Wednesday, September 28, 2011
J. Duval's 2 Date Rule
This blog IS for males who have PAID THE PRICE, been UNSUCCESSFUL but are still SEEKING COMPANIONSHIP with a THOUGHTFUL, CONSIDERATE and UNSELFISH woman.
This blog is here to MINIMIZE YOUR COST in your attempts to sort through the SH*T and find yourself a DECENT, LOVING woman.
I truly understand the MENTALITY of MOST women (and females) in today's times when it comes to dating (getting to know each other), the GAMES they play and their EXPECTATIONS of being INCONSIDERATELY STUCK ON SELFISH thinking the male is SUPPOSED to be the one to INITIATE and PAY for the dates.
The vast MAJORITY of females are TAKING ADVANTAGE OF and TAKING A FREE RIDE off the WALLETS of DECENT males that have a GENUINE interest in them that are functioning under those out-dated, traditional rules.
A considerate and unselfish woman would not accept you spending your money feeding or entertaining her IF she has no genuine interest in you. She would be considerate and pay her own way in that case to keep it FAIR.
On the other hand, there are males that draw the line as to what they will allow a female to get away with and many of those females that take advantage of good men will WILLINGLY SUBMIT to these males WITHOUT resistance or putting him through the OLD FASHIONED, TRADITIONAL routine that they put males through that they have NO PERSONAL INTEREST in.
This has NOTHING to do with trying to get a female into sexually compromising a situation. This has EVERYTHING to do with how some females will take advantage of some males under the PRETENSE of PATIENT, OLD FASHIONED, TRADITIONAL, GENTLEMAN-LIKE behavior and READILY submit to other males.
IDEALLY I would say agree to meet her at a park with a few bottles of water IF you had the BALLS to make such a request. Unfortunately, MOST of you have been MENTALLY EMASCULATED and CONDITIONED to FEED HER DRINKS and FOOD and she is CONDITIONED to EAT when you meet so the park request will be quite difficult to achieve UNLESS she has physically seen you and find you to be very desirable. If you HAVE to go that old-fashioned, out-dated and ineffective (for you not her) traditional route where the man invites and pays during the dating process, I suggest that you following my "2 DATE SCREENING RULE".
DATE 1 - WALK IN THE PARK or COFFEE/JUICE LOCATION
(Walk In The Park). Although this is the HEALTHIEST date and MOST of them NEED to be walking in the park with a couple bottles of water as opposed to feeding their face, that is an ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE first date for MOST of them to accept.
(Coffee/Juice Location). Meet her, not pick her up, so that you spend more time getting to know her as opposed to spending more money on her. If you get bad vibes about her during that time you have only spent a few bucks and you are done with her. If this first date goes well ask her if she would like to meet you for breakfast or lunch. If she looks away from you, does not smile or seem a bit hesitant she is not feeling you so don’t persist and consider this your first and last date with her.
DATE 2 - COFFEE/JUICE LOCATION, BREAKFAST or LUNCH
Again meet her and don't pick her up. NEVER ARRANGE for dinner or some form of entertainment on the first or second date because of the cost and secondly her attention will be on the entertainment and not you. These kinds of events you reserve for someone that has displayed a GENUINE interest in you.
Again, pay for the date (because she expects you to do so) but make sure you keep it to a minimum. Don't think that just because she is there that she is genuinely interested in you. Remember, you are paying and skeezers typically will NEVER REFUSE A FREE MEAL if they feel they will have control over the situation.
During that second date you want to get a feel for how her schedule is so include some of that in the conversation as a discovery process (the importance of it will come later). If she says that she is a very busy person then this will be your last date with her. At the end of the second date, get ready to now expose her intentions by following the script below:
You Say - "Hey, I think these have been a couple of pretty good dates. What do you think?". (Say nothing else and wait for her response. If she does not agree then you are done with her. If she does agree, which most will regardless, that's when you pop the BIG question).
You Say - "So when are you going to invite me out on a date?". (This is where the information about how busy her schedule comes into play. If she did not state that she was very busy then she should have no problem inviting you out UNLESS she really doesn't give a crap about you. If she says she isn't sure then you now know she has no genuine interest in you because she stated earlier that she was not that busy of a person.
NOTE: DO NOT be a whiner and say, "well, you said earlier that you were not that busy". Just accept it as a small price to pay to identify a skeezer and don't see, talk to or cater to her again. She does not have to know why you no longer want to see her because she is not being genuine with you. This shows you that she is just a skeezer using you.
There are some females accustomed to fine dining with males of financial means or $UCKERMEN and will expect you to bear the expenses if you want to dine with them. If you are a WEAK MALE, I would say avoid these types and leave them to the ABUSIVE TYPES (i.e., players, pretty boys, thugs, married men, etc.) who know how to run the proper game on them as they would on you if you are STUPID enough to think she won't. I would suggest that this tactic be used on any woman that you have a personal interest in if she has NOT PROVEN herself to NOT BE a skeezer:
IF you are FOOLish enough to attempt to IMPRESS a female by taking her to an expensive restaurant, here's a tip on identifying a woman that has no respect for you and is just killing time and/or looking for an opportunity to get you to spend your money on her. How are you going to know that in advance? In most cases, the majority of average males will not know so I suggest that they proceed with caution. A female that values you and has a genuine interest in you will not try to get a free ride off of you. If she is not interested in you, she will know before the date is over; she should pay her own way because she knows you are doing so due to a personal interest in her and not just to spend money. Then again, she would have to be a thoughtful and considerate person which many of them aren’t.
** WARNING ** IF you have LOW SELF-ESTEEM, LONELY and are a WEAK and SUBMISSIVE MALE, do not try this tactic below. Simply open your wallet to whatever she wants, PAY the bill, get that THANK YOU, BIG SMILE (cause her belly is full and she did not have to pay) and a HAND SHAKE or what I call that BOOTY OUT, 3 PATS ON THE BACK, MINIMAL CONTACT , I'M NOT PERSONALLY INTERESTED IN YOU hug (LOL) and WALK AWAY accepting yourself for what you are.
The following tactic, IF YOU HAVE BALLS, should be used to determine if a female has a genuine interest in you or is only using you to kill time and get a free meal.
This would have to be done at a sit-in restaurant where you pay after the meal is finished. Remember, you won't know her intentions until you get her to a restaurant and ask her the right question.
1. Agree to meet at a restaurant. Do not pick her up and do not mention paying for the date.
2. When you get the menu and are ready to order, "let her order for herself" (this is very important)
3. Let the conversation flow and at some point just prior to the meal being paid for look her directly in her eyes and ask, "Would you like to get together again and if so will you pick up the next tab?". Do not say another word until she gives you an answer and if she asks you to repeat what you said; say exactly the same thing. Don’t change the conversation. If she resists responding to your question, says she doesn’t want to see you again or says that she doesn't believe a woman should pay, simply pay your portion and not hers. You are being used as a sucker (i.e. fool). The restaurant cannot make you pay for her because you did not order for her.
4. After you pay your portion offer to walk her to her car and if she says no just walk away from her and consider yourself fortunate that you weren't another one of her suckers. See it as a victory because you had an opportunity to get out, you had a nice meal and you only paid for yourself.
Many will consider this tactic cruel and scandalous but if she has no personal interest in you she should state that in advance. Trust me, they know if they are physically attracted to you and have a personal interest. If she isn't interested in you and will not tell you or will not pay for her portion of the date then she has no respect for you. Any tactic you use on her, before she uses you, is justified. Do not let those weak males out there tell you otherwise.
FINALLY: If you are going to pay for the date you should NEVER allow her to tell you where she wants to go. You make that determination because you are the one paying. Don’t be STUPID and a FOOL all in one date. At least save one of them for the next date (LOL).