation from a sperm donor that did not want a child. VERY FEW, if any, want to hold females ACCOUNTABLE and RESPONSIBLE for their INAPPROPRIATE and IRRESPONSIBLE behavior. Choosing to have a child WITHOUT a willing male participant agreeing to impregnate her and mutually parent that child is IRRESPONSIBLE UNLESS she is CAPAPABLE of providing the time, resources and finances WITHOUT him.
It's HER choice, HER body so let it be HER SOLE RESPONSIBILITY. When a female has a child and she knows (most of them do) that the male does not want children at that time, she is KNOWINGLY collecting sperm and making a decision to bring a child into this world WITHOUT the sperm donor's concent.
That act is NOT about the child. It is about a scandalous, selfish female and what she feel she can get or who she can attempt to control through EXPLOITATION by having that child. I consider acts like that to be PRE-MEDITATED CHILD ABUSE.
Many of you will say, "Well, he is part responsible for making that baby". I have another blog that I am creating to show exactly where HIS control of making that baby begins and end and where HER control of making that baby begins and end. I am NOT speaking of legal, financial responsibility. That's a totally different issue. I am speaking ONLY of who really has CONTROL of that situation.
This blog of who has control should put an end to that "he is responsible for making a baby" EXCUSE and show who is IN TOTAL CONTROL of conception, pregnancy and opting out of parental responsibility. Of course this blog will not apply to those that are "MENTALLY handicapped and not capable of making rational decisions", "PHYSICALLY restrained such that they have no control over their body" or "lying in a defenseless COMATOSE state".
Please feel free to comment AFTER reading this blog. I copied and pasted the words below and they are not mine.
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SHOOTING FOR SPERM
Published by Runteldat on Tuesday, June 23, 2009 at 12:17 am.
In “you are nastier than sin news,” word is that some woman is selling the semen of pro athletes to [desperate] women who yearn to have a baby by a baller. Or better yet collect child support from one.
It seems she’s collected the sperm of a dozen athletes and is ready to sell off her collection to the highest bidder.
According to the sperm pimp’s Web site, she’s already sold to two women who inseminated themselves and have gone on to collect child support payments in the give figure range.
Here’s a thought: Go get a job.
Still interested in taking the ‘you are the father approach’ to success? Well you’re in luck, the woman claims to have NBA All Stars and even an Olympian in her inventory. If you’re wondering how this woman got the kids of the pros, she allegedly collected samples from used condoms and then had them frozen.
I can’t. That’s nasty. Please be a lie. No woman could be that desperate, could they?
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Friday, June 5, 2009
Female Complaints About Men On Those Dating Sites
SEX, SEX, SEX... That is ALL males are looking for online.
It is so amusing to me how so many females will post photos on those online dating sites and then develop an attitude if CERTAIN males THEY AREN'T ATTRACTED TO respond in what is TO THEM an inappropriate manner.
Well let's examine what they post before we are so quick to jump on THEIR side and support their claims of inappropriate responses from males. Here are a few examples:
PHYSICAL TEASE:
- BOOTY POSE: They stand and turn their butts outward so that you can see it.
- BEDROOM LURE: Photos sitting or lying in their bed in casual or lingerie wear.
- SACRIFICAL OFFERING: Photos that bring direct attention to their cleavage and breasts.
- REVEALING CLOTHING: Short skirts, dresses with high slits, very low cut and open blouses and tight fitting tops or bottoms that enhances the breast and butt.
- LUSCIOUS, MOIST LIPS: I'm sure I don't have to explain that one to you.
VERBAL TEASE:
- I am sensual
- I am passionate
- I am open to trying new things
When a HETEROSEXUAL male sees those photos and reads those words in their profile whatelse is HE supposed to think of besides SEX? The problem is not his NORMAL, sexual thoughts or his response. The problem is that HE isn't participating properly in HER CONTROL GAME of TEASE.
These types of females may even go so far as stating, THEY DON'T LIKE PLAYING GAMES, yet it's nothing but a game to them. The truth of the matter is they don't like playing games that DON'T BENEFIT THEM. The two most common games played are:
1. The TEASE GAME - Look, desire but don't touch or talk about sex too much to me UNLESS I want you to do so.
2. The ADMISSION FEE GAME - If you want some of this, you will have to spend money on me and MAYBE I will reward you depending on how I feel about you.
Do I have a problem with their photos or words? Absolutely not.
WHAT'S MY POINT:
Males and females are sexual by nature. This is enhanced when males see a female or a particular body part of the female that we perceive to be attractive and stimulating. A female's BREASTS and BUTTS (certain ones) are stumulating to HETEROSEXUAL males so if females want to MINIMIZE the number of sexual thought and online comments to them regarding sex, they should MINIMIZE the amount of TEASING they do with their provocative and REVEALING photos.
Will the majority of them minimize their sexual teasing? Absolutely not.
Why won't they minimize their sexual teasing? Because of the ATTENTION and POTENTIAL BENEFITS they may receive from the male's desire for her.
CONCLUSION:
Am I saying that females SHOULD NOT post themselves online in sexual attire or poses? Of course not. They have the right to place on those site whatever they choose to as long as it complies with the rules of those sites. MY POINT is that if you post yourself in that manner, DON'T complain or get an attitude when the male(s) you AREN'T INTERESTED IN attempt to contact you or respond to you in a SEXUAL manner.
Males must understand the TEASE and ADMISSION FEE games and PLAY TO WIN at minimal cost to them. If they are going to interact with today's females they better learn my RULES OF ENGAGEMENT or they will GET PLAYED the majority of the time.
It is so amusing to me how so many females will post photos on those online dating sites and then develop an attitude if CERTAIN males THEY AREN'T ATTRACTED TO respond in what is TO THEM an inappropriate manner.
Well let's examine what they post before we are so quick to jump on THEIR side and support their claims of inappropriate responses from males. Here are a few examples:
PHYSICAL TEASE:
- BOOTY POSE: They stand and turn their butts outward so that you can see it.
- BEDROOM LURE: Photos sitting or lying in their bed in casual or lingerie wear.
- SACRIFICAL OFFERING: Photos that bring direct attention to their cleavage and breasts.
- REVEALING CLOTHING: Short skirts, dresses with high slits, very low cut and open blouses and tight fitting tops or bottoms that enhances the breast and butt.
- LUSCIOUS, MOIST LIPS: I'm sure I don't have to explain that one to you.
VERBAL TEASE:
- I am sensual
- I am passionate
- I am open to trying new things
When a HETEROSEXUAL male sees those photos and reads those words in their profile whatelse is HE supposed to think of besides SEX? The problem is not his NORMAL, sexual thoughts or his response. The problem is that HE isn't participating properly in HER CONTROL GAME of TEASE.
These types of females may even go so far as stating, THEY DON'T LIKE PLAYING GAMES, yet it's nothing but a game to them. The truth of the matter is they don't like playing games that DON'T BENEFIT THEM. The two most common games played are:
1. The TEASE GAME - Look, desire but don't touch or talk about sex too much to me UNLESS I want you to do so.
2. The ADMISSION FEE GAME - If you want some of this, you will have to spend money on me and MAYBE I will reward you depending on how I feel about you.
Do I have a problem with their photos or words? Absolutely not.
WHAT'S MY POINT:
Males and females are sexual by nature. This is enhanced when males see a female or a particular body part of the female that we perceive to be attractive and stimulating. A female's BREASTS and BUTTS (certain ones) are stumulating to HETEROSEXUAL males so if females want to MINIMIZE the number of sexual thought and online comments to them regarding sex, they should MINIMIZE the amount of TEASING they do with their provocative and REVEALING photos.
Will the majority of them minimize their sexual teasing? Absolutely not.
Why won't they minimize their sexual teasing? Because of the ATTENTION and POTENTIAL BENEFITS they may receive from the male's desire for her.
CONCLUSION:
Am I saying that females SHOULD NOT post themselves online in sexual attire or poses? Of course not. They have the right to place on those site whatever they choose to as long as it complies with the rules of those sites. MY POINT is that if you post yourself in that manner, DON'T complain or get an attitude when the male(s) you AREN'T INTERESTED IN attempt to contact you or respond to you in a SEXUAL manner.
Males must understand the TEASE and ADMISSION FEE games and PLAY TO WIN at minimal cost to them. If they are going to interact with today's females they better learn my RULES OF ENGAGEMENT or they will GET PLAYED the majority of the time.
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