Monday, August 8, 2016

JAI DUVAL'S CONTINUING EDUCATION: "HER EMOTIONAL FUCK UP: Can Be Allowed Depending Upon What It Is (Or Was) AND WHAT SHE (Not You) Is Going To Do About It"

Let me first state that this particular class is for SMART men, MATURE men and men who are NOT MENTALLY FUBAR (Fucked Up Beyond Any Repair).
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[MEN NEED TO MAKE SURE THEIR DECISION TO NOT LOOK BACK IS NOT JUST AS EMOTIONALLY FOOLISH AS HER EMOTIONALLY FOOLISH DECISION WAS]
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For me, I would consider LOOKING BACK at a past relationship if it was a good one BEFORE the separation and DEPENDING UPON what happened.
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For other men, I realize that there is NO LOOKING BACK for whatever those reasons are. To them I say, make sure that what you REFUSE TO LOOK BACK AT is worse than what you are LOOKING FORWARD to.
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[IF SHE FUCKED UP IT'S HER RESPONSIBILITY TO CORRECT IT]
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It takes a MATURE woman to ADMIT her fuck up to that man and especially IF she separated from him and want him back.
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Men have to STOP feeling as if they need to do whatever it is they can to FIX a FUCK UP that the woman has caused. 
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It's HER RESPONSIBILITY to fix it not his and if she's UNABLE to fix it at that time AVOID HER until she can fix it BUT if she is UNWILLING to put forth the effort to fix it then NEVER communicate again.
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[IF SHE WANTS BACK INTO THAT RELATIONSHIP]
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Going back does not mean IMMEDIATE earning of one's trust and especially if it was because she went to another man.
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This is why CONSISTENT effort (to stay in), not just INITIAL effort (to get it) should be required.
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Let me ALSO STATE, the man is to NOT impose immature or unreasonable requirements or demands on her because she want to come back. He has to behave in a mature manner and not become immature with "pay back" in mind.
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[CAUSE AND EFFECT IS BOTH OF THEIR RESPONSIBILITY TO FIX IT]
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Now if HER FUCK UP was CAUSE (something he said or did) and EFFECT (something she emotionally did in reaction to it), then the responsibility is on BOTH of them to sit down like MATURE adults and decide 1) if they want to be together again and 2) agree to BOTH put forth the effort to fix and not repeat that fuck up again.
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[CONCLUSION]
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This is something that EACH man has to consider for himself.

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