Excerpt from book #2 "The Good Man's Survival Guide - Rules of Engagement".
Over these past few years I have been asked basic questions that I feel ALL average males should know. I have decided to include them in this section titled “Responses to your Concerns”. There’s never enough information that a male can receive to assist him in avoiding the pitfalls that he will encounter inside that ring of life.
Concern #4: Why do females say men need to settle down before they get too old?
I am a single, successful and happy male so what should I say to females that constantly tell me I need to settle down and get married so I won’t end up old and alone with no one to care for me?
Answer:
I am sure that the vast majority of females that make that statement are man-less themselves. Most of those females are really thinking of themselves being old and alone. That statement is not about you, it's about them.
Many married females or females in non-marital relationships are going to eventually end up alone due to divorce, breakup or death. Many will never have a long-lasting relationship because of their bad attitude and poor choices in males. Those types are usually spoiled, IMMATURE and inconsiderate OF YOU, trifling, have selfish attitudes and will always be available. They want the foolish man to take them and their burdens into his COMFORTABLE lifestyle so they won’t be alone.
Many females today aren’t consistently caring for DECENT, AVERAGE males anyway. They are too busy catering/submitting to males that that are in a marital or non-marital relationship, that don't give a crap about them, that won't commit to them, that have multiple females or is all about herself and doing things that will benefit her in the present and the future. So what guarantee is there that she will GENUINELY do those things for you, the decent average male, when you are older that she isn’t doing for any decent, average male now? There is none.
THERE ARE UNSELFISH, REASONABLE, MAN-LOVING, FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE AND CONSIDERATE FEMALES out there so take your time and know what you are getting into before you make a costly mistake that you will regret later. The key is making sure that you are in a solid financial position throughout your life. As long as your self-esteem is high and you are in good mental, physical and financial health, you will NOT SETTLE and will always have access to females because many of them are constantly making poor choices in life and looking for a man to upgrade their lifestyle and bail them out financially and/or emotionally.
Don’t be foolish and settle for what you don’t want and pay a dear price for it later. Take your time and choose wisely. When it comes to getting old, if you are an OLD FART that has his act together and seeking companionship, you’ll always have OPTIONS.
Many females’ biggest concerns are 1) growing old and being alone, 2) physical apperance eroding and/or 3) QUALITY males giving their attention and money to younger females instead of them which of course this does not apply to females who are switching over to other females. In my opinion, their biggest concerns should be physical and financial health.
Skeezers will place more emphasis on their physical APPEARANCE as opposed to their physical and financial health. Why?? It's because females, in general, realize that males are MENTALLY weaker than they are when it comes to interactions with them and MOST males will FREELY and FOOLISHLY risk or surrender all that they have worked for and earned for the opportunity to have her in his company (players and wise men excluded of course).
As people get older the body naturally degrades and the mind matures (well, it should mature but in many cases don't) to a point where the EXCITEMENT generated by that commercialized PHYSICAL APPEARANCE will be far less important than the PEACE-OF-MIND generated through FINANCIAL SECURITY. FINANCIAL SECURITY is what gives you the platform to meet all sorts of women and WISDOM is what allows you to choose a quality woman and keep that financial security as opposed to choosing a female who has lived irresponsibly most of her life and is now expecting YOU to support and take care of her.
You will never be in a position to acquire financial security and have a QUALITY woman IF you are making poor choices in females. An OLD, BROKE male has NO LEVERAGE and NO OPTIONS in life when it comes to obtaining QUALITY female companionship. At best the only female companionship OPTIONS will be OLD, BROKE females that have been dumped into the recycle bin.
Be STRONG and WISE in your choice and not WEAK and STUPID.
Monday, September 13, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Relationships Aren't Difficult but Living In Denial About YOUR Relationship Certainly Is
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Ever hear someone say, "Relationships are difficult"?
Husbands/Boyfriends will say it. Wives/Girlfriends will say it. Same sex couples will say it. I'm here to shed some enlightenment and point out some things that WE already know that YOU refuse to accept which is why I gave it the above title.
Let's be clear before I begin that I am speaking of personal, intimate relationships and not business or social relationships that also exist and in many cases difficult or hard to maintain as well for various reasons.
In this case, relationships apply to marital and non-marital situations.
TO THOSE WHO SAY SUCH MY RESPONSE IS:
- Relationships ARE NOT difficult or hard to maintain. Pretending YOUR relationship is all that you want others to believe is hard to maintain
- The REALITY of the other person's UNFAVORABLE behavior is difficult because YOU want to PRETEND or HIDE the fact from others that it does not exist
- YOU don't want to accept the fact that YOU CHOSE to have a relationship, marriage, family with someone who's COMPLETE behavior does not reflect that which you would like to have and talk to others about REGARDLESS of how responsible they may be in other areas of that relationship
- The difficulty in that relationship is YOUR refusal to accept the REALITY of that person's behavior
TYPICAL EXAMPLES (does not apply to all and may apply to both male and female as well):
- DESIRE to have outside relationships
- ATTEMPTS at having outside relationships
- HAVING outside relationships
- KNOWING (not suspecting or hearing rumors) that YOUR mate is having or have had one or multiple outside relationship(s) and YOU CHOOSING to remain in that relationship
- EVIDENCE (not assumptions or rumors) that your mate has lied to you on one or many occasions
- KNOWING your mate has pornographic material or viewing pornographic websites and YOU don't approve of that behavior
- Not spending enough DESIRED entertainment and quality time with mate
- Not making enough MONEY to provide mate with the things mate DESIRES
- INTENTIONAL or UNINTENTIONAL poor management of finances and expecting your mate to rescue you
- YOU ALLOWING YOUR or THEY ALLOWING THEIR outside influences (including family) to disrupt the relationship
- INSECURITIES and desire to have constant attention from mate or others in order to satisfy those insecurities
The above examples, and I am sure many more, can be reasons which causes YOU to think that relationships are difficult.
SOLUTIONS:
- LOVE yourself and YOUR peace-of-mind MORE than that PRETENTIOUS IMAGE of a relationship,
- LOVE yourself and YOUR peace-of-mind MORE than simply being in that DIFFICULT relationship (as you refer to it) for the sake of just being in a relationship,
- GET OUT of YOUR difficult relationship and make a WISER CHOISE for the next relationship, or
- ACCEPT that DIFFICULT relationship YOU CHOSE to be in and SHUT UP
Ever hear someone say, "Relationships are difficult"?
Husbands/Boyfriends will say it. Wives/Girlfriends will say it. Same sex couples will say it. I'm here to shed some enlightenment and point out some things that WE already know that YOU refuse to accept which is why I gave it the above title.
Let's be clear before I begin that I am speaking of personal, intimate relationships and not business or social relationships that also exist and in many cases difficult or hard to maintain as well for various reasons.
In this case, relationships apply to marital and non-marital situations.
TO THOSE WHO SAY SUCH MY RESPONSE IS:
- Relationships ARE NOT difficult or hard to maintain. Pretending YOUR relationship is all that you want others to believe is hard to maintain
- The REALITY of the other person's UNFAVORABLE behavior is difficult because YOU want to PRETEND or HIDE the fact from others that it does not exist
- YOU don't want to accept the fact that YOU CHOSE to have a relationship, marriage, family with someone who's COMPLETE behavior does not reflect that which you would like to have and talk to others about REGARDLESS of how responsible they may be in other areas of that relationship
- The difficulty in that relationship is YOUR refusal to accept the REALITY of that person's behavior
TYPICAL EXAMPLES (does not apply to all and may apply to both male and female as well):
- DESIRE to have outside relationships
- ATTEMPTS at having outside relationships
- HAVING outside relationships
- KNOWING (not suspecting or hearing rumors) that YOUR mate is having or have had one or multiple outside relationship(s) and YOU CHOOSING to remain in that relationship
- EVIDENCE (not assumptions or rumors) that your mate has lied to you on one or many occasions
- KNOWING your mate has pornographic material or viewing pornographic websites and YOU don't approve of that behavior
- Not spending enough DESIRED entertainment and quality time with mate
- Not making enough MONEY to provide mate with the things mate DESIRES
- INTENTIONAL or UNINTENTIONAL poor management of finances and expecting your mate to rescue you
- YOU ALLOWING YOUR or THEY ALLOWING THEIR outside influences (including family) to disrupt the relationship
- INSECURITIES and desire to have constant attention from mate or others in order to satisfy those insecurities
The above examples, and I am sure many more, can be reasons which causes YOU to think that relationships are difficult.
SOLUTIONS:
- LOVE yourself and YOUR peace-of-mind MORE than that PRETENTIOUS IMAGE of a relationship,
- LOVE yourself and YOUR peace-of-mind MORE than simply being in that DIFFICULT relationship (as you refer to it) for the sake of just being in a relationship,
- GET OUT of YOUR difficult relationship and make a WISER CHOISE for the next relationship, or
- ACCEPT that DIFFICULT relationship YOU CHOSE to be in and SHUT UP
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Should A Female Be Initially Labeled A H^ or B^tch?
Before I begin I must make some things clear for the EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE and those NOT CAPABLE of rationally processing information:
CLARIFICATION:
1. H^'s and B^TCHES DO EXIST,
2. NOT ALL females are H*s and B*tches,
3. This information can also apply to males as well,
4. This is to be applied ONLY to those who's BEHAVIOR reflect such,
5. IF YOUR behavior reflects the information and you don't like it then CHANGE your behavior or ACCEPT the label given to you.
6. MOST MALES LIE about being genuine when it comes to paying for dining or event dates and says that he just want to have a lady's in his company AND wanting nothing in return. They want SERVICE for their compensation. That service can range from EXCLUSIVE TIME to SEX and many things in between. If females believe I'm lying simply tell the male that's compensating you that you are a) dating other males, b) having sex with another or other males and/or c) you won't be exclusive with him or you WON'T EVER have sex with him. MOST FEMALES won't say any of it because they don't want to stop receiving the UN-OBLIGATED benefits and they love the CONTROL GAME.
DEFINITIONS (based SOLELY upon behavior and NOT ASSumption):
H^ - One that EXPECTS/REQUIRES compensation (i.e., money, paying their way, favors, material things, etc.) or you absorbing all expenses incurred while spending time with her in exchange for her time and, in most cases, will not spend time with you UNLESS you do so. What happens with that time depends upon the H^, how well the H^ is compensated and if the H^ has an attraction to the compensator.
B^tch - One that EXPECTS/REQUIRES compensation (i.e., money, paying their way, favors, material things, etc.) or you absorbing all expenses incurred in exchange for her time with VERY LITTLE OR NO INTENT of giving him nothing more that what SHE chooses to give him if anything at all but the time to GIVE AGAIN TO HER the next time.
Lady - One that may ACCEPT but NOT EXPECT compensation (i.e., money, paying their way, favors, material things, etc.) or you absorbing all expenses incurred while spending time with her in exchange for her time. One that CAN and WILL spend time with a male WITHOUT compensation from him and will pay her own way WITHOUT ATTITUDE if necessary. What happens with that time will depend upon MUTUAL CONSENT.
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Now that I've gotten that out of the way let me proceed. My response is that NO female SHOULD NOT be initially labeled a H^, B^tch or Lady. Whatever happened to judging females based upon their own merits or behavior? To place a label on a female IN ADVANCE would be quite unfair to her and quite immature of the male. For ANY MALE to ASSume a female is a H^ or B^tch WITHOUT her behavior reflecting such or just because she has NO PERSONAL interest in him would be quite a PATHETIC and IMMATURE male in my opinion.
Females have no problem with being labeled a lady even though their behavior will have not yet been proven to or their present behavior does not warrant such a title. I personally simply refer to them as females UNTIL their behavior places them in one of the three categories. The label females DOES NOT place her in the gutter, IS NOT disrespectful and DOES NOT prematurely place her on a pedestal. I believe such a title as lady has to be EARNED and not freely given.
IN ALL FAIRNESS, a male should have no problem NOT being place on a pedestal as well UNTIL he has proven to EARN such. That earning of such label should be based upon how POLITE and RESPECTFUL he is as opposed to his monetary and material contributions. RESPECT should have nothing to do with money or material things but sadly enough, for many, it does.
FINAL NOTES:
Males SHOULD NOT pursue or put up with a H^ or B^tch because there is another option available IF he takes the time to screen them out. If males want to PURSUE something they should pursue something of more value such as their careers and use that time to develop themselves as opposed to being Captain "Save A H^" or "Save a B^tch". Once a male begins to value himself as opposed to valuing H^'s and B^tches more than himself, he will then begin to ELIMINATE WASTE (i.e., H^'s and B^tches) and start valuing in investing time in and with LADIES.
As I have always stated, there are some LOVING, INDEPENDENT and DECENT LADIES out there such that NO MALE should waste his time, resources or finances on females that treat them in an INCONSIDERATE and UNLOVING manner. If you do then YOU are a FOOLish male and deserve any pain and suffering your receive.
CLARIFICATION:
1. H^'s and B^TCHES DO EXIST,
2. NOT ALL females are H*s and B*tches,
3. This information can also apply to males as well,
4. This is to be applied ONLY to those who's BEHAVIOR reflect such,
5. IF YOUR behavior reflects the information and you don't like it then CHANGE your behavior or ACCEPT the label given to you.
6. MOST MALES LIE about being genuine when it comes to paying for dining or event dates and says that he just want to have a lady's in his company AND wanting nothing in return. They want SERVICE for their compensation. That service can range from EXCLUSIVE TIME to SEX and many things in between. If females believe I'm lying simply tell the male that's compensating you that you are a) dating other males, b) having sex with another or other males and/or c) you won't be exclusive with him or you WON'T EVER have sex with him. MOST FEMALES won't say any of it because they don't want to stop receiving the UN-OBLIGATED benefits and they love the CONTROL GAME.
DEFINITIONS (based SOLELY upon behavior and NOT ASSumption):
H^ - One that EXPECTS/REQUIRES compensation (i.e., money, paying their way, favors, material things, etc.) or you absorbing all expenses incurred while spending time with her in exchange for her time and, in most cases, will not spend time with you UNLESS you do so. What happens with that time depends upon the H^, how well the H^ is compensated and if the H^ has an attraction to the compensator.
B^tch - One that EXPECTS/REQUIRES compensation (i.e., money, paying their way, favors, material things, etc.) or you absorbing all expenses incurred in exchange for her time with VERY LITTLE OR NO INTENT of giving him nothing more that what SHE chooses to give him if anything at all but the time to GIVE AGAIN TO HER the next time.
Lady - One that may ACCEPT but NOT EXPECT compensation (i.e., money, paying their way, favors, material things, etc.) or you absorbing all expenses incurred while spending time with her in exchange for her time. One that CAN and WILL spend time with a male WITHOUT compensation from him and will pay her own way WITHOUT ATTITUDE if necessary. What happens with that time will depend upon MUTUAL CONSENT.
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Now that I've gotten that out of the way let me proceed. My response is that NO female SHOULD NOT be initially labeled a H^, B^tch or Lady. Whatever happened to judging females based upon their own merits or behavior? To place a label on a female IN ADVANCE would be quite unfair to her and quite immature of the male. For ANY MALE to ASSume a female is a H^ or B^tch WITHOUT her behavior reflecting such or just because she has NO PERSONAL interest in him would be quite a PATHETIC and IMMATURE male in my opinion.
Females have no problem with being labeled a lady even though their behavior will have not yet been proven to or their present behavior does not warrant such a title. I personally simply refer to them as females UNTIL their behavior places them in one of the three categories. The label females DOES NOT place her in the gutter, IS NOT disrespectful and DOES NOT prematurely place her on a pedestal. I believe such a title as lady has to be EARNED and not freely given.
IN ALL FAIRNESS, a male should have no problem NOT being place on a pedestal as well UNTIL he has proven to EARN such. That earning of such label should be based upon how POLITE and RESPECTFUL he is as opposed to his monetary and material contributions. RESPECT should have nothing to do with money or material things but sadly enough, for many, it does.
FINAL NOTES:
Males SHOULD NOT pursue or put up with a H^ or B^tch because there is another option available IF he takes the time to screen them out. If males want to PURSUE something they should pursue something of more value such as their careers and use that time to develop themselves as opposed to being Captain "Save A H^" or "Save a B^tch". Once a male begins to value himself as opposed to valuing H^'s and B^tches more than himself, he will then begin to ELIMINATE WASTE (i.e., H^'s and B^tches) and start valuing in investing time in and with LADIES.
As I have always stated, there are some LOVING, INDEPENDENT and DECENT LADIES out there such that NO MALE should waste his time, resources or finances on females that treat them in an INCONSIDERATE and UNLOVING manner. If you do then YOU are a FOOLish male and deserve any pain and suffering your receive.
Monday, April 26, 2010
Females DON'T HATE PLAYING GAMES, they HATE LOSING GAMES
They LOVE PLAYING GAMES and the benefits that typically comes with playing. They hate the MALE PLAYERS that plays the GAME better than they do because they end up getting PLAYED.
BEFORE I BEGIN let me state for the record, I consider myself to be just another one of those average joe's. I don't flaunt myself or promote myself as being a "player, womanizer, baller, hunk, hot or all that" so don't bother responding with the typical "who do you think you are" or "you ain't all that" because I have just said that I wasn't, ok?
I find that reading the profiles on these social sites to be very amusing and quite hypocritical. Some of the most common phrases I read in those profiles are, "No Games", "I am not into Games", "If you are playing games move on" or "I'm tired of men who play games". It's really not games that these females are tired of, it's NOT getting what they want or NOT being IN CONTROL of the game that's their problem.
FEMALES LOVE PLAYING GAMES and one of the most common game they play is called, the "ADMISSION FEE" game (which I got from a good buddy of mine and I use quite often in my conversations). What is the admission fee game? It's quite simple, "If you want to spend time with her, you have to pay the admission fee (which is PAY FOR the cost of the date so she don't have to pay her own way or PAY HER for the time she spends with you)". They also love to play the "Tease Him and Make Him Want" or "Make Him Pay and Wait" game.
These social sites are PRIMARILY just another way for many females to keep that GAME going and pick up a few WEAK, DESPERATE FOOLS (not friends) WITH BENEFITS until "Mr. Eventually No Good" comes along. They probably PURPOSELY ignored and avoided a minimum of 10 "average joe's" for every male they claim was "no good" (which was just a better player than her) after he SPANKED DAT AZZ and tossed her into his personal DOG POUND collection.
I've been on enough of these site and experienced enought to know a few things:
1 - The very attractive females WILL NOT be on these sites,
2 - IF those very attractive females are on these sites they are seeking financially well-to-do males that will cater to their desires which most males can't afford to sustain,
3 - IF you are so lucky to catch one of those very attractive females chances are she a) has children at home and need help, b) don't have children but is financially over-extended and need help, c) has been abused physically, emotionally and/or financially by a male (or males) SHE WILLINGLY CHOSE and is looking for help UNTIL she gets back on her feet and will dump your NICE, average joe AZZ afterwards, d) her marketable value has diminished (and probably still is diminishing) due to changes in her physical appearance because of age, having child(ren), stress (that she typically brings upon herself and later blames the male), weight gain, etc. or e) a combination of a, b, c and d,
4 - Item 3 will also apply to many attractive and some average looking females as well,
5 - Females on these sites WILL BE juggling multiple males so don't EVER think you will be the only one UNLESS you are EXACTLY what she wants and she ISN'T getting the attention and types she expected to receive online,
6 - Out of the females that are online, at least 95 PERCENT females will CONTINUE to visit these sites and especially if she gets angry with your for whatever reason. Don't expect her to avoid them once she starts spending time with you. After all, you found her here didn't you so what do you expect?
7 - Your success potential will be much higher if you stick to the AVERAGE or BELOW AVERAGE looking females on those online sites that will be more considerate of and genuinely interested in you as opposed to what she can get out of you.
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IF you are attracted to a female you see, she is mutually attracted to you AND you have a personal interest in her then LIE TO HER. Talk about all of those things she expects to hear that she believes she may benefit from later on. DO NOT tell her you are going to give her something or you are going to do things for her. Talk about (NOT BRAG) those personal things you are SUPPOSED to be doing or planning on doing that sounds exciting and expensive (i.e., dining at expensive places, going to social events, plays, concerts, traveling, weekend getaways, etc). Many females will AUTOMATICALLY feel ENTITLED to those things if you are going to spend time with them. Her ENTITLEMENT ATTITUDE is her weakness and your admission ticket depending on how smooth you are with your delivery.
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IF you aren't attracted to her AND have no personal interest in her then TELL HER THE TRUTH (which is usually what they don't want to hear) because they use the truth to screen you out. The TRUTH is:
1 - You are attracted to her, you have a personal interest in getting to know her BUT you are NOT interested in (or can't) bear the financial responsibilities involved while spending time with her. In other words, you would like her to PAY HER OWN WAY.
2 - You want to tell her you are attracted to HER but that WEAVE (you know what ethnicity I'm talking about if she's wearing this type) does not match her hair texture, does nothing to enhance her, is NOT attractive and DOES NOT turn you on. You chose to remain silent or complimented her on it to minimize the possibilty of being rejected by her.
This will DEFINITELY turn away 90 percent of the females you come in contact with. If she remains AFTER you have told her the truth, then you just may have found yourself a female that is TRULY INDEPENDENT and GENUINELY INTERESTED IN YOU.
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IF you are just PURSUING POON then find yourself a female (or females) you can afford to spend your money on, PAY for what you want (don't forget to "jimmy up"), enjoy yourself but remain emotionally DETACHED, after a period of time start looking for a better bargain for your bucks and DUMP HER becaue all you have going there is a BUSINESS relationship.
IF you don't think it's a business relationship and she genuinely cares about you, ask her to start paying her own way all (not some) of the time and see how long it lasts. Yea, I know that for many of you the REALITY of that situation hurts and that's why you reamin in denial about it.
DON'T GET ANGRY at her IF SHE ultimately finds a bigger pay day and decides to DUMP YOU after a period of time. It's not personal, it's just business and that's how the GAME is played PLAYA". Unfortunately (for you, not her), you emotionally attached yourself to someone that was simply PROSTITUTING THEIR TIME.
BEFORE I BEGIN let me state for the record, I consider myself to be just another one of those average joe's. I don't flaunt myself or promote myself as being a "player, womanizer, baller, hunk, hot or all that" so don't bother responding with the typical "who do you think you are" or "you ain't all that" because I have just said that I wasn't, ok?
I find that reading the profiles on these social sites to be very amusing and quite hypocritical. Some of the most common phrases I read in those profiles are, "No Games", "I am not into Games", "If you are playing games move on" or "I'm tired of men who play games". It's really not games that these females are tired of, it's NOT getting what they want or NOT being IN CONTROL of the game that's their problem.
FEMALES LOVE PLAYING GAMES and one of the most common game they play is called, the "ADMISSION FEE" game (which I got from a good buddy of mine and I use quite often in my conversations). What is the admission fee game? It's quite simple, "If you want to spend time with her, you have to pay the admission fee (which is PAY FOR the cost of the date so she don't have to pay her own way or PAY HER for the time she spends with you)". They also love to play the "Tease Him and Make Him Want" or "Make Him Pay and Wait" game.
These social sites are PRIMARILY just another way for many females to keep that GAME going and pick up a few WEAK, DESPERATE FOOLS (not friends) WITH BENEFITS until "Mr. Eventually No Good" comes along. They probably PURPOSELY ignored and avoided a minimum of 10 "average joe's" for every male they claim was "no good" (which was just a better player than her) after he SPANKED DAT AZZ and tossed her into his personal DOG POUND collection.
I've been on enough of these site and experienced enought to know a few things:
1 - The very attractive females WILL NOT be on these sites,
2 - IF those very attractive females are on these sites they are seeking financially well-to-do males that will cater to their desires which most males can't afford to sustain,
3 - IF you are so lucky to catch one of those very attractive females chances are she a) has children at home and need help, b) don't have children but is financially over-extended and need help, c) has been abused physically, emotionally and/or financially by a male (or males) SHE WILLINGLY CHOSE and is looking for help UNTIL she gets back on her feet and will dump your NICE, average joe AZZ afterwards, d) her marketable value has diminished (and probably still is diminishing) due to changes in her physical appearance because of age, having child(ren), stress (that she typically brings upon herself and later blames the male), weight gain, etc. or e) a combination of a, b, c and d,
4 - Item 3 will also apply to many attractive and some average looking females as well,
5 - Females on these sites WILL BE juggling multiple males so don't EVER think you will be the only one UNLESS you are EXACTLY what she wants and she ISN'T getting the attention and types she expected to receive online,
6 - Out of the females that are online, at least 95 PERCENT females will CONTINUE to visit these sites and especially if she gets angry with your for whatever reason. Don't expect her to avoid them once she starts spending time with you. After all, you found her here didn't you so what do you expect?
7 - Your success potential will be much higher if you stick to the AVERAGE or BELOW AVERAGE looking females on those online sites that will be more considerate of and genuinely interested in you as opposed to what she can get out of you.
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IF you are attracted to a female you see, she is mutually attracted to you AND you have a personal interest in her then LIE TO HER. Talk about all of those things she expects to hear that she believes she may benefit from later on. DO NOT tell her you are going to give her something or you are going to do things for her. Talk about (NOT BRAG) those personal things you are SUPPOSED to be doing or planning on doing that sounds exciting and expensive (i.e., dining at expensive places, going to social events, plays, concerts, traveling, weekend getaways, etc). Many females will AUTOMATICALLY feel ENTITLED to those things if you are going to spend time with them. Her ENTITLEMENT ATTITUDE is her weakness and your admission ticket depending on how smooth you are with your delivery.
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IF you aren't attracted to her AND have no personal interest in her then TELL HER THE TRUTH (which is usually what they don't want to hear) because they use the truth to screen you out. The TRUTH is:
1 - You are attracted to her, you have a personal interest in getting to know her BUT you are NOT interested in (or can't) bear the financial responsibilities involved while spending time with her. In other words, you would like her to PAY HER OWN WAY.
2 - You want to tell her you are attracted to HER but that WEAVE (you know what ethnicity I'm talking about if she's wearing this type) does not match her hair texture, does nothing to enhance her, is NOT attractive and DOES NOT turn you on. You chose to remain silent or complimented her on it to minimize the possibilty of being rejected by her.
This will DEFINITELY turn away 90 percent of the females you come in contact with. If she remains AFTER you have told her the truth, then you just may have found yourself a female that is TRULY INDEPENDENT and GENUINELY INTERESTED IN YOU.
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IF you are just PURSUING POON then find yourself a female (or females) you can afford to spend your money on, PAY for what you want (don't forget to "jimmy up"), enjoy yourself but remain emotionally DETACHED, after a period of time start looking for a better bargain for your bucks and DUMP HER becaue all you have going there is a BUSINESS relationship.
IF you don't think it's a business relationship and she genuinely cares about you, ask her to start paying her own way all (not some) of the time and see how long it lasts. Yea, I know that for many of you the REALITY of that situation hurts and that's why you reamin in denial about it.
DON'T GET ANGRY at her IF SHE ultimately finds a bigger pay day and decides to DUMP YOU after a period of time. It's not personal, it's just business and that's how the GAME is played PLAYA". Unfortunately (for you, not her), you emotionally attached yourself to someone that was simply PROSTITUTING THEIR TIME.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
"UNPLANNED" Pregnancy or Calculated, Scandalous, Selfish and Irresponsible Behavior?
The excerpt below was taken from an online article:
L.A. County study raises worry over unplanned pregnancies
40% of births in county were the result of accidental conception, which can endanger babies' health, according to a report by the Department of Public Health
- April 05, 2010By Molly Hennessy-Fiske
About 40% of births in Los Angeles County each year are the result of unplanned pregnancies, which can endanger the health of babies, according to a study released by the county's Department of Public Health.
The figure is based primarily on a county survey completed in 2006 of more than 5,200 women ages 13 to 56 who had recently given birth.
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MALES DON'T GET FEMALES PREGNANT
This message is intended for males because, as you will read, most females WILL NOT accept the FACT that they have total control over getting pregnant and NOT YOU.
Males don't get females pregnant, IGNORANCE (lack of knowledge) or PRE-MEDITATED INTENT by the female gets the female pregnant. UNLESS the male knows that the female is mentally disable or the females is held against her will and FORCED to conceive and have child, the female got herself pregnant. What the male did was FOOLISHLY/STUPIDLY deposit his sperm into her and contributed to the OPPORTUNITY of her getting pregnant when they have no intent on wanting to FULLY participate in raising a child. He should be wearing a condom EVERYTIME he's engaging in sex if he does not want that responsibility.
After the male deposits his sperm into the female, she has TOTAL CONTROL as to whether or not conception can occur. There are too many forms of birth control, including what I call the "Oops Pill" (Plan B Contraceptive) that will prevent contraception if taken within a specified period of time after depositing his sperm thus preventing her from getting pregnant.
Why don't females admit to having TOTAL control of conception? You would have to ask them but my guess is FOOLISH selfishness which includes but not limited to money, lifestyle upgrade, intent to trap a male, influence from others who behave in that manner, etc. Sadly, MOST females will never admit to having total control over pregnancy which means males better "Wrap It Up" or "Don't Put It In" if he suspects the female will proceed with conception if he deposits his sperm.
Unfortunately, MOST males ARE NOT mentally strong enough to address this issue with the female or wrap it up BEFORE engaging in sex and WILL PAY a handsome price with money, stress and limited personal productivity through SELF-INFLICTED pain and suffering. I'm sure all of us know at least one male that is in that position today. The female (that wants to get pregnant) will function in a pre-meditated manner by taking little or no measures to prevent it which includes SAYING NO to the male if he is NOT wearing a condom. I do not see the male as a VICTIM, I see him as a FOOL. Nowadays, there are too many cases of males ruining their lives by allowing a female to control what happens to his sperm for him to NOT wear a condom. He will FOOLISHLY risk minutes of pleasure for years of PAIN.
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Although my comment pertains to the L.A. County study, I am sure that it can apply nationwide as well (I'm going to restrict this to the USA). I believe that the percentage of unplanned births are much lower and probably in the lower single-digit percentage. Many of you won't like what I am saying because this applies to many of you and we all know how people in denial DON'T like the TRUTH.
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MY INTERPRETATION
Unplanned Pregnancy - When BOTH parties TAKE measures to prevent conception from occuring while performing the sexual act. This means the male wearing a condom and the female utilizing one of the MANY forms forms of birth control available. Even if one or the other or both fail to utilize birth control there is the "Plan B: Morning After Pill". It is the first progestin-only pill that has been approved in the U.S. for emergency contraception AFTER either unprotected sex or a contraceptive accident, such as a condom breaking.
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My reason for stating such is because MOST (not all) of those so-called unplanned pregnancies are because:
- HE did not wear a condom,
- SHE was not taking birth control,
- SHE lied to him about taking birth control,
- SHE intentionally stopped taking birth control,
- SHE did not want to apply "Plan B" after unprotected sex,
- SHE did not tell him she was not taking birth control and HE stupidly did not ask.
Whether you want to accept it or not, the examples above constitute PLANNED and/or IRRESPONSIBLE behavior. This EXCLUDES those RARE situations where both parties used protection and conception/pregnancy occurred anyway so don't get them twisted.
EXCEPT FOR the following (as a minimum), the percentage of unplanned pregnancies are extremely low or rare as opposed to the large percentage stated above:
- the INABILITY to make rational decisions (i.e., mentally unstable),
- IGNORANCE (lack of knowledge) about sex, birth control methods and the parental responsibility that results from becoming pregnant,
- HE performed a sexual act with her while she was in a deep sleep (she's gotta be REAL deep to NOT eventually become aware) or in a comatose state,
- SHE being forced to have UNprotected sex (i.e., RAPE), held against her will and monitored until she conceives and becomes pregnant,
- protection WAS used by BOTH parties and she still got pregnant.
CONCLUSION:
As you can see above, the vast MAJORITY of so-called UNplanned pregnancies CAN BE PREVENTED by the female because SHE HAS TOTAL CONTROL over conception and pregnancy except for the rare/uncommon situations described above.
The above information will disturb, anger or cause MANY readers to EMOTIONALLY ASSume that I am being harsh towards females and not place any responsibility on the male. As a matter of fact, I expect many of you to FEEL that way as oppose to thinking RATIONALLY about the potential consequences to BOTH parties as well as the CHILD if born.
That's why I conclude that the majority of so-called UNPLANNED pregnancies are actually PLANNED based on CALCULATED, SCANDALOUS, SELFISH and IRRESPONSIBLE behavior by the female. IF she DON'T want to get pregnant she will use one of several birth control methods available to her AND require that the male wear a condom.
L.A. County study raises worry over unplanned pregnancies
40% of births in county were the result of accidental conception, which can endanger babies' health, according to a report by the Department of Public Health
- April 05, 2010By Molly Hennessy-Fiske
About 40% of births in Los Angeles County each year are the result of unplanned pregnancies, which can endanger the health of babies, according to a study released by the county's Department of Public Health.
The figure is based primarily on a county survey completed in 2006 of more than 5,200 women ages 13 to 56 who had recently given birth.
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MALES DON'T GET FEMALES PREGNANT
This message is intended for males because, as you will read, most females WILL NOT accept the FACT that they have total control over getting pregnant and NOT YOU.
Males don't get females pregnant, IGNORANCE (lack of knowledge) or PRE-MEDITATED INTENT by the female gets the female pregnant. UNLESS the male knows that the female is mentally disable or the females is held against her will and FORCED to conceive and have child, the female got herself pregnant. What the male did was FOOLISHLY/STUPIDLY deposit his sperm into her and contributed to the OPPORTUNITY of her getting pregnant when they have no intent on wanting to FULLY participate in raising a child. He should be wearing a condom EVERYTIME he's engaging in sex if he does not want that responsibility.
After the male deposits his sperm into the female, she has TOTAL CONTROL as to whether or not conception can occur. There are too many forms of birth control, including what I call the "Oops Pill" (Plan B Contraceptive) that will prevent contraception if taken within a specified period of time after depositing his sperm thus preventing her from getting pregnant.
Why don't females admit to having TOTAL control of conception? You would have to ask them but my guess is FOOLISH selfishness which includes but not limited to money, lifestyle upgrade, intent to trap a male, influence from others who behave in that manner, etc. Sadly, MOST females will never admit to having total control over pregnancy which means males better "Wrap It Up" or "Don't Put It In" if he suspects the female will proceed with conception if he deposits his sperm.
Unfortunately, MOST males ARE NOT mentally strong enough to address this issue with the female or wrap it up BEFORE engaging in sex and WILL PAY a handsome price with money, stress and limited personal productivity through SELF-INFLICTED pain and suffering. I'm sure all of us know at least one male that is in that position today. The female (that wants to get pregnant) will function in a pre-meditated manner by taking little or no measures to prevent it which includes SAYING NO to the male if he is NOT wearing a condom. I do not see the male as a VICTIM, I see him as a FOOL. Nowadays, there are too many cases of males ruining their lives by allowing a female to control what happens to his sperm for him to NOT wear a condom. He will FOOLISHLY risk minutes of pleasure for years of PAIN.
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Although my comment pertains to the L.A. County study, I am sure that it can apply nationwide as well (I'm going to restrict this to the USA). I believe that the percentage of unplanned births are much lower and probably in the lower single-digit percentage. Many of you won't like what I am saying because this applies to many of you and we all know how people in denial DON'T like the TRUTH.
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MY INTERPRETATION
Unplanned Pregnancy - When BOTH parties TAKE measures to prevent conception from occuring while performing the sexual act. This means the male wearing a condom and the female utilizing one of the MANY forms forms of birth control available. Even if one or the other or both fail to utilize birth control there is the "Plan B: Morning After Pill". It is the first progestin-only pill that has been approved in the U.S. for emergency contraception AFTER either unprotected sex or a contraceptive accident, such as a condom breaking.
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My reason for stating such is because MOST (not all) of those so-called unplanned pregnancies are because:
- HE did not wear a condom,
- SHE was not taking birth control,
- SHE lied to him about taking birth control,
- SHE intentionally stopped taking birth control,
- SHE did not want to apply "Plan B" after unprotected sex,
- SHE did not tell him she was not taking birth control and HE stupidly did not ask.
Whether you want to accept it or not, the examples above constitute PLANNED and/or IRRESPONSIBLE behavior. This EXCLUDES those RARE situations where both parties used protection and conception/pregnancy occurred anyway so don't get them twisted.
EXCEPT FOR the following (as a minimum), the percentage of unplanned pregnancies are extremely low or rare as opposed to the large percentage stated above:
- the INABILITY to make rational decisions (i.e., mentally unstable),
- IGNORANCE (lack of knowledge) about sex, birth control methods and the parental responsibility that results from becoming pregnant,
- HE performed a sexual act with her while she was in a deep sleep (she's gotta be REAL deep to NOT eventually become aware) or in a comatose state,
- SHE being forced to have UNprotected sex (i.e., RAPE), held against her will and monitored until she conceives and becomes pregnant,
- protection WAS used by BOTH parties and she still got pregnant.
CONCLUSION:
As you can see above, the vast MAJORITY of so-called UNplanned pregnancies CAN BE PREVENTED by the female because SHE HAS TOTAL CONTROL over conception and pregnancy except for the rare/uncommon situations described above.
The above information will disturb, anger or cause MANY readers to EMOTIONALLY ASSume that I am being harsh towards females and not place any responsibility on the male. As a matter of fact, I expect many of you to FEEL that way as oppose to thinking RATIONALLY about the potential consequences to BOTH parties as well as the CHILD if born.
That's why I conclude that the majority of so-called UNPLANNED pregnancies are actually PLANNED based on CALCULATED, SCANDALOUS, SELFISH and IRRESPONSIBLE behavior by the female. IF she DON'T want to get pregnant she will use one of several birth control methods available to her AND require that the male wear a condom.
Monday, February 8, 2010
The 3A's - Attractive, Abused and/or Alone
FOR THE RECORD:
- I AM that average joe and I stake NO CLAIMS to the 3H's which are HOT, HANDSOME or HO' so save your comments like, "How hot does he think he is"? or "Does he think he's God's gift"? or "He's nothing but a Ho",
- I AM NOT angry or bitter at very attractive females due to their "lack of desire for" or "lack of attraction to" us average joe's,
- I AM NOT angry and will not use words with the intent of causing pain. INSTEAD, I will use TRUTH and REALITY which cuts even deeper and causes more pain for those in denial,
- DOGS, ABUSERS, THUGS, BAD BOYS, PRETTY BOYS WITH ATTITUDE or whatever else you want to refer to them as are a NECESSARY EVIL and the counter-weight to the AVERAGE JOE. Those HARD types were created to BREAKDOWN and TRANSFORM those egotistical, ungrateful, inconsiderate, entitlement-minded, unreasonable expectation VERY ATTRACTIVE females and PREPARE them for the AVERAGE JOE. MOST average joe's will NEVER have the courage, fortitude or BALLS to do even the slightest things that the hard types will do to those very attractive females. For EVERY average joe that you see with a very attractive female, at least 80 percent of those females have been PAID FOR, USED, ABUSED, DOGGED, BANGED OUT, KNOCKED UP and TOSSED ASIDE at least once.
Over the years I have met and dated what I refer to as COMMERCIALLY very attractive females that have gone through what I call THE TRANSFORMATION. The transformation is one or a series of ABUSIVE physical, emotional and/or financial relationships that SHE CHOSE to be in that has caused her to re-evaluate HER VALUE SYSTEM and PRIORITIES in life. If she is very attractive, single and you hear any of the phrases below, she is NOW going through or has gone through THE TRANSFORMATION and may POSSIBLY be ready for a MUTUALLY loving relationship with THE AVERAGE JOE:
- I want a God-fearing man,
- I want a man that loves the Lord,
- I want a man that attends church regularly,
- I am looking for a mature man (Translation: they intially wanted an entertainer, a clown that immature someone that lives a spontaneous, carefree lifestyle. Now when SHE wants to get serious or have gotten KNOCKED UP by him she can't seem to change that entertainer, clown or immature man into a serious responsible man,
- I don't want a man who focuses on the physical (Translation: they have used their physical attractiveness in their past and it eventually got many of them into an abusive relationship),
- I want a man that will love me and my children (Translation: they don't mention financially supporting her children but you know that's included),
- I don't have time to play games (Translation: she's played games as long as it had benefitted her but the last few games she was a part of was played ON HER and she LOST, now getting older and her marketable value may be diminishing she's now considers herself to be done with games),
These females are referred to as the PHYSICALLY very attractive and they have been accustomed to receiving more attention, MORE ABUSE, more material offers and a better lifestyle upgrade than the average and below average looking female. As a matter of fact, they are accustomed to receiving with little or no effort on their part. The majority of these types of females EXPECT to receive more and experience a better lifestyle than their average female friends or the average female period but, in most cases, would never state so publically. These same female types are conditioned to NOT ACCEPT the average joe for more than:
- someone to help them when needed,
- someone to talk to when they are bored,
- someone to console them when they are emotionally down, or
- someone to kill time with and usually at joe's expense most of the time.
Do I hate or despise these types for thinking that way OR rejecting us average joe's? Absolutely not because they have the RIGHT of CHOICE and their choice should be respected. Are there average joe's that do hate or despise them for rejecting them? Yes there are MANY but that's not my burden or problem.
Usually, the only time those types of females will put out money to pay their way with joe is when they ABSOLUTELY don't want joe to get any ideas about them becoming a couple or have joe expecting to get what he wants in return (which they won't give him anyway). Bear with me because I have to say all of this to make a point later on.
Here is where I may anger many females but what the heck. I am not one to sugar coat reality. There are two categories of very attractive, 1) COMMERCIAL and 2) MENTAL.
1) COMMERCIAL - The ones that standout in a crowd and I am not speaking about because they are taller, larger or have that big ass. I am speaking about the ones that get the CONSISTENT offers of expensive cars, clothes, jewlery, move in to the big homes, take the trips, expensive dining, marriage proposals, do not have to work, live a financially IRRESPONSIBLE lifestyle that's supported by males, etc. These are the ones that usually have that smooth skin, symmetrical facial and body features, proportionate body shape with definition (small waist and no protruding gut) and don't have that big ass. I'm not saying a big ass is negative. I'm saying most of the big asses WON'T be attached to the commercial types because it has no TRUE MARKETABLE VALUE beyond an occasional spanking (not marrying) for ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY in the eyes of the more SUCCESSFUL males in this enviornment we live in.
2) MENTAL - The ones that THINK they are very attractive for the purpose of uplifting their own self-esteem and are usually average to below average looking, overweight, thick, fat and will have that big ass and/or breasts that they flaunt to attract males. These types (especially with the big ass and big breasts) are considered to be very attrictive by some average and many HORNY, lesser successful, unemployed and/or no potential males. These mental types will typically get similar offers as the commerical ones but at a significantly lower value and usually by the struggling joe, average joe or the "just above" average joe. Hey there's someone for everyone and that's the beauty of diversity.
Now that I have distinguished between the two types of very attractive we can dump the mental ones and focus on my point about the commercial ones. I have found that many of the commercial females WILL NOT be flexible and value the average joe UNTIL they have been ABUSED physically, emotionally and/or financially by males that:
- don't give a crap about them,
- see them as a trophy to flaunt,
- ballers and males with well-to-do financial means,
- they have ALLOWED to knock them up and have an uncontrollable emotional bond,
- they consider hot, very handsome, pretty and would make great trophies together,
- will provide them the lifestyle (along with knocking them up) they are expecting to receive FOR YEARS.
During this time of receiving, MANY of those female types will consider THEIR physical appearance and HIS financial status to be the glue to acquiring and maintaining that upgrade in lifestyle she expects to receive. RELIGIOUSLY SPEAKING, (what? if you didn't think I was going to go there then you really don't know me) I have found MANY of them have gotten closer to GOD AFTER they have gotten that LIFESTYLE UPGRADE or AFTER the ABUSE is over and they are alone raising their children.
THE UP SIDE TO THESE TYPES:
- There ARE NOT enough WEALTHY males out there to match the number of very attractive females so many of them will have to ABANDON their FANTASY and work with us average joe's, become that BOOTY CALL MISTRESSES or PURCHASE a PET and live with it as their COMPANION for the remainder of their years,
- Some, NOT MANY, will have been transformed AFTER THE ABUSE such that they will truly be able to VALUE the qualities in the average joe,
- Some, NOT MANY, will begin to think how they can CONTRIBUTE to a relationship with more than their EGO and LOOKS,
- Some, NOT MANY, will actually FALL IN LOVE and live happily and peacefully ever after with the average joe.
THE DOWN SIDE TO THESE TYPES:
- These female types CHOOSE to avoid the average joe and go for the brass ring so the risk they take and the rewards or damage they receive is due to THEIR CHOICES and they should GIVE CREDIT TO themselves or BLAME NO ONE ELSE but themselves although they WILL give credit to GOD for hitting the relationship lottery (so they think at that time). Following that logic, I guess GOD created the ABUSERS to TRANSFORM these female types so that they would eventually see VALUE in the average joe,
- After MANY of these females will have been given this lifestyle upgrade, ABUSED during that upgrade and divorced (or simply toss aside as the ex-mistress) they will be TOO DAMAGED for any healthy relationship with the average joe,
- I would consider many of them to be RELATIONSHIP REJECTS waiting to be RECALLED back to that or another material and EVENTUAL ABUSIVE/DYSFUNCTIONAL relationship due to their EMOTIONAL STATE and ATTITUDE and the best that many of them will be is PLAYER FOOD (as a friend of mine once said),
- MANY of them will still not have learned their lesson and will continue to REJECT the average joe OR they will accept joe under THEIR TERMS and WILL NOT cater to joe as they did in their previously abusive relationship(s).
MESSAGE TO THE JOE'S:
- There are UNDAMAGED, attractive (not very attractive) and LOVING females out there. You DON'T have to sacrifice and go out of your way trying to REHAB or FINANCIALLY SUPPORT one of those VERY attractive, DAMAGED females ASSuming she will be yours afterwards,
- USE WISDOM (not emotions) and place just as much emphasis on a female's GENUINE INTEREST and BEHAVIOR TOWARDS YOU as you do on HER PHYSICAL APPEARANCE,
- DON'T ASSume just because she's ALLOWING you into her space that she is genuinely interested in you,
- Approach those types with caution because I know most of you will become weak due to her attractiveness,
- DO NOT put forth any more effort for her than she puts out for you, and
- If you FOOLISHLY proceed without caution, she hooks you emotionally, drains you emotionally & financially and moves on, DON'T BLAME HER, blame YOURSELF.,
- LASTLY, the next time you come in contact with one of those very attractive, single, 40+ females I hope that BEFORE you put forth any effort towards her you will ask yourself, "HAS SHE BEEN TRANSFORMED"?
MESSAGE TO THE VERY ATTRACTIVE FEMALES:
Sadly at least half of you are 1) DATING a man that's in a MARITAL or NON-MARITAL (supposed-to-be) monogamous relationship HOPING you will eventually be his one and only, 2) ALLOWING joe's to spend time with you UNTIL your eventual DOG or ABUSER comes along, 3) WAITING on the sidelines and OVERLOOKING decent men for a PARTICULAR man, 4) In a DEAD-END relationship hoping it goes where YOU want it to go and/or 5) Have been DOGGED and ABUSED so the following will apply. YOU:
- YOU WILL NOT change your expectations
- YOU WILL REMAIN in those types of relations
- YOU WILL wait for or RETURN to a past abuser
- YOU WILL continue to select males that will ABUSE YOU
- YOU WILL USE or ATTEMPT TO USE a joe as your platonic friend
- YOU WILL waste your years away and eventually realize it was not worth it
- YOU WILL NEVER have a mutually loving relationship due to your POOR standards
- YOU WILL NEVER let go of the thought of going back if you do get involved with a joe
- YOU WILL NOT step down or settle (as they say) for a decent joe that will truly love you
- YOU WILL NOT give joe the same consideration, effort and respect you gave your abuser(s)
- YOU WILL sadly remain alone PRETENDING to be happy, SELFISHLY unsatisfied with joe or in an ABUSIVE, MISERABLE relationship (or series of relationships of YOUR choosing) with someone who DOESN'T GIVE A CRAP ABOUT YOU.
CLOSING STATEMENT:
YOU will FOREVER be your own worse enemy because of your ATTITUDE. Since you WILLINGLY choose those types I have to say YOU deserve whatever good or bad that comes out of it.
Thursday, February 4, 2010
MARRIAGE and the 3D's - Deceit, Desperation and Denial
I will begin with a question. How STUPID can you be to think that YOUR DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP was going to improve by getting married? Now you go from one STUPID act which was REMAIN in that dysfunctional, non-marital relationship, to the second STUPID act which was GET MARRIED to the third and most ULTIMATE STUPID act which is plan to or actually have a child or children in what is NOW a DYSFUNCTIONAL MARRIAGE thinking that will make the marriage better.
I am going to comment on a subject that many of you WILL NOT like. Why? Because it RUINS the fun and fantasy that exist during the whole engagement process and WEDDING ceremony. It simply exposes the 3D's that I have stated in the subject. This could "possibly" apply to monogamous, non-marital relationships as well but the reason why I chose marriage is because those vows are OPENLY and VAGUELY stated during the ceremony and MOST of the time THEY ARE NOT adhered to. If they weren't stated and simply ASSumed, I would have nothing to say because there is NO VIOLATION where there is NO CLEARLY DETAILED verbal or written agreement. ASSumptions in a relationship DO NOT constitute an agreement and therefore a VIOLATION of that relationship cannot exist.
Here is a MODIFIED example of a traditional vow that would reflect the REALITY of many marriages:
"I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my lawfully wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or maybe for worse, definitely for richer but I'm not sure for poorer, in sickness if I can tolerate you and in health, to love and to cherish you as long as I have it my way most of the time or until someone else comes along that I feel is better, to love and cherish you and whomever else I can while making my best attempt to keep it away from you, to lie or give you what you want to keep you happy and shut you up regardless of the stress to me, to be deceitful when I feel it necessary in order to continually support your state of denial; from this day forward until death or divorce do us part".
Am I anti-marriage? ABSOLUTELY NOT. I am anti-3D's when it comes to marriage and believe that NO ONE should enter marriage until they are READY and WILLING to comply and conform to vows they CLEARLY (not vaguely) state. It does not matter if it's an OPEN or MONOGAMOUS marriage which both do exist. What matter the most to me is HONESTY. If not, change those vows to reflect what your BEHAVIOR will actually be thusly ELIMINATING the 3D's or just DON'T GET MARRIED. Will they do that? Hell nah because it's easier to lie, be deceitful or accept lies and deceit rather than accept TRUTH and not have that person they desire.
I also love it when they bring GOD into the ceremony KNOWING DAMN WELL they won't conform to those vows (lol). Oh yea, I forgot about the ole "my flesh is weak" excuse when it comes to outside sexual encounters. I guess that's what RELIGION is all about huh? Lying NOW and simply asking for forgiveness LATER, right? (lol).
I consider wedding ceremonies and wedding vows, FOR MOST, to be for "Entertainment Purposes ONLY" based upon OBSERVED and STATED BEHAVIOR of most marriages as well as the HIGH DIVORCE RATE and therefore "For Entertainment Purposes ONLY" should be stated on the wedding invitations and posted at the wedding location just as they do on those psychic infomercials.
FINAL COMMENT: I've heard some say that "a marriage (referring to their marriage) is hard to maintain". My response to those of you that say that is, "It's not YOUR marriage that is hard to maintain, it's those 3D's that's the foundation of YOUR marriage that makes it hard to maintain because YOU SELFISHLY wanted, tricked, trapped or pressured him/her and now YOU are paying the price".
I am going to comment on a subject that many of you WILL NOT like. Why? Because it RUINS the fun and fantasy that exist during the whole engagement process and WEDDING ceremony. It simply exposes the 3D's that I have stated in the subject. This could "possibly" apply to monogamous, non-marital relationships as well but the reason why I chose marriage is because those vows are OPENLY and VAGUELY stated during the ceremony and MOST of the time THEY ARE NOT adhered to. If they weren't stated and simply ASSumed, I would have nothing to say because there is NO VIOLATION where there is NO CLEARLY DETAILED verbal or written agreement. ASSumptions in a relationship DO NOT constitute an agreement and therefore a VIOLATION of that relationship cannot exist.
Here is a MODIFIED example of a traditional vow that would reflect the REALITY of many marriages:
"I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my lawfully wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or maybe for worse, definitely for richer but I'm not sure for poorer, in sickness if I can tolerate you and in health, to love and to cherish you as long as I have it my way most of the time or until someone else comes along that I feel is better, to love and cherish you and whomever else I can while making my best attempt to keep it away from you, to lie or give you what you want to keep you happy and shut you up regardless of the stress to me, to be deceitful when I feel it necessary in order to continually support your state of denial; from this day forward until death or divorce do us part".
Am I anti-marriage? ABSOLUTELY NOT. I am anti-3D's when it comes to marriage and believe that NO ONE should enter marriage until they are READY and WILLING to comply and conform to vows they CLEARLY (not vaguely) state. It does not matter if it's an OPEN or MONOGAMOUS marriage which both do exist. What matter the most to me is HONESTY. If not, change those vows to reflect what your BEHAVIOR will actually be thusly ELIMINATING the 3D's or just DON'T GET MARRIED. Will they do that? Hell nah because it's easier to lie, be deceitful or accept lies and deceit rather than accept TRUTH and not have that person they desire.
I also love it when they bring GOD into the ceremony KNOWING DAMN WELL they won't conform to those vows (lol). Oh yea, I forgot about the ole "my flesh is weak" excuse when it comes to outside sexual encounters. I guess that's what RELIGION is all about huh? Lying NOW and simply asking for forgiveness LATER, right? (lol).
I consider wedding ceremonies and wedding vows, FOR MOST, to be for "Entertainment Purposes ONLY" based upon OBSERVED and STATED BEHAVIOR of most marriages as well as the HIGH DIVORCE RATE and therefore "For Entertainment Purposes ONLY" should be stated on the wedding invitations and posted at the wedding location just as they do on those psychic infomercials.
FINAL COMMENT: I've heard some say that "a marriage (referring to their marriage) is hard to maintain". My response to those of you that say that is, "It's not YOUR marriage that is hard to maintain, it's those 3D's that's the foundation of YOUR marriage that makes it hard to maintain because YOU SELFISHLY wanted, tricked, trapped or pressured him/her and now YOU are paying the price".
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