Tuesday, December 13, 2011

You Are NOT Her Father

MANY FEMALES will attempt to use that father tactic if they are not attracted to you and don’t value you. They will tell you, “I want a man to treat me like my father treated me”.

That is a sucker punch if you are stupid enough to fall for it.

Many fathers programmed their daughters with that “Princess Mentality” and the majority of them grew up believing that is the way they should be treated as an adult.

The reason why many of them say I want to be treated like a queen is because DADDY'S LITTLE PRINCESS has grown up. 

Well here is the problem that you will encounter if she manages to get you to treat her as her father did.

- Her father allowed her to be irresponsible, spoiled her and let her have her way,

- Her father gave her whatever she wanted (including money) to make her happy,

- Her father never held her accountable for her inappropriate behavior and,

- Her father DID NOT have sex with her (well, maybe her step-dad did or attempted to),

- Her father did those things expecting nothing in return but a smile, a hug and a thank you daddy.

Now if you are STUPID enough to treat her like her father and HOPE you receive something in return then you deserve exactly what you get which in most cases will be a smile, a hug and a thank you daddy.

Is that what you really what you want from her? Are you really that lonely, desperate or stupid?


If you want me to treat you like your father treated you then I need to know what exactly did he do for you and how will that benefit me?


Most females can’t give you an explanation for an inconsiderate request like that and won’t if they don’t give a crap about you and is trying to take advantage of you. You just surprised her so keep the pressure on her.

Don’t change the question and DON'T ALLOW HER to divert to another conversation until she answers you. Her response will expose her true intentions.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Never Allow Yourself To Become HER Convenience Store Victim

There is a tendency for MANY females to INTENTIONALLY want to treat the good man that has or had an interest in her as her personal CONVENIENCE STORE without any regards for how it impacts him physically, emotionally or financially. 

She will ALLOW him into her space and CONTROL him when CONVENIENT for her or when she's bored because the male that she is WILLINGLY catering to is treating her like SHIT and not giving her the kind of attention and respect that the good men give her. 


This DOES NOT APPLY to those males who LOVE being taken advantage of, stepped on and treated like a convenience store.
My STRONG position is, "Never allow yourself to be HER convenience store".  I've been there and done that many, many years ago and trust me when I say, "It only benefits HER and YOU WON'T get from her what you desire IF you have a personal interest in her so WHY WASTE YOUR TIME"?
There are males that will argue or have argued this point with me but I say if you want to be number one with her AND she does not want to be number one with you then you have two options:
- move on to someone that will have you as their number one, or
remain there FOOLishly HOPING she will change her mind which she won't.

Skeezers will APPEAR to treat you with respect ONLY IF they have no other options. Even then, they will only be with you UNTIL they find what they want and then they will DUMP YOU or place you in the WILL CALL bin.  They will NOT treat or give the decent, common, average Joe males the kind of attention or do for him like they do for males they are truly interested in.

Far too many males have SURRENDERED their DIGNITY and PRIDE for the benefit of UNWORTHY females.  They need to restore that which they have willingly surrendered in exchange for something THEY WILL NEVER RECEIVE.

Your pledge:
I AM HAPPY WITH ME and not weak, desperate or lonely,
- I WILL VALUE ME before any desire for female companionship,
- I WILL STRENGHTEN MYSELF mentally, physically and financially,
- I WILL DEMAND not expect to be treated FAIRLY if you want my time,
- I WILL NEVER ALLOW any female to DISRESPECT or DE-VALUE me again,
- I WILL LEAVE any female that attempts any abuse or violence against me or attempts to LURE ME into any form of abuse or domestic violence against her and will NEVER RETURN TO HER AGAIN.
THERE ARE decent, man-loving women that WILL VALUE YOU and not treat you as a convenience store.  STOP wasting your time with inconsiderate, MAN-USING females.

Monday, October 31, 2011

FANTASY "Weddings" Are POSSIBLE but FANTASY "Marriages" Are IMPOSSIBLE For Most Couples

Fantasy Weddings Are POSSIBLE to obtain but Fantasy Marriages Are IMPOSSIBLE to sustain....

Come on ladies, isn't HALF of a fairytale far better than YOU having no fairytale at all? Why in the world would you want to have a simple wedding? That's no fun. A SIMPLE WEDDING is nothing to brag about and show off to your girlfriends and family, right? After all, the wedding ISN'T about longevity in your marriage, it's all about YOU, YOUR EGO and the moment REGARDLESS of it's consequences to the marriage afterwards, right?

Huh, you can ALWAYS get married again which you probably will do anyway after your first marriage for all the WRONG reasons to a man that was PRESSURED or FACED WITH AN ULTIMATUM to get married OR end the relationship. That HUGE wedding ceremony was all about YOU and your FIRST DIVORCE will probably be BLAMED ON HIM.

AFTER you've gone through the SELFISH fantasy, you can have a SIMPLE wedding and marry for the RIGHT reasons the second time around that will have a better chance of lasting.

If the second time around DOES NOT work as well, then go to the PET STORE and purchase YOUR lifelong companion that YOU can CONTROL and have your way with (LOL).

I typically will place some definitions before getting started to hopefully minimize ASSumptions and SENSELESS COMMENTS from those IDIOTS and MORONS out there who REFUSE to apply COMMON SENSE and are simply looking to start a SENSELESS argument. You can never really eliminate all stupid comments from them. You can only attempt to minimize their number of senseless comments.


Fantasy - The faculty or activity of imagining things that are impossible or improbable. If that fantasy is acheived, in most cases, it can ONLY be sustained for a limited period of time.

Wedding - The ceremony or process in which two individuals are united in marriage.

Marriage - The legal union of two individuals.

Let me begin by stating that I have long since STOPPED buying people wedding gifts. Hell, any two fools, idiots or morons can have a wedding and be married. After I decided to stop wasting my money on wedding gifts, due to the numbers of marriages that expired even BEFORE the warranty expired on my gift, I decided to start a NEW tradition for these newly weds. The tradition is simply this, "You Get Married and I Give You a 5 Year Anniversary Redeemable Certificate". This simply means that if you break up within 5 years I will have saved myself money (LOL).

FANTASY WEDDINGS ARE POSSIBLE - For the majority of the average, everyday people that wedding can bear a heavy price, IF NOT PLANNED MATURELY, in the form of "Pre-Wedding Preparation Stress" as well as "Pre & Post-Wedding Financial Stress" and/or "Post-Wedding Regrets". Usually the pre-wedding preparation stress begins to subside at the beginning of the wedding and after a SEXUALLY satisfying honeymoon.

FANTASY MARRIAGES ARE IMPOSSIBLE - For the majority of the average, everyday people their marriage was or will be based upon pressure, desperation, lies, entrapment, DENIAL or deceit. For more detail, go to my February 4, 2010 posting of "Marriage and the 3D's - Deceit, Desperation and Denial" if YOU aren't in denial or afraid to see the TRUTH about what your marital relationship might be like (LOL).

The thought of or an attempt at a FANTASY wedding and marriage will never go away because most people need a reason to be happy and satisfied with themselves due to their personal laziness, insecurities or shallowness which is PERFECT for ECONOMIC STIMULATION, DIVORCE COURTS and DIVORCE ATTORNEYS (LOL).


If you are to have or attempt to have that FANTASY wedding and marriage, make it based upon YOU and YOUR MATE'S obtainable and EASILY sustainable REALITY and not SOMEONE else's PAINFUL and SHORT-LIVED FANTASY.

FOR THE WEDDING GOERS keep in mind my traditional "5 Year Anniversary Redeemable Certificate" whether you choose to do it or not. If they have prepared themselves MATURELY, they should not be EXPECTING and ABUNDANCE of gifts anyway but rather an ABUNDANCE of family and friends in attendance and with nothing but smiles, positive attitudes and well wishes for the newlyweds.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Females Have The PowerTo Make a MAJOR Change but Will They?

DISCLAIMER: I find myself having to do this quite often in my blogs, emails or discussions for the IDIOTS out there. Here I go, "This DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL FEMALES, OK? Unless I state ALL FEMALES or unless this applies to YOUR thinking and/or behavior then don't ASSume such or take it personal".

Females can practically DICTATE the behavior of most males IN A POSITIVE WAY with very little effort. Why don't they? Well, let me begin with SELFISHNESS, GREED, IRRESPONSIBLE, LAZY and INAPPROPRIATE behavior that she's ALLOWED to get away with because MOST males are MENTALLY WEAKER when it comes to interacting with females they are attracted to and will FOOLISHLY ACCEPT or MAKE EXCUSES for her inappropriate behavior or bad attitude.

FEMALES CONTROL CHILD BIRTH not males. Females are NOT IGNORANT of the potential consequences of willingly choosing the wrong man because this is no hidden secret and is publicized far too often in the media. Females CLAIM to be INTELLIGENT and STRONG yet want SYMPATHY and SUPPORT after making those KNOWN poor choices in men.

MOST OF THEM don't and will never care about you. They care about:

- what SERVICES they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM
- what FINANCES they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM
- what INFORMATION they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM

FEMALES are in TOTAL CONTROL of their behavior:

- They control whether or not to AVOID decent, good men
- They control whether or not to PAY THEIR OWN WAY while with you
- They control whether or not to LISTEN to the bullshit that comes out of a man's mouth
- They control whether or not to spend time with Players and Bad Boys depending upon their priorities
- They control whether or not to GET INTO a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
- They control whether or not to REMAIN in a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
- They control whether to lay down, open their legs and ALLOW these PLAYERS and BAD BOYS to ejaculated into them
- They control whether or not to conceive
- They control whether or not to get pregnant
- They control whether or not to LIE about who the biological father is

If females want to improve their PERSONAL situations and relationships between males and females in general then they need to change THEIR value system, thoughts and behaviors because THEY HAVE THE POWER to do so.

Let me explain:

Females, beginning at a very young age, can determine the behavior of MOST SANE males they come in contact with by the behavior they ACCEPT or REQUIRE from males. HER criteria, priorities and choices, which primarily comes from her parent or parents as well as other relatives, friends and media, will dictate the types of males she accepts that comes in contact with her.

Here are, as a MINIMUM, my suggestions of what FEMALES can EASILY do:

- STOP EXPECTING or REQUIRING the FANTASY dress-to-impress, nice home, high income mate career, fine dining at expensive restaurants (that he pays for), smother you with attention, spend lots of money on you, take you on vacations (that he pays for) relationship SALES PITCH because they are usually TEMPORARY or just a bunch of BULLSH^T LIES,

- APPROACH WHAT APPEARS TO BE DECENT MALES in an attempt to get to know them,

- DO NOT get personally involved with MARRIED men or men that CLAIM to be SEPARATED from their wives,

- BEHAVE in a RESPONSIBLE and MATURE manner and accept NOTHING LESS from males,

- ALLOW herself to be more open and SOCIALLY approachable for more than just what you can get male(s) to give you or do for you,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate using clear and proper English but rather ENCOURAGE him to improve his verbal communication skills,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate in a mature and intelligent manner but rather ENCOURAGE him to communicate in a more mature and intelligent manner,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if education is not a HIGH priority in his life but rather ENCOURAGE him to make education a high priority in his life,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he is making less money than you but rather RESPECT him for earning an HONEST living and work together with him,

- NOT STRESS HIM to make more money to satisfy YOUR UNNECESSARY but SELFISH DESIRES but rather CHANGE YOUR PRIORITIES, ADJUST YOUR LIFESTYLE and LIVE WITHIN YOUR FINANCIAL MEANS to make things easier for the both of you,

- NOT IGNORE him if he displays NO RESPECT for the elderly or the community but rather ENCOURAGE him to be more respectful,

- NOT IGNORE IT if he thinks dropping him pants BELOW his butt and having a HARD ATTITUDE is attractive and impressive to you but rather REQUIRE him to pull his pants up and get a better attitude if he expects to gain your acceptance of him,

- NOT IGNORE IT if he cannot communicate to you WITHOUT using profanity but rather REQUIRE him to not speak in that manner when in your company and ENCOURAGE him to cease communicating in that manner period,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks spending HIS MONEY on you makes him a man,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he REFUSES to attempt to resolve issues or conflicts in a NON-VIOLENT manner,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks INITIATING VIOLENCE towards males or females makes him a man,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks being LOUD and RUDE is normal behavior,

- NOT MATERIALISTICALLY motivated so do not INSULT you by trying to impress you with material things,

- NOT FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT on him and DEMAND that you PAY YOUR OWN WAY when spending time getting to know each other,

- DO NOT WHORE your time nor your body so do not ATTEMPT TO BUY either by spending money on you (NOTE: if she is a minor HER PARENTS should be providing money to her if she's going out on dates),

- WILL NOT engage in UNPROTECTED sex,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) until AFTER i have 1) been in a CONSISTENTLY healthy, non-marital relationship, 2) gotten married because of that healthy relationship, 3) have spent at least a year together in a healthy marriage and 4) have PLANNED and AGREED to MUTUALLY providing time, resources and finances in the raising of OUR child(ren),

- WILL NOT have child(ren) until AFTER i have completed my education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF him has not completed HIS education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF he has multiple children by multiple women and was not married to them,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF he already has child(ren) that he does not care for,

- WILL NOT have children UNLESS i am in a consistently healthy relationship with a man that wants to have children and WILL provide time, resources and finances towards the care of those children or UNLESS i can SOLELY provide the necessary TIME, RESOURCES and FINANCES to care for however many children i CHOOSE to have.

The majority (i will say about 85 percent minimum) of what MOST males do is in an attempt to get the attention, favor or acceptance from the female. Males, IN GENERAL, have been socialized to be the salesmen. They typically will do the knocking on the female's door (i.e., approach her, initiate contact) and attempt to sell her his goods (i.e., himself).

Now depending on what HER priorities are and what she is looking for, she will OPEN THE DOOR OF OPPORTUNITY for him to enter be he an average guy, a criminal, a hustler, a player, a thug, a baller, a wealthy man, an entertainer, an athlete, a MARRIED man, etc. (yea i said married man because there are MANY females that DO NOT RESPECT that GOD SANCTIONED institution of marriage).

So with that said let me conclude with, "Females, YOU GOT THE POWER to CHANGE the mentality and behavior of males WITHIN one generation if YOU change your ATTITUDE and BEHAVIOR immediately".

I am a man, a sensible and decent man, so I am telling you that you can invoke MAJOR CHANGE in how MOST males are today. Look at the potential benefits to SOCIETY in general and YOU in particular by changing and adopting what I have stated above:

- a HUGE DECREASE in divorces

- a HUGE DECREASE in unwanted child births

- a HUGE DECREASE in childhood delinquency

- a HUGE DECREASE in domestic violence and deaths in relationships

- a HUGE DECREASE in stress that contributes to mental and physical health issues

- a HUGH INCREASE in your chances of make a better choice in males and having that happy, healthy relationship

NOTHING that I have stated above requires MONEY or EXTREME EFFORT. All it requires is MINIMAL EFFORT and the RIGHT ATTITUDE.

Do I believe the majority of females will AGREE with this blog? Absolutely not.

Then what is my point? Simple. I simply want to PROVE that the MAJORITY of females are SELFISH LIARS when speaking about:

- How they want a MUTUALLY LOVING, HEALTHY and LONG-LASTING relationship,

- How they play no part in becoming VICTIMS of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,

- How they are SO CONCERNED about a child's future and well-being,

- Their claims of there are not being enough GOOD MEN available.

With all of that said, "Go ahead, take your best shots at me and let the chips fall where they may". I welcome ALL comments be it from MEN, WOMEN, PLAYERS, WANNA-BE PLAYERS or SKEEZERS.

Peace and much enlightenment to us all.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

** News Flash" - FREE Testicle Transplants Now Available

(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - Rules of Engagement")


Knowledge is the key to success when attempting to engage in interaction with females. Now knowledge is no good if you don’t have the FUNCTIONING balls to use it.

Yea, I know we all carry a pair but for many of YOU (not me), you might as well DONATE them to the scientific community for research and strap on a pair that was designed by a MAN to benefit a man and not designed by a Skeezer to SERVE a Skeezer. Before you attempt to use any of my rules, I suggest that you print this coupon and redeem it at any CERTIFIED testicle transplant clinic.

For some unexplained reason there exists a large group of males that seem to fear the thought of not having a female in their company on a regular basis. Therefore they will do anything to get their attention and make them happy which includes, but not limited to, giving up whatever dignity and possessions he has.

I am sure that MANY of those emasculated males in those unhappy, miserable, domineering and BALL BUSTING relationships were counseled by other EMASCULATED males to REMAIN in those relationships (after all, emasculated males need the company of other emasculate male to relate to, right?) or those emasculated males were counseled by other females who themselves have EMASCULATED their man (or men).

Far too many males have lost the fortitude to apply these rules to a female that he’s attracted to because he has lost his balls or have had them removed. He also fears speaking openly and honestly about what he’s thinking or feeling regarding her or any female if he thinks it will upset her. He also will not speak about a subject he thinks she may not like without the fear of rejection or confrontation with her (i.e. no backbone). Knowledge is what I am attempting to give you but balls are what you have to acquire on your own if you’ve lost yours, had them disconnected or removed by some selfish, controlling, inconsiderate female.


Go and find yourself some balls and I mean any balls be it monkey balls, elephant balls, baseballs, meat balls, golf balls, tennis balls, ball bearings, etc. and have them attached to your backbone. At this point it really doesn’t matter what type of balls or where they come from as long as you have some until you can grow yours back.


THERE ARE LOVING, CARING AND THOUGHTFUL WOMEN that exist that's seeking a mature, mutually respectful and rewarding relationship and won't de-value, emasculate or even attempt to emasculate YOU. There is no sensible reason why you should remain in an unhappy relationship UNLESS you know you CAN'T DO any better than what you are in now.

Balls are the source of power for your backbone and directly control your ability to stand upright to females and hold your ground. Having balls attached, of any kind, will allow your backbone to function in its natural manner so you will not tolerate any females’ nasty or selfish attitude, have no fear of expressing your own thoughts to her as well as saying NO to a female without fear of being rejected and especially by the females that you are attracted to.

You can acquire all the freedom, riches and respect that you are capable of but it’s your balls that will be the key to keeping what you have acquired when it comes to engaging with females. If you don’t have balls, chances are that you will foolishly and freely give up that which you have sacrificed and worked for to the next female you will be attracted to because you have NO BALLS.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

J. Duval's 2 Date Rule


This blog is here to MINIMIZE YOUR COST in your attempts to sort through the SH*T and find yourself a DECENT, LOVING woman.

I truly understand the MENTALITY of MOST women (and females) in today's times when it comes to dating (getting to know each other), the GAMES they play and their EXPECTATIONS of being INCONSIDERATELY STUCK ON SELFISH thinking the male is SUPPOSED to be the one to INITIATE and PAY for the dates.

The vast MAJORITY of females are TAKING ADVANTAGE OF and TAKING A FREE RIDE off the WALLETS of DECENT males that have a GENUINE interest in them that are functioning under those out-dated, traditional rules.

A considerate and unselfish woman would not accept you spending your money feeding or entertaining her IF she has no genuine interest in you. She would be considerate and pay her own way in that case to keep it FAIR.

On the other hand, there are males that draw the line as to what they will allow a female to get away with and many of those females that take advantage of good men will WILLINGLY SUBMIT to these males WITHOUT resistance or putting him through the OLD FASHIONED, TRADITIONAL routine that they put males through that they have NO PERSONAL INTEREST in.

This has NOTHING to do with trying to get a female into sexually compromising a situation. This has EVERYTHING to do with how some females will take advantage of some males under the PRETENSE of PATIENT, OLD FASHIONED, TRADITIONAL, GENTLEMAN-LIKE behavior and READILY submit to other males.

I would say agree to meet her at a park with a few bottles of water IF you had the BALLS to make such a request. Unfortunately, MOST of you have been MENTALLY EMASCULATED and CONDITIONED to FEED HER DRINKS and FOOD and she is CONDITIONED to EAT when you meet so the park request will be quite difficult to achieve UNLESS she has physically seen you and find you to be very desirable. If you HAVE to go that old-fashioned, out-dated and ineffective (for you not her) traditional route where the man invites and pays during the dating process, I suggest that you following my "2 DATE SCREENING RULE".

(Walk In The Park).  Although this is the HEALTHIEST date and MOST of them NEED to be walking in the park with a couple bottles of water as opposed to feeding their face, that is an ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE first date for MOST of them to accept.

(Coffee/Juice Location).  Meet her, not pick her up, so that you spend more time getting to know her as opposed to spending more money on her. If you get bad vibes about her during that time you have only spent a few bucks and you are done with her. If this first date goes well ask her if she would like to meet you for breakfast or lunch. If she looks away from you, does not smile or seem a bit hesitant she is not feeling you so don’t persist and consider this your first and last date with her.

Again meet her and don't pick her up. NEVER ARRANGE for dinner or some form of entertainment on the first or second date because of the cost and secondly her attention will be on the entertainment and not you. These kinds of events you reserve for someone that has displayed a GENUINE interest in you.

Again, pay for the date (because she expects you to do so) but make sure you keep it to a minimum. Don't think that just because she is there that she is genuinely interested in you. Remember, you are paying and skeezers typically will NEVER REFUSE A FREE MEAL if they feel they will have control over the situation.

During that second date you want to get a feel for how her schedule is so include some of that in the conversation as a discovery process (the importance of it will come later). If she says that she is a very busy person then this will be your last date with her. At the end of the second date, get ready to now expose her intentions by following the script below:

You Say - "Hey, I think these have been a couple of pretty good dates. What do you think?". (Say nothing else and wait for her response. If she does not agree then you are done with her. If she does agree, which most will regardless, that's when you pop the BIG question).

You Say - "So when are you going to invite me out on a date?". (This is where the information about how busy her schedule comes into play. If she did not state that she was very busy then she should have no problem inviting you out UNLESS she really doesn't give a crap about you. If she says she isn't sure then you now know she has no genuine interest in you because she stated earlier that she was not that busy of a person.

NOTE: DO NOT be a whiner and say, "well, you said earlier that you were not that busy". Just accept it as a small price to pay to identify a skeezer and don't see, talk to or cater to her again. She does not have to know why you no longer want to see her because she is not being genuine with you. This shows you that she is just a skeezer using you.

There are some females accustomed to fine dining with males of financial means or $UCKERMEN and will expect you to bear the expenses if you want to dine with them. If you are a WEAK MALE, I would say avoid these types and leave them to the ABUSIVE TYPES (i.e., players, pretty boys, thugs, married men, etc.) who know how to run the proper game on them as they would on you if you are STUPID enough to think she won't. I would suggest that this tactic be used on any woman that you have a personal interest in if she has NOT PROVEN herself to NOT BE a skeezer:

IF you are FOOLish enough to attempt to IMPRESS a female by taking her to an expensive restaurant, here's a tip on identifying a woman that has no respect for you and is just killing time and/or looking for an opportunity to get you to spend your money on her. How are you going to know that in advance? In most cases, the majority of average males will not know so I suggest that they proceed with caution. A female that values you and has a genuine interest in you will not try to get a free ride off of you. If she is not interested in you, she will know before the date is over; she should pay her own way because she knows you are doing so due to a personal interest in her and not just to spend money. Then again, she would have to be a thoughtful and considerate person which many of them aren’t.

** WARNING ** IF you have LOW SELF-ESTEEM, LONELY and are a WEAK and SUBMISSIVE MALE, do not try this tactic below. Simply open your wallet to whatever she wants, PAY the bill, get that THANK YOU, BIG SMILE (cause her belly is full and she did not have to pay) and a HAND SHAKE or what I call that BOOTY OUT, 3 PATS ON THE BACK, MINIMAL CONTACT , I'M NOT PERSONALLY INTERESTED IN YOU hug (LOL) and WALK AWAY accepting yourself for what you are.

The following tactic, IF YOU HAVE BALLS, should be used to determine if a female has a genuine interest in you or is only using you to kill time and get a free meal.

This would have to be done at a sit-in restaurant where you pay after the meal is finished. Remember, you won't know her intentions until you get her to a restaurant and ask her the right question.

1. Agree to meet at a restaurant. Do not pick her up and do not mention paying for the date.

2. When you get the menu and are ready to order, "let her order for herself" (this is very important)

3. Let the conversation flow and at some point just prior to the meal being paid for look her directly in her eyes and ask, "Would you like to get together again and if so will you pick up the next tab?". Do not say another word until she gives you an answer and if she asks you to repeat what you said; say exactly the same thing. Don’t change the conversation. If she resists responding to your question, says she doesn’t want to see you again or says that she doesn't believe a woman should pay, simply pay your portion and not hers. You are being used as a sucker (i.e. fool). The restaurant cannot make you pay for her because you did not order for her.

4. After you pay your portion offer to walk her to her car and if she says no just walk away from her and consider yourself fortunate that you weren't another one of her suckers. See it as a victory because you had an opportunity to get out, you had a nice meal and you only paid for yourself.

Many will consider this tactic cruel and scandalous but if she has no personal interest in you she should state that in advance. Trust me, they know if they are physically attracted to you and have a personal interest. If she isn't interested in you and will not tell you or will not pay for her portion of the date then she has no respect for you. Any tactic you use on her, before she uses you, is justified. Do not let those weak males out there tell you otherwise.

FINALLY: If you are going to pay for the date you should NEVER allow her to tell you where she wants to go. You make that determination because you are the one paying. Don’t be STUPID and a FOOL all in one date. At least save one of them for the next date (LOL).

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Revoultion of the Mind - It's Time To MAN UP!!


Time to rid yourself of those OLD, out-dated rules that YOU are practicing while MOST of today's females ARE NOT behaving in that OLD traditional manner and are practicing NEW, up-dated rules that benefit them SOLELY and NOT you mutually.

- STOP complaining about those females that DON'T value YOU.
- STOP catering to those females that DON'T RECIPROCATE.
- STOP trying to convince those females that DON'T WANT YOU to want you.
- THERE ARE plenty of available WOMEN who will respect you, love you and show genuine concern for you but YOU have to simply be WISER in your choices.

I am here to assist you in making WISER choices.

There are a large percentage of males out there that do not care about THEIR well-being. I can't do anything for them. I am simply seeking those males that are tired of the insensitive, inconsiderate, unreasonable, spoiled and/or damaged Skeezers out there that believes THEY are entitled to YOUR time, resources and finances with little to no obligation or reciprocation.

THE INJECTION (CURE) - Below are only 10 of the 40 Rules of Engagement in my book:

- Do Unto Her Before She Do Unto You
- Go Find Yourself Some Balls, Any Balls
- There Are Five Basic Weight Classes of Females
- Never Argue Simply UPGRADE
- Stop Thinking FOR a Female and Start Thinking LIKE a Female
- You Are Not Her Father and She Is Not Your Mother
- If You Have a Personal Interest LIE, If Not Tell Her the TRUTH
- Never Get Personally Involved with a FixHerUpper
- Don't Be Tricked into Paying for Her Activities
- Don't Be $uckerMan to the Rescue and Pay or Help Pay HER Bills

The reason you are failing MISERABLY are because of YOUR old-fashioned, out-dated thinking and behavior and HER new, NON old-fashioned thinking and behavior. I can not and would not be STUPID to try and get her to CHANGE HER way of thinking and behavior. Why not? Because the manner in which SHE thinks and YOU behaves nowadays BENEFITS HER and NOT YOU.

Even though it is more difficult to get many of you GOOD MEN out of that old-fashioned, traditional way of thinking and behaving than to change the way those Skeezers think and behave, it would BENEFIT YOU so much more to change your mindset and behavior, GET OUT of that one-sided relationship and start fresh.

How can you miss being with someone that don't give a CRAP about you, how can you miss being MISERABLE in that one-sided relationship? Your self-esteem has to be pretty damn low to do so. How much PRAYING & HOPING, BEGGING or COMPLAINING to someone else are you going to do BEFORE you realize it's time to simply get out. If you have to do all of that to get someone to appreciate you, treat you like you are treating her then it's a DEAD RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU.

So are you going to remain in that miserable, disrespectful, dismal situation or MAN UP, STAND UP and Take Your Injection? Of course SHE knows you are too weak to do it. Who are you going to DISAPPOINT? Her or You?

Friday, September 16, 2011

REALITY CHECK #27 - Turn Off The Lights, The Party's Over (For You)

This is a follow-up the to my previous blog regarding MS. PACKAGE DEAL. This is not anger but rather "PRAISE for the Good Men who were WISE and STRONG enough to avoided these types", "PITY for the FOOLish men who were STUPID and WEAK enough to allow them to suck him into the miserable situation he ended up in" and "WARNING to the Good Men who are yet to cross a female like this path". Remember, for years, I have been telling you to "Just Say No and Avoid These Types" but you thought you knew better. Look at you now Playa.

TO THE SELFISH, INCONSIDERATE, SCANDDALOUS, SKEEZING FEMALES, feel free to bring out YOUR BAD ATTITUDE on me. I am here to "Attempt To Inform and Encourage The Good Men to Avoid YOU". Feel free to place your comments below. I will excuse all typos and grammatical errors since I know MOST of you CAN'T control your emotions and type CORRECTLY at the same time (LOL). I am quite sure the SENSIBLE, RESPONSIBLE WOMEN will understand that I am attempting to get the Good Men to see the QUALITY in them as opposed to the CORRUPTION in you.

DISCLAIMER (For you IDIOTS out there that will say I am talking about all females):

This blog applies ONLY to those females that have IGNORED, DUMPED or DE-VALUED Good Men in the past as well as TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF their TIME, RESOURCES or FINANCES and now think these men are WEAK or STUPID enough to allow them back into THEIR personal life.

(Public Service Announcement)

It's time for Good Men to stop picking up these BANGED UP, KNOCKED UP and TOSSED OUT party girls. Time to start sending them a message, "You didn't want us then, we don't want you now".

women out there that have raised and are raising THEIR child(ren) without expecting financial support from males who AREN'T the father. They are seeking COMPANIONSHIP, WILL respect you and DON'T want you to financially support them. Now those are STRONG, INDEPENDENT women and the types you should be attempting to develop a relationship with.


Why would you SHARE YOUR PROSPERITY and comforts that YOU sacrificed and worked hard for with someone like this who DID NOT VALUE YOU, IGNORED YOU then went off and PARTIED with and FREELY GAVE UP THE BOOTY to other men in the past and now want YOU to be FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE for the IRRESPONSIBLE FUN she had WITHOUT YOU? Does she really think you are that STUPID, DESPERATE or WEAK?


responsible for her or that man's (or those men's) child or children. SHE needs to serve as an EXAMPLE to all the other females out there that has NOT yet put themselves in a situation like her and choose to OVERLOOK YOU. The message to these types, "WE ARE NOT GOING TO TAKE CARE OF YOU OR THE RESULTS OF YOUR POOR CHOICES AND IRRESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOR". This is no secret and is not rocket science to know raising a child ALONE is hard.

If women are SUPPOSED to be so intelligent, strong and independent then why do they do something STUPID like bring a child into this world ALONE IF they can't INDIVIDUALLY AFFORD to support that child with the proper TIME and FINANCES? Why can't they wait until they are in a healthy relationship with a man that WANTS to have, WILLING and ABLE to mutually (not solely) participate in supporting a family? The answer is very simple. They do it out of SELFISHNESS, STUPIDITY or a SCANDALOUS attempt to trap the man (they should not be with) to be with her with NO CONCERN for how it's going to negatively impact the child. It's ALMOST NEVER about the child for if it were so, she would display some INTELLIGENCE and develop a healthy relationship before doing so. It's just that simple.

Am I saying ALL FEMALES reflect this selfish and stupid behavior? Absolutely not. There are instances where 1) She may have been in a mutually loving and caring marital or non-marital relationship and UNFORTUNATELY the GOOD MAN died, 2) She is MENTALLY INCAPABLE of making rational decisions and 3) She was TAKEN against her will, RAPED and FORCED to conceive, REMAIN pregnant and GIVE BIRTH. Notice I said GOOD MAN died and not, "Abuser, Player, Baller, Thug, Bad Boy or Pretty Boy" died because if that was the case then SHE made a poor decision to begin with.


Be RESPECTFUL towards her. Now respect has notihg to do with FINANCE or SERVITUDE. You should ONLY give her CONSTRUCTIVE and PRODUCTIVE advice towards a better life in raising her child. DO NOT allow her and her package to MOVE IN with you NO MATTER how much SEX she may attempt to give you or trick you into believing you are going to get. Remember, these types are RAISED with to MANIPULATE through the ILLUSION of you being constantly satisfied SEXUALLY. You SHOULD NOT be giving her recreational information, inviting her out to parties, etc. cause that is what got her where she is today. NEVER ALLOW some female from your past that's rejected you to come into YOUR life with HER responsibilities and disrupt YOUR comfortable lifestyle. The BEST that she should be is a PLATONIC friend to spend LIMITED time with when YOU (not her) have free time to kill. A female in this condition should NEVER dictate what YOU do. Let me repeat it, NEVER dictate what YOU do. If she made the so-called mistake(s) then let HER fix HER mistakes.


I know in RARE cases, you will encounter an attractive or very attractive female that's been BANGED OUT, KNOCKED UP and FORCED into compromising HER values due to her dismal situation. DO NOT allow yourself to get caught up in the LOOK or the TEMPORARY catering she will do to get you to SUPPORT her and her child(ren). ADVICE is the only thing you should be giving a female that comes to you or expects you to HELP (as they like to say it) her in her times of NEED.

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Ms. Package Deal Is Now Ready For A Good Man

(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer")


As far as ADVICE and GUIDANCE of a child or children (not FINANCE), I feel ANY male that is capable of doing so should feel OBLIGATED to participate when possible.

Since so many females are opening up their legs to the WRONG MALES, I am attempting to encourage males to NOT open up their wallets to the WRONG FEMALES.

This is an ATTEMPT at SELF-PRESERVATION of the GOOD men for the GOOD women out there who AREN'T attempting to place HER responsibilities upon HIS shoulders.

This is a WARNING to the females out there that HAVEN'T YET made poor choices in males and got KNOCKED UP and DUMPED. Make wiser choices in males.

This is a MESSAGE to the females out there that INTENTIONALLY ignored us GOOD men and got KNOCKED UP then eventually DUMPED. You overlooked and ignored US the now successful Good men for what YOU thought was better and now WE DON'T WANT YOU. YOU REJECTED US for what you FELT were the right reasons (No Money, No Popularity, No Success that you wanted to have) and now WE are REJECTING YOU for all the right reasons (Our Money, Our Popularity, Our Success that we intend to keep) so go on and act like a responsible mother, assume YOUR responsibilities and raise HIS children. AFTER they are grown and out of the house, you can go back to your partying or you can go to your local PET STORE, purchase your LIFE LONG companion and live HAPPILY (or MISERABLY) ever after.

MS. PACKAGE DEAL – This is Ms. So Fine and good looking that in the past when she had no children she WOULD NOT give the average, GOOD man the chance at a relationship. Now, with that package on her hip, she will say to him, “I made a mistake.”

YEARS and a WHOLE LOT OF GOOD TIMES later, being unable to attract the same kind of men that knocked her up, she is ready to settle down with the types of men she ignored in the past. Are you ready to PAY for this package? Are you going to be that so-called REAL man that she would have not given an opportunity to years earlier?

What she did was submit to men she thought was MORE ATTRACTIVE than you, MORE EXCITING than you, HAD or APPEARED to have had MORE MONEY than you, HAD or APPEARED to have had MORE SOCIAL STATUS than you and got knocked up one or several times.

Chances are if she did not smell the scent of financial relief in you, her attractiveness not eroding or without that package, she would still never give you the time of day. As long as her packages are still with her, she may still have that emotional bond with the father or fathers. Most of these types tend to never let go emotionally from those fathers unless you will be willing to accept her, her package and ALL of the responsibilities that comes with her.

Notice her feet are pointing inward, the knees and thighs are wedged together. In most cases, that means the ONLY playing you will get consistently is playing daddy to the children, baby sitting, buying toys and consistently providing services and finances to help support her and another man’s children while the father or fathers are out there enjoying life with responsible women that don’t have that package or not trying to place her responsibilities onto some other male.

DO NOT be tricked or lured for the children's sake. Point her in the direction of HER children's father(s) IF she expects you to financially support her or those males that she OVERLOOKED YOU for.

There are STRONG, INTELLIGENT, INDEPENDENT women out there available THAT CAN be a financial and emotional ASSET as opposed to a LIABILITY in your life so think like them, "Don't Settle Just To Have a Female In Your Life". REMEMBER, that's what they tell females when it comes to males, "Don't just settle for any man just to have a man in your life". It's time for YOU to PRACTICE WHAT THEY PREACH!!

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Don't You Act STUPID Because She's STUCK on STUPID

"A STRONG man is not afraid to SPEAK TRUTH, A WEAK man will remain SILENT, A PLAYER will SPIT GAME and A FOOL will simply BABBLE" - J. Duval

I will leave you to decide if this is TRUTH, GAME or BABBLE. Feel free to provide comments afterwards.

THERE ARE FEMALES out there stuck on stupid for a particular man.
THERE ARE FEMALES out there stuck on stupid for a particular lifestyle they can't afford.
THERE ARE WOMEN out there NOT stuck on stupid that will want to spend time getting to know you.

Let the Stuck on Stupid female show interest in you AFTER she's been SEVERLY ABUSED by the male that does not give a crap about her because that's almost the only way she will come out of her STUPID condition and see any value in YOU the average Joe good man.

It's Ok to see her and like what you see.
It's Ok to like and let her know of your interest.
It's Ok to put forth some effort in your attempt to get to know her.
It's NOT Ok to continue that effort if you find out she is Stuck on Stupid for someone else.

My Definition of Stupid

1. KNOWINGLY doing something that will benefit her NOW and NEVER you.
2. KNOWINGLY doing something that will benefit her NOW and HOPING it will benefit you later.

My Description of Stuck on Stupid Behavior

1. FOOLishly attached emotionally to some man that has NO GENUINE interest in her.
2. Won't let go of the FANTASY of hopefully getting back together with a man that's taking advantage of HER STUPIDITY.
3. May spend time with another or other men but mentally is on tactical alert FOOLishly wating for that recall notification.
4. Will accept practically any kind of disrespectful or ABUSIVE (emotional, physical or financial) treatment from that man.
5. Will ignore or overlook opportunities with good men waiting on the man that does not give a crap about her.
6. Will ALLOW that man to put her on hold while he spends time with the female he is interested in.
7. Will ACCEPT being that BOOTY CALL when HIS primary woman is not around FOOLishly thinking she can convince him to leave her.

My ASSumptions for that Stuck on Stupid Behavior (one or a combination may apply)

1. Is financially dependent on him and don't want to let go of it.
2. Want to live a certain upgraded lifestyle that she can't or won't provide for herself.
3. Has a child or children with him and is hoping that eventually they will get back together.
4. Has a chemical dependency and feels that only he can provide her the satisfaction she desires.
5. Has been turned out SEXUALLY and feels as if ONLY HE can provide her the satisfaction she desires.

Why Should You Be Aware of Your Behavior With Her?

Females have been capitalizing off of a good man's STUPID behavior for years. You will cross paths with many females out there that are Stuck on Stupid for some other man. It does not matter how much YOU like her, if she's stuck on stupid for some other man YOU are wasting your time. While she is stuck on stupid, the best that would happend to you is she allows you to kill time with her until she is recalled by the man she is stuck on stupid for.

Impact To You As A Result of Spending Time with a Stuck on Stupid Female

1. Wasted time and effort.
2. No chance of her wanting you.
3. YOU potentially becoming Stuck on Stupid for her so now you have two idiots in that Stuck on Stupid circle (you wanting her and she wanting him).

The Difference between "Not Sure If She's Interested in You" and "Stuck on Stupid".

1. If she is "not sure she's interested in you" that means she WILL spend time together with you getting to know you and then the two of you MATURELY deciding where to go from there.
2. If she is "stuck on stupid" that means no matter what you say or do it will never be enough to convince her to want you because she wants someone else that does not want her other than for an occasional, when the other woman is not around BOOTY CALL.

Cure for a Stuck on Stupid Female

1. SEVERE ABUSE. Yes, I said ABUSE because those types of females typically will not break away from that man until something like that happens. I am not speaking of MILD abuse, I'm speaking of SEVERE physical or emotional abuse. Even in cases of abuse, many of them may not go back to THAT MAN but eventually will gravitate to the same type of man and NEVER display any type of genuine interest in or efforts toward having a good man.
2. MARKETABLE VALUE DIMINISHING. I'm speaking of that which causes her physical appearance to degrade and the attention from males SHE is intereted in to diminish which can come from aging, physical abuse, stress worring about that man that does not give a crap about her, depression because she is not with THAT MAN, alcohol or drugs to ease her pain of depression, etc.

What Happens If She Is Abused Enough to Break Away from Him

1. There is no guarantee that she will have an interest in YOU even if she tells you she does not want to be with him again.
2. She WILL BE emotionally (and possibly physically) damaged goods for a period of time. The key with her is the recovery period which varies from female to female AND how much effort SHE puts into wanting to be with YOU.

Advice to a Good Man if She Contacts You Afterwards

1. OBSERVE her behavior very closely.
2. Make your renewed interest in her known to her.
3. DO NOT immediately emotionally attach yourself to her.
4. DO NOT allow her to just come into your life and alter it.
5. She has to DISPLAY a genuine interest in you and EARN your confidence in her. Remember, she (not you) didn't want the opportunity.

Advice to a Good Man THE MOMENT YOU begin to feel ANY emotion for a female

Unless YOU are a FOOL, you MUST ask this question?

"Is there anyone or anything that you are STILL emotionally attached to that can prevent us from spending QUALITY time together and attempting to get to know each other in a serious manner"?

The reason for asking is because you don't want to make any ASSumptions. You want to based HER behavior afterwards SOLELY upon HER response to the above question. DO NOT ask her the question and then give multiple choice answers to her. Simply ask the question and SHUT UP. It's important that you do not lead her into a response.

If she is uncomfortable with the question or want to avoid it one of two (or both) can be ASSumed:

1. She is still emotionally attached.
2. She has no personal or genuine interest in YOU.

If that's the case, as hard as it may be for you to do, you've got to move on.


I'm sure some of you (especially females) are still steaming due to my statement of SEVERE ABUSE as a cure for Stuck on Stupid females. Well, I stand by that and let me paint a picture for you. It's like someone standing on the edge of a building about to jump off and commit suicide. TRYING TO TALK the suicide person down (talking them out of that Stuck on Stupid, dysfunctional, one-sided relationship) has proven to be futile. You now have 2 choices: 1) Allow her to jump to her "relationship" death (i.e., remain in that Stuck on Stupid, dead-end state) or 2) Shoot her in the leg (i.e., allow him to SEVERLY ABUSE her) which will be very painful but save their life and her chances of her moving away from him and eventually "hopefully" onto a healthy relatiohship with a good, caring man). That's my take on Stuck on Stupid females. She can foolishly remain, accept whatever kind of ABUSE he chooses to inflict upon her while she hope he changes his mind about her. Those are the PRIMARY options with a Stuck on Stupid female and I have NO SYMPATHY if SHE FOOLishly chooses to remain in that dead-end, abusive situation.

The above information is no secret and is "again" not intended for the Abusive types of males (i.e., Bad Boy, Pretty Boy, Thuggish, Ballers, etc.). They know how to handle females and NOT emotionally attach themselves to them. This information is for the good men, nice guys, naive guys that just don't know or don't want to know what they MAY possibly be getting into when dealing with a female that's STUCK ON STUPID as opposed to a GOOD woman that's loving, caring and NOT stuck on stupid for a male that does not give a crap about her.

I am here attempting to guide you in the direction of the GOOD WOMEN out there. Hopefully you will apply your common sense and take my advice. If you choose to IGNORE my advice, YOU deserve whatever emotional, physical and FINANCIAL pain and suffering YOU receive.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

The Female Version of "Friends with Benefits"

I have created this particular blog based upon conversations I've heard and postings I've seen on several social site profiles of females. Many of them will state, "I'm not interested in a relationship now and I'm just looking for a friend to do things with" or "I'm not interested in men that are looking for a friend with benefits".

I sometimes like to begin with defining certains words to get a clear understanding in attempts to minimize or eliminate confusion and meaningless confrontation. I realize that there are IDIOTS out there that regardless of how much clarity you bring forth they will always bring about meaningless confrontation. That's a given so let me continue for those SENSIBLE people who will be reading this blog.


The average, everyday Joe and NOT the bad boy, thuggish, baller or pretty boy types.


A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual relations.


An advantage or profit gained from something.


Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment.

**BREAKING NEWS FLASH** - Scientists have now made 2 remarkable discoveries:

- The male mouse has a defective gene in his brain that MAY cause him to behave in a STUPID, SELF-DESTRUCTIVE, SUBMISSIVE or ABUSIVE manner when interacting with female mice he is attracted to,

- SEX is not the only benefit that can be derived from friends with benefits.


Now that I've defined 4 key words/phrases let me continue. I can and do respect a female's wishes to NOT engage in sexual activity and just be friends. I'm not one of those desperate, deprived, always-in-heat, gotta-put-that-notch-on-my-belt type males that feel the need to "hit it" just because I'm with you. Yes there are males that exist with that mentality and I have no problem stating such but that's not me nor my point.

My point is those female that like to put that "no friends with benefits here" sign in some males faces yet they selfishly play that GAME and expect to benefit from it.

Let me list a few other benefits that can come about due to HER ALLOWING HIM to be her friend:

1. HE paying her way when they go places
2. HE doing little favors when she needs help
3. HE doing physical things that she can't or don't want to do
4. HE listening to her talk about things when he really isn't in the mood to listen
5. HE taking her places or go places with her that she feels uncomfortable going to alone or just don't want to go alone

The above brief list are ALL BENEFITS that she can potentially receive while holding that "I'm not gonna be your friend with benefits" sign in his face. Oh yea, here's another:

6. SHE receiving sex when SHE desires it from him eventhough SHE stipulated she will NOT be "friends with benefits"

I don't see anything wrong with HIM receiving the first five benefits IF she is going to receive them. Afterall, shouldn't FRIENDSHIP behavior go both ways? Yea, right (LOL).

UNFORTUNATELY, most males are WEAK (when it comes to interacting with a female he is attracted to) and will do STUPID things in HOPES of being rewarded with sex, receiving continual time with her or getting into a relationship as a reward for doing those "friends with benefits" items that, in most cases, SHE WILL NOT REFUSE and in many cases SHE EXPECT to receive.

Q & A

Q1. Will most males continue to foolishly do the above things eventhough she's indicated "friends with no benefits"?
A1. Absolutely. Males are conditioned to do and simply "HOPE for the best".

Q2. Will many females continue to expect the male to do those things regardless of her claims to "friends with no benefits"?
A2. Absolutely. Many females are conditioned to de-value a male by expecting him to EARN the right to be accepted by her.

Q3. Will many female STOP playing the female game version of "friends with benefits" after reading this blog?
A3. Of course not and why should they. It benefits them too much to give it up and there are plenty of FOOLish males available to cater to them in that manner.

Q4. If many females won't stop expecting to receive, what is your point posting this blog?
A4. My point is to make males aware that IF she places that "I'm NOT gonna be a friend with benefits" expectation on him he should accept as long as she accepts his response of "I'm not gonna be a friend with benefits (as stated above) for you either" and then see just how much of a friend she really is going to be. Unfortunately, most males will continue to behave in the manner of Answer #1 but if I can get a few males to change then I've done a good thing.

Thursday, May 26, 2011

If You Pay, Have It Your Way

(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer)

Chapter 9 - If You Pay, Have It Your Way

I am sure that many of us are guilty of doing what I am about to say. You see a female you are attracted to and she finds you physically appealing, she will ALLOW you into her space and the opportunity to sell yourself.

IF she has been raised in the home or conditioned by other outside of the home to HO HER TIME, then you will have to spend money (which means also pay her way) if you want to spend time getting to know her.

Eventually, according to social protocol, you will ask her out on a date.  Typically it will be a dining because that is the common place males will invite a female. Most females will not say no to a FREE meal if they feel comfortable with you. That level of comfort can range from them being physically attracted to you OR knowing that they will have complete control of you and the situation even though they are not physically attracted to you.

I have been guilty of the following, in my distant past, and I am sure that other males have been as well. You ask her out, she says yes and then you ask her where would she like to go? STOP RIGHT THERE!!!

NEVER, EVER ASK a female where she would like to go IF YOU ARE GOING TO PAY for the date. This is how females get the chance to eat at expensive places knowing that you will pay for it.   IF YOU are going to PAY for the time to be with her then YOU should have exclusive rights to HER and that time. That simply means you will get her to agree that the time between the two of you belongs to the two of you and no one else BEFORE you go on a date.  Keep those first few dates short.  This will make it much easier for:

- NO sending or checking text messages
NO talking on a cell phone UNLESS it's an emergency

If she can't agree to those REASONABLE conditions, you should not pay for the date although you can still go on the date.  Now, I would recommend that you DO NOT PICK HER UP but rather meet her at the location.  Reason is because IF she DISRESPECTS your wishes or the agreement between the two of you, simply get up and leave.  She has her own transportation.  She has shown you she has NO RESPECT for your wishes.  Therefore, it should not matter to you (or probably her) if you leave.

***SPECIAL NOTE*** - If you go to a restaurant where they present a menu to you and you pay after you have eaten, DO NOT ORDER for her.  Let her order for herself so if she turns out to be an ungrateful and inconsiderate bitch, simply PAY FOR YOUR ORDER and leave that bitch at the table.  NEVER PAY for someone that DISRESPECT you.  ***SPECIAL NOTE***

If she sees you as a SUCKERMAN that is desperate for a date with her, she is going to try and get you to take her on as an expensive date as she can. She will even have you thinking that this will impress her. Well, I have to agree that you will impress her but for a totally different reason than you what you are thinking.

You will be impressing (showing) her how WEAK and EASY you are for her to get you to do what she wants. They get offended or have very little patience for the man they are not attracted if he does not do what she wants. If this happens then she’s not into you.

You need to PLAN AHEAD and have a place or places in mind before you ask her out on a dining date. If she asks where you are going to be taking her go ahead and tell her. When you tell her where you are going to take her don’t ask her, “Is that place ok with you”? As long as the place is clean, safe and she likes you it will not matter to her.  If she is  going to take a FREE RIDE off of your wallet then:

- YOU CONTROL where the two of you are going
- YOU CONTROL how much money you are spending
- YOU CONTROL how much time the two of you will spend on that date

Do not feel special because she ALLOWED YOU to spend YOUR money on her. If you have to spend your money on her to spend time with her she does not value you as a person anyway. Whether it is dining or some other social event, make sure that you decide whether you want her undivided attention if you are going to pay.