Males have ruined their lives getting personally involved with what I call FixHerUppers. They are unstable females that are riddled with emotional, financial and physical problems.
The good man foolishly believes if he comes to her aid it will secure a relationship with her and eventually make his life better having her around.
The truth of the matter is that in most cases it will not improve his lifestyle but rather bring a burden into his lifestyle and improve the quality of her life while she dumps her responsibilities, burdens and attitude onto him.
Response:
Never reduce your quality of life by allowing a trouble-some female into your personal life and don’t allow her or her problems to move in with you. If you are going to allow her into your social life then do so at an emotional distance. Being social is fine as long as you are in control, not getting emotionally involved, not paying her way or helping her with her financial responsibilities.
The moment that you begin to lose control or foolishly think of giving up that control; it’s time to toss in the towel and get out of that ring.
Reason:
You, in most cases, are simply a means to putting an end to her burdens and responsibilities. She will generally cater to you or allow you to spend time with her in order to get you to bring her into your comfortable lifestyle. Once she’s gotten in and you have relaxed she will place her burdens and responsibilities on you and probably cut back or quit doing the things she did initially to trick you into making that stupid decision.
Once you have relieved her burdens you will no longer be of any use to her and she will either take total control of your life or dump you and move on. That move is usually to an ex or someone that she has been seeing while with you. If she had not been seeing anyone she will move on to be available to have men cater to her until THE ONE comes along that she will submit to that she knew all along definitely wasn’t you.
Very true. I have a friend who played Capt. Save-A-Chick and is now in debt with five of her baby daddys' kids. He's since admitted that he thought by trying to "save her" would result in her undying loyalty. He learned he was wrong when she slept with his cousin.
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This is a great Blog, I tell you as an Ex NFL Player, I see men get played all the time. I was with a woman, who tried to have me take on her responsibilities. What she didn't realize was you can't play me, because I go on feelings when your with someone and it doesn't feel good, thats God trying to get your attention. A man should always keep his mind on his money, when dating. The best relationships are when two people come together and they are financially stable alone. If your in a relationship and you need your mate to pay your car insurance, part of rent, cell bill, thats not a relationship thats an obligation, and believe me those don't last, they get recycled like trash...Ap
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ReplyDeleteI've been hoping she would lose that baby weight for years! Two kids by two different guys, and she's been back and forth with not only them but other guys I've discovered.
And now I am broke! She played me and she played me well....but no more!!!