MOST Males Are Cowards and Will Remain In Bad Relationships

I have to say that MOST males aren't going to do a thing about their UNHAPPY situation because they would rather DO and accept little to nothing from her in return rather than be without her".
 

[DISCLAIMER]

This DOES APPLY to ALL males that are NOT receiving the kind of treatment they DESIRE in the relationship they are in.

This DOES APPLY to ALL males that are DOING and NOT receiving and have been told to simply PRAY about it.

This DOES APPLY to ALL males that KNOW they should leave but their DIGNITY has been stripped by her and his SELF-ESTEEM is too low to want to do something about it.

[END OF DISCLAIMER]

I believe that it is down right PATHETIC that so many of you males are STILL in a relationship that is BENEFITING HER but NOT YOU. You read my posts, throw your fist up in the air, say "hell yea" and then RUN BACK to those same types of females that I ADVISE YOU to avoid.

"What Is Wrong With You Man"? Show some courage and make a choice:

1. Take my advice, change YOUR life in a manner that will BENEFIT YOU or,
2. Shut up, stop reading my posts and SERVE HER in the manner that SHE DEMANDS of you.

You can't come to my party, have a good time and then GO RIGHT back to that miserable situation after I've made you feel good about yourself. It's HER UNGRATEFUL ASS that is supposed to be making you feel good about yourself. You are supposed to come to my party to simply ENHANCE the good feelings that she is already giving you.

Most males are just paying, doing and hoping for a relationship and MAYBE an occasional piece from time to time when she feels like SHE want to REWARD HIM like the Pavlov's Dog Experiment:

[PAVLOV'S THEORY]

The idea is that if we associate one thing with another (in this case, associate a bell with food), that eventually the same things will happen when the associated thing happens as when the original impetus happens. The dogs would start salivating when they saw their food... so they would ring a bell when the food came, and eventually, the dogs would start salivating when the bell rang... even when it was not accompanied by food.

[DUVAL'S THEORY]

The same thing happens in everyday life to those 9 out of 10 males above. She has conditioned him to think that AS LONG AS he is with her, there is HOPE that things will get better for him so he continues to do more for her. If he becomes frustrated she MAY show him what he is MAY get or even break him off a piece so that he REMAINS OBEDIENT to her.

[RECOMMENDATION]

There is no need to agree with this post IF YOU:

1. Are in an unhappy and uncooperative relationship and YOU REFUSE to leave it.

2. Are NOT getting the respect and FAIR treatment you should be getting but you refuse to change the way you think and behave.

[CONCLUSION]

TO THE 9 OUT OF 10 MALES that's reading this that WILL NOT change their situation, I can only say " MORE PAIN, FRUSTRATION and DISAPPOINTMENT to you".

TO THAT COURAGEOUS 1 OUT OF 10 MALES that has decided to DUMP that ungrateful, entitlement minded female and CHANGE the way he thinks and behaves, I wish you much happiness, peace of mind and prosperity in your future.

FORGET ABOUT HER: What Does "Your Future" Look Like?

My concern is NOT for the well-being and future of MOST females. This system and the STUPID decisions of males, that will not listen to me, will financially provide for and take care of them.

 

[DISCLAIMER]

This DOES APPLY to any decent male that truly cares about HIS future and well-being ABOVE the future and well-being of females that DID NOT CONTRIBUTE to his growth and development.

[END OF DISCLAIMER]

Tell me about your future? Are you financially stable, working towards that OR are you spending TIME and MONEY in your attempts to get the attention, acceptance, p*ssy from (one or several females) or a relationship with a particular female? Trust me (from experience) when I say that you CANNOT ACCOMPLISH both of those things IF you are attempting to do them at the same time. 

All you will do is help her SECURE what she wants and MOST of them have been raised and feel as if they can ALWAYS go to some other male that has secured HIS future later and live off of his sacrifices and earnings AS LONG AS SHE HAS A P*SSY because YOU are just that WEAK.

[ QUESTION]

What is it that makes the decent man put himself, his productivity, his prosperity, his happiness, his peace of mind and his self worth BELOW that of a female's?

[MY CONCERNS]

I am concerned about the thinking and behavior of those decent, common, average Joe males who have SACRIFICED or IS STILL SACRIFICING that which he has worked for and earned BECAUSE he was told he is SUPPOSED TO BE the primary provided EVEN IF SHE has a job and is making money.

I am concerned about how those SAME MALES are NOT taught to EXPECT financial participation and effort from females (especially working and physically capable one) DURING the dating period and AFTER there has been a marital or non-marital commitment.

I am concerned about the SELF-INFLICTED PAIN and SUFFERING that goes on with those males simply to make or keep her happy.

I am concerned that although those males are WITNESS to other males RUINING THEIR LIVES in that manner that THEY CONTINUE to think and behave in such a non-productive (for him) manner.

[CONCLUSION]

Listen to me now or risk lots of disappointment, pain, suffering and FINANCIAL LOSS later if you choose for HER BENEFIT as opposed to YOUR BENEFIT.

ANY FEMALE that comes to you EXPECTING YOU to financially support her OR financially pay her way while spending time with you (AND SHE HAS A JOB) is the type of female YOU DON'T NEED IN YOUR COMPANY or YOUR LIFE.

MALE DATE RAPE!!! A Very Traumatic and Serious Matter

There are SO MANY males out there that are nothing but ATM'S for the benefit and entertainment of WORKING females that I refer to as RAPISTS OF MEN that are CLAIMING to be independent, QUALITY women.  

[DISCLAIMER]

This DOES NOT APPLY to women who pay their own way

This DOES APPLY to females who PLAY that whomever invites pay GAME. How many times have they ACTUALLY invited YOU out and paid for it?

[END OF DISCLAIMER]

MANY males are constantly being DATE RAPED.  UNLIKE their female rape victims, males ARE NOT encouraged to take the NECESSARY STEPS to PREVENT it from happening again and again.  As a matter of FACT, males are RAISED to believe that is what is supposed to happen to them and it is THEIR DUTY as a man to continue this behavior.  

It is SO SAD and has happened SO REGULARLY that you hear MALES LAUGHING about how they and other males were DATE RAPED. This is because DATE RAPING of males has become a SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE SPORT and WAY OF LIFE.

Don't feel GUILTY or ASHAMED because you were not the only DATE RAPE VICTIM. 

[QUESTIONS]

- Has any female labeled you as JUST FRIENDS but want you to PAY HER WAY?

- Do you go out with her and she CONVINCES YOU that you are having a good time (at your expense of course)?

- Do you go out to dine and when the bill comes they HAND IT TO YOU or SHE LOOKS AT YOU AND EXPECTS YOU TO PAY THE ENTIRE BILL?

[RESPONSE]

If you said YES to ANY of the above then YOU are BEING SETUP TO BE or have already been a DATE RAPE VICTIM. Did you like the way it felt?

She got you to spend YOUR money, feed her and and had you thinking that you had such a good time then she went someone else and give it up or got on her phone and told someone how EASY it was to get that FREEBIE. Joke is on you wanna-be Playa. 

There are some very SCANDALOUS, CALCULATION, MAN-USING and INCONSIDERATE, WORKING females out there that DO NOT CARE about YOU. 

They want you to SPEND YOUR MONEY on them while they SPEND THEIR MONEY on themselves or someone else. 

[HOW DO YOU KNOW IF SHE VALUES YOU] 

- She has NO PROBLEM GOING DUTCH (that's paying your own way for you idiots and morons that don't know) and will still be pleasant and have a "genuine" interest in you afterwards

- If she VALUES you and your company, she will DISPLAY her ability to be financially RESPONSIBLE thus showing you that she can be a good "candidate" for a mate in a relationship and NOT just a liability looking for a FREE RIDE 

[CONCLUSION]

If you nave been a DATE RAPE VICTIM in the past, DO NOT ALLOW this to happen to you in the future. 

All I can do is INFORM YOU and what you do afterwards is YOUR CHOICE.

Seek The Path Of Least Resistence and Go Where You Are Wanted

I am a true believer in NOT tryinig to "ice skate uphill" or "forcing that square peg into that round hole". If you find thoughtfulness, love and consideration anywhere by all means accept her and cherish her.
 

[DISCLAIMER]

This DOES APPLY to ANY decent, common, average Joe male that has been looked upon as "unwanted", "undesirable", "not qualified" or "cheap".

This DOES NOT APPLY to the abusive type (players, pretty boys and thugs). You should REMAIN with those OVER QUALIFIED females that choose you instead of the average Joe.

[END OF DISCLAIMER]

You have to STOP wasting your life trying to go the TRADITIONAL or POLITICALLY CORRECT way when YOU aren't wanted and find YOUR peace and happiness with whomever she is.

Whether you believe it or not, you are desired by more than just your "so-called" OWN KIND or OWN PEOPLE (whatever that ridiculous statement means nowadays).

Life should be about living in a productive, respectful and enjoyable manner with someone that feels the SAME WAY about you. Unfortunately, most of you have been raised or programmed (which is the same in most cases) to believe that YOU have to REMAIN inside of your ethnic, racial, gender, religious or whatever else box in search of companionship.

YOU are doing yourself a huge disservice living by someone else's standards or desires that IS NOT getting you the loving, healthy and loyal companionship that you deserve.

[CONCLUSION]

Change the way you think (not how someone wants you to think) and you will change the direction in your life.

The Older Man and a "Much" Younger Woman Controversy

I am the type of person, as you can see by my postings, that don't give a shit what someone else says about me or what I do. As long as I'm enjoying my life, respecting myself and doing 

no harm to myself, respecting others, not harming others my message to those that don't like what I say, do or have issues with this post is:

- GET A LIFE OF YOUR OWN

[DISCLAIMER]

None.

[END OF DISCLAIMER]

[MESSAGE TO OLDER WOMEN]

You got your education, your job (or your business), your car, your apartment (or home), you travel to different places and I applaud you.

You were young once, you had your opportunities and you took advantage of it or should have taken advantage of it. Now it's time to move out the way just as the older women had to do when YOU were that younger woman.

If you want to play the "Cougar" role, go right on and do so. I'm not mad at you and I do know of some "Cubs" that "may" possibly love to hook up with (not commit to) you.

[MY COMMENT]

There is a combination of "Hating the Older Man Because He Has a Much Younger Woman" and "Envy of the Younger Woman Because She Is a Younger Woman" that exists.

This post came about because last night I went to this sports bar to watch the second half of Monday Night Football (no I did not watch the presidential debate).

It just so happened that this older guy came into the bar with this much younger woman (about 35 years difference in age). She appeared to be in her late 20's so you idiots can do the math. She was wearing her gear and really getting into the game. Talking trash, giving high five, etc. and I'm saying to myself, "She's cool..". 

There was a table of older (much older than her) females next to us and I could not help but notice the frown on a couple of their faces when they looked at the older man and much younger woman. Especially when she reached over and kissed him. For a while, those two females paid more attention to that couple than they did to the game.

They start talking about the couple and one of the comments (of course) was, "She just want him for his money". I had to laugh to myself because that's the same mentality that they have. They have a job and expect men to pay so what's new?

[FACT]

Living in Los Angeles, I've had the pleasure to date multi-culturally (that's different culture for the morons) and I've found a distinct difference in the "american mindset" vs the "non-american mindset" when it comes to this topic.

That american mindset of a younger woman has to do with WHAT WILL YOU GIVE ME if I am going to be with you "old man". There is very little respect for the older man by the younger woman in this culture. 

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A SIDE NOTE: There is very little respect for older people and seniors period in this american culture.
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That non-american INFLUENCED mindset of a younger woman has to do with WHAT CAN WE DO TOGETHER and LET ME LEARN FROM YOUR EXPERIENCE and WISDOM if we are going to be together. 

[PERSONAL OPINION]

I would prefer to try to develop a relationship with a younger woman:

- "with less mental/emotional baggage", 
- "that is genuinely trying to make it in life"
- "is open-minded, COOPERATIVE with that i wanna" attitude and 
- "is looking for an older man to develop a relationship with.

I would NOT prefer to try to develop a relationship with an older woman:

- "with lots of mental/emotional baggage due to HER poor choices in men", 
- "that has a good job and REFUSE to pay her own way",
- "dating younger men and comparing them to older men" and 
- "is closed-minded, UNCOOPERATIVE with that i ain't gonna" attitude.

[CAUTION]

DO NOT THINK that a young woman WON'T BURN YOU. There is the american mindset and the non-american mindset that exist so I advise you to BE VERY OBSERVANT regardless of who she is.

Taking time to get to know the non-american females is the ONLY WAY you will be able to know if she's GENUINE or CORRUPTED by "the american way". 

You should already know that MOST american females are NOT WORTH the time and effort UNLESS you are NOT trying to develop a genuine interest in them.

[TIP]

If she is non-american and MOST of her females are american (especially if they are the american NEGRO), I would say that HER value system has been compromised so you are possibly wasting your time IF you were expecting that genuine, considerate, non-american behavior.

[CONCLUSION]

Some females "may" agree, many american-minded females "will" disagree and some will even say, "I hate women", "Where are you meeting these women" or "Who chewed you up and spit you out"?

I say to them (lesbians excluded), "How many american minded females have you dated? Until you've dated them for at least 5 years on a personal, intimate level, you don't qualify to give your opinion as to how females interact with me or any other male.

I'm done so now you can attack me.....

Marriage and Divorce are both Choices

MARRIAGE is an Option not a Requirement in order to Obtain Happiness and Success. MARITAL or NON-MARITAL relationships DOES NOT guarantee you happiness. YOU guarantee YOU happiness based upon the SENSIBLE (not emotional) decisions YOU make about your life. I AM NOT anti-marriage, I AM pro-healthy relationship for both parties which applies to marital and non-marital relationships.

If there is MUTUAL happiness, co-operation and fulfillment in marriage or non-marital relationships then you have found a good situation and I suggest that you remain in it. If it is INTENTIONALLY one-sided and YOU are on the short end of it I say DIVORCE in mandatory.

Do people grow apart AFTER years of marriage? Sure they do for whatever their reasons are. Should they separate? I would say "yes" IF they cannot resolve those issues and it creates discomforts and violent or potentially violent acts. Usually that "growing apart" AFTER years of being together is based SOLELY on IMMATURITY and/or SELFISH desires.

Excluding financial reasons typically that so-called "growing apart" is PRIMARILY based upon ATTENTION (or potential attention) from the OPPOSITE SEX. What that attention is depends on each individual. It could be something as simple as being more active (doing things together) in the relationship, being more attentive to them, lost the physical attraction due to change in apperance or to engaging in an outside sexual relationship (for whatever their reasons are).

The vows are well scripted (i.e., ... to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part..."). It's a nice fairytale beginning (well at least for her) surrounded with gifts, high emotions and lots of celebrating.

Too bad those vows don't reflect realistic behavior by MOST couples in this culture we live in huh?

- Is "to have and to hold" restricted to ONLY the one they are stating those vows to or do it mean "to have and to hold you and whomever else I can as well"?

- We all can agree there would be no problems "for better" but what about "for worse"? How far will one go before they consider "for worse" to be too much to bear? What is "for worse"? Financial pressure & abuse, physical abuse, substance abuse, adultry, etc. that would cause hardships to the marriage?

- We all can agree there would be no problems "for richer" but what about "for poorer" IF you were doing reasonable well prior to that? Do you really believe that she will remain with him if HE loses or quit his job and can't find a reasonable paying job for a couple of years? Especially how this economy is these days? Especially if she has a good or high paying job and expected to place the burden of financial support solely on her paycheck (even if she can afford to do so)?

- We all can agree there would be no problems "for health" but what about "for sickness"? In addition, would he/she remain FAITHFUL during those times of sickness by the other spouse? We all know how many AREN'T faithful in times of health don't we.

WHAT IS MY POINT?

MOST marriage vows WILL NOT get into more detail regarding the conditions of that marriage because one (if not both) parties know ahead of time they are NOT going to treat that marriage in a MONOMAGOUS manner. One party usually "hopes/prays" for monogamy and the other "knows" if opportunity for an affair comes along they will take advantage of it. In many cases, there are multiple relationships going on prior to those vows that one or both knows they will attempt to continue AFTER the vows have been spoken.

SHOULD VOWS AND THE CONSEQUENCES FOR VIOLATING THEM BE STATED IN MORE DETAIL and AGREED UPON IN ADVANCE?

My response to that is yes but that would ruin the FAIRYTALE wedding. I'm sure that it would minimize the number of early marriages as well as minimize the number of divorces. One other thing, I am sure that it would minimize the number of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE cases that annually exist IF the male wasn't pressured (yea I said pressured) into getting married so early in life AND especially when both are typically TOO IMMATURE and INEXPERIENCED in life to say NO to the many temptations that exist (i.e., sexual and financial).

You have to live, enjoy, learn from and have had enough of those sexual and financial experiences such that you can NOW decide that you can say NO to the sexual and financial temptations from others that will exist. Only then will he or she be MONOGAMOUS in a marriage IF that is the intent to begin with. Otherwise, you might as well agree to an OPEN marriage.

SHOULD THE END OF THE VOW STATE, "FROM THIS DAY FORWARD UNTIL DEATH OR DIVORCE DO US PART"?
Sure but again that takes away from the "happily ever after" FAIRYTALE. Very few people want to address the "what if it don't last" because that's not how you write a fairytale script.

DO ALL MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE?

Of course not but the majority (>55 percent) of them do. I believe that they do because people marry MOST of the time for the wrong reasons (i.e., 1) got pregnant, 2) married to give child same last name, 3) pressure to marry or break up, 4) marry to keep someone else from marrying him/her, 5) marry because of parent's pressure, 6) marry because other friends got married, 7) married to get away from home, 8) married due to society's pressure, 9) marry to upgrade their lifestyle, etc.)).

What Is Wrong With YOU PEOPLE (Part 2)

Have any of you ever heard this statement: "If I want someone submissive that I can control, I'll get a pet".

DISCLAIMER (to the idiots and morons)

I don't think you will get it but go ahead and give this your best shot anyway (lol)

END OF DISCLAIMER

In some cases, I believe that I need to begin with definitions to assist in eliminating confusion or confrontation with IDIOTS and MORONS.

(Definitions)

ATTITUDE - (1) A settled way of thinking or feeling, typically reflected in a person's behavior. (2) Someone who is concieted and thinks of themselves too highly.

SUBMISSIVE - (1) One who gives over their rights, their desires, and themselves to another.  (2) Allowing others to have control over you.
(End of Definitions)

Before I begin I want to share this brief dialogue between myself and a BLACK MAN regarding a cartoon which led to me posting this.  I removed his name because it's not the name that is important, it's HIS mentality and what results from it.

(Dialogue)

(His Comment)  The attitude is exactly what I LOVE ABOUT MY SISTERS and and would not want it any other way.  If I want someone submissive that I can control, I'll get a pet.

(My Response)  Please describe to me at least three different "submissive" and "attitude" behaviors per your above comment so that I can clearly and intelligently understand how you are thinking. Thanks in advance.
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(His Response)  No. You don't need to know how i'm thinking.

(End of Dialogue)


MY COMMENT

There is a whole lot of confusion and misinterpretation with those two words as it applies to male and female interaction and especially with certain people.  I believe he has aligned himself with item (2) of each definition above.

In this case, definitions number (2) has become normal and accepted while number (1) has become abnormal and ridiculed by MANY of YOU PEOPLE.  I don't think I need to pull out "THE CARD" to let you know who I'm talking about.

As you can see, in the dialogue above, there is a refusal to clarify one's self when asked to do so.  You still wonder why a majority (not a minority) of a certain people are plagued with confusion and confrontation?  This is why I choose to LIMIT "my time with" and "my exposure to" people who think and behave in this manner.

Some people simply love attitude and the confusion and confrontation it produces.  Are they wrong for doing so?  Absolutely not.

I have also heard many of those same types of people say, "I love a man/woman that is a challenge" which typically means "someone that will foolishly argue with me and not do as I request".  Believe it or not, this is a MENTALITY that exists in EXTREMELY LARGE numbers with a certain group of YOU PEOPLE.

QUESTIONS (for YOU PEOPLE)

1.  How did you get to this IRRATIONAL mental state?

2.  Why would YOU consider someone to be submissive (as defined in number (2)) simply because they listen to you and do as you request (not demand)?

3.  Why do YOU consider someone that RESPECTS YOU and HONORS your request to be someone you are controlling?

4.  Why do YOU consider someone that RESPECTS YOU and HONORS your request to be a "pet"?

5.  Why would YOU not want someone in your life that listens, RESPECTS YOU and HONORS your request?

6.  Did you ever think that person submitting to YOU does so because they realize that YOUR REQUEST makes sense so they comply?

7.  Why would you want someone that is a so-called "challenge" to you?  Don't you have enough sense to make YOUR career or YOUR ability to learn and improve the quality of your life enough of a challenge? 


CONCLUSION

You still wonder why I have made a conscious decision to avoid many of YOU PEOPLE and especially females with ATTITUDE?

We all have the right to choose how we think, how we behave and the people we want to associate with as long as it is legal whether it makes RATIONAL sense or not.

Do you perfer "HER bad attitude and confrontation" over "HER cooperation and submission"?

I'm interested in your comments so, "Let's Talk About It..."