Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Are You Still Paying Her Way? Maybe You Should Give It A Second Thought.

There are MANY decent and responsible females out there that are traveling, paying their own bills and simply want enjoyment and companionship WITHOUT the expectation of YOU PAYING for them to travel with you or helping them pay their bills. You are not being a gentleman for paying, you are being a FOOL. I would DUMP ANY SKEEZING FEMALE that don't think and behave in the manner of those responsible females UNLESS she provides you the type of service that YOU want and NOT the type of service SHE wants to give you.

Many females are travelling and spending money. Who pays for it indirectly? YOU if you are paying for the entertainment expenses when going out because she is SAVING HER MONEY to buy trendy, sexy clothing and take those trips WITHOUT YOU. DO NOT BELIEVE it when she is telling you she is buying those clothes to look sexy for JUST YOU. The TRUTH in the matter is that she is buying those clothes to look sexy for ANY MALE that SHE FINDS ATTRACTIVE that will give her the attention and compensation that she desires.

Do you wonder why many females ARE BROKE or CLAIM TO BE IN A FINANCIAL BIND? It's because they were out there spending money and enjoying themselves WITHOUT YOU and now YOU are going to contribute to HER entertainment or clothing fund which will be NO FUN given back to you.

***FACT*** The more OPPORTUNITY most females have to NOT BE RESPONSIBLE for themselves, the more they will spend LATER on themselves when they are NOT WITH YOU. Why is that so? It is very, very simple. They can do it because of FOOLS that will PAY THEIR WAY or provide them STIMULUS CHECKS/CASH when they need to be rescued from their spending.

In this present economy, MANY males CAN'T afford to help (as they say) females out or wine & dine females (in the manner females prefer) without putting themselves in a FINANCIAL bind yet they continue to put out HOPING for the best while placing themselves financially short and BORROWING from their friends and family members to pay their bills.

How PATHETIC or INSANE can that be? To make things worse, THEY have been convinced BY HER or other LOW SELF-ESTEEM males that they are enjoying themselves and having a good time by simply spending time and MONEY being with her. What is really sad about this is that this blog reflects many of YOU and YOU will continue to do those STUPID things anyway.

Well, if she takes you for what you have AFTER reading this, then YOU DESERVE TO BE TAKEN and then DUMPED for being so STUPID. I find that the majority of these types of males will CRITICIZE ME and my methods FOR ATTEMPTING TO HELP THEM.

Instead of getting ONLY the opportunity to spend your money , why not try GETTING SOME SERVICE OUT OF HER (i.e., maid, cook, etc.) since we both know that she is baiting you with an ILLUSION (of what you won't get) that you are PAYING FOR and HOPING that it will become a REALITY. That way you are at least getting some return for your money spent. Check out some of these expenses. Now tell me these females CAN'T afford to pay their own way when spending time with YOU.

Like this one female told me, "There is a sucker born every day" and my response to her was, "No, there are MANY suckers born every day". The question to you males is, "Are you one of those SUCKERS they are talking about"?


Package 1: Entire tour without air and airport transfers, $2,397 per person based on double occupancy/for a single add $576 (Roommate Service available).

Package 2: 3 day ground-only Roman Holiday (it will feel like 5 days), $997 per person based on double occupancy/for a single add $165.

Her Quote:

"I started Bella Italia, a travel club that was created to expose Black women to a country filled with rich culture, incredible cuisine, amazing shopping, pulsing nightlife and it seems... a unique appreciations for the beauty of Black women" (smile)!


If you don't know what "unique appreciations for the beauty of Black women" means let me help you out. Men in that country are AGGRESSIVELY catering to them, spending money on them and raising the bar of HER expectations for many of YOU when she returns. Those guys in italy (as well as other countries) are POON HOUNDS as well and want to satisfy their curiosity about the black woman's SEXUAL ABILITIES so remember, "What will go on in Italy, will remain in Italy". They will simply DO THEIR THING and then CLEAN THAT "THANG" OFF before they return and YOU will be STUPID enough to believe her when she says, "Oh, I just had a good time with the girls and nothing else happened".

Am I saying they are wrong for doing it? NO. As far as I am concerned, they can do that and more since I don't care. What I am saying is that they will LIE TO YOU about doing it and have you eventually assist in paying for the LIE they enjoyed WITHOUT YOU. The vast majority will go on these vacations and have a GREAT TIME and swipe that credit card or spend that cash at every opportunity while on that vacation. Again, is it wrong? NO. It's their RIGHT, their CHOICE, their MONEY and whatever they are doing with it should be RESPECTED.

What I am saying to males is DON'T HELP FINANCE their fun and frolic by PAYING THEIR WAY when spending time with YOU or by helping her with her bills. You have to ask yourself, "Did she ever OFFER to take you (that means the person offering PAYS) on one of those vacation GETAWAYS that YOU have INDIRECTLY paid for"?

So think about those vacation getaways women are taking BEFORE you are so quick to be a sucker (oops, I mean gentleman) and reach for the tab to pay the expenses OR break her off some chips to help her with her bills UNLESS she will SERVICE YOU since you WILL NOT be going on those vacations with her UNLESS YOU PAY FOR BOTH OF YOU. Make sure you get whatever the service is BEFORE you pay her because if she is a SKEEZER in disguise YOU will PUT OUT and SHE will then GET OUT before servicing you.



I know that the above reflects the situation of many of you males reading this blog. I am HOPING that sooner or later this information will sink in and you will come out of that SOS (State-Of-Stupidity), DUMP HER, start thinking more of YOUR well being and get yourself one of those women I spoke of at the beginning of this blog.

TRUST ME when I say after it's all said and done, YOU are broke and SHE is gone her words will be, "Well, I didn't tell him to spend his money, HE OFFERED TO PAY". Don't offer and see how long she remains with you.

Friday, August 14, 2009



Will We ALL Just Get Along?


Will MOST Of Us Just Get Along?




One of the primary reasons why we WON'T get along in that male/female relationship dynamic is because the very foundation (what occurs upon the first few contacts and is sustained throughout the remainder of the relationship) is dysfunctional and based upon LIES, FANTASY, DECEIT, MATERIALISM, IMMATURITY , IRRESPONSIBILITY and DENIAL.

LIES - Tell that person what they want to hear as opposed to telling them the truth.

FANTASY - Living in that mental or physical state of heightened excitement and pleasure that realistically cannot be consistently maintained if one is to obtain and sustain a mutually satisfying, peaceful, minimally stressful and productive relationship.

DECEIT - Silence regarding their ultimate objective (i.e., hidden agenda) with the other person and functioning in a TEMPORARY manner in order to obtain that unstated objective.

MATERIALISM - Non-genuine interest in the individual but rather what it is that they have that can benefit them and upgrade their lifestyle.

IMMATURITY - Behaving child-like and refusing to function in a mature manner.

IRRESPONSIBILITY - Refusal to be accountable for one's own actions and showing lack of care for consequences.

DENIAL - Knowingly refusing to accept truth thus preventing ANY opportunity for change.

Most pre-relationship development NEVER includes the following due to fear of rejection or knowing ahead of time the person won't behave in that manner:

1. There is usually NO CLEAR DISCUSSION and MUTUAL AGREEMENT as to what behavior WILL BE expected. Of course stating every behavior may not be possible at the time but the basic ones surely can be discussed. Most Common Reason: Fear of rejection.

2. There is usually NO CLEAR DISCUSSION and MUTUAL AGREEMENT as to what behavior WILL ABSOLUTELY NOT be tolerated AND if it happens the relationship will be immediately terminated. Most Common Reason: There are some things in a relationship that can happen that will cause disruption simply because no two people think EXACTLY alike but there are certain behaviors that we all know that we WILL NOT tolerate in a relationship or we at least BOAST to our friends and family we won't tolerate whether we tolerate them in the privacy of that relationship or not. This is where FANTASY, HOPE and DENIAL come into being. We have FANTASIES (which are typically temporary in nature) about how we want our "permanent" relationship to be. We HOPE that the fantasy comes true and is sustained throughout the relationship. We go into DENIAL once the fantasy relationship cease to exist.

3. If there is a discussion (which 98 percent of the time there isn't), there is usually NO TERMINATION of that relationship even if the agreement is violated. Most Common Reason: Fear of the unknown and desperation to have a relationship regardless of the condition of the relationship. Now you have frustration and stress in the relationship that usually leads to occasional domestic abuse and/or cheating. The frustration usually comes from the female since she is not receiving what she wants based upon that fantasy and stress is usually what the male receives based on her attitude developed due to his initial participation in that fantasy (that no longer exists) to gain her acceptance.



Will this dysfunctional "Can't Get Along" situation change?


Only for a very, very, very small percentage of people. The majority will continue to function in that dysfunctional manner.


Why do you think in such a negative manner?


It's not that I think in such a negative manner. It's simply that most have been socialized to accept what is regardless of the negative impact and simply remain SILENT. All I am doing is simply speaking about the REALITIES that I experience, observe and hear others talk about in private as opposed to publically.


Why don't you focus on and speak more about the positive things and people as opposed to the negative.


There are more that enough people producing and talking about those "pie-in-the-sky", feel good desires, hopes and dreams and as you can see, things (overall) are getting worse not better. It's the NEGATIVE things that produces dysfunction, pain and suffering not the positive things. We don't have to be aware of or change the positive things or people in our lives to be content. That will take care of itself. It's the NEGATIVE things that create problems so that is what I focus on so they can be IDENTIFIED, CHANGED or AVOIDED by others.


What can one do to help others improve THEIR situation?


1. Start with SELF and be that FUNCTIONING EXAMPLE. Can you HONESTLY say that YOU don't represent at least one or more of the dysfunctional behaviors stated above? By the way, the lies that are told does not mean that they are told only to others. Why not begin to change by STOP LYING TO SELF.

2. Stop AVOIDING the dysfunctional, negative behavior and acting as if it will just go away (i.e., denial). You have to speak about it and confront it or it will ALWAYS exist.

3. DYSFUNCTIONAL PEOPLE ARE COMFORTABLE with dysfunctional relationships and they won't change. This can't be expressed enough, YOU CAN'T CHANGE THOSE TYPES OF PEOPLE so accept them for who they are and maintain your distance if you don't approve of it.



I won't judge dysfunctional behavior to be right or wrong. That is a personal decision that each individual has to make depending on their situation. I simply see things for what they are and speak about them.

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