One of the worst things that you can do is REMAIN in an unhappy or dysfunctional relationship thinking that it is going to be for the benefit of the child or children.
[YOU ARE SETTING A VERY POOR EXAMPLE AS A PROTECTIVE PARENT]
You are stating, by your behavior, that it is ACCEPTABLE and that YOU SHOULD REMAIN in an unhappy, miserable, dysfunctional and SOMETIMES violent relationship if you have a child or children together.
[CHILDREN ARE NOT STUPID EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE]
That child or those children know when something is NOT RIGHT with mommy and daddy and the ONLY ONES pretending in that family are THE TWO ADULT MORONS who decides to remain in that relationship.
[NO OPEN SIGNS OF AFFECTION FOR EACH OTHER]
You are doing a GREAT JOB of showing that child or children HOW interaction between 2 adults who SUPPOSED to love each other are to behave.
You show them, through their observation, HOW TO AVOID loving contact, displays of affection and maintain your distance from the other person.
[WHAT WOULD I DO]
I would NOT REMAIN with her, GET CUSTODY of the child (if possible) and if not then continue to BE PRESENT IN THEIR LIFE and show my child or children the love and attention they need from their daddy.
I would DATE AGAIN and eventually (depending upon their ages) let them see that IT'S OK to not be with mommy and that DADDY IS HAPPY being ALONE or WITH SOMEONE NEW. This lets them know that LIFE DOES NOT END AFTER A BREAKUP.
[CONCLUSION]
If you are in a dysfunctional relationship, consider the FREE TIME, PEACE OF MIND and POTENTIAL OPPORTUNITIES that WILL EXIST after you have DISSOLVED THAT RELATIONSHIP.
REMEMBER THAT YOUR CHILD IS WATCHING YOUR BEHAVIOR.
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