Tuesday, September 21, 2010

If You Don't Want To Be Challenged, You Don't Have An Opinion

When I write my blogs I try to stay on point and not drift and even if I do and someone brings it to my attention I willingly correct it because that's the MATURE thing to do. That is, if their criticism makes sense and is not just an emotional rant like so many of them are.

I saw these comments online and since I can't reference the website I will just paste a portion here:

"... not everyone wants to explain or defend their thoughts..."

"If you are a person who shies away from debates that challenge your point of view, it’s because you don’t have an opinion that you can intelligently support".


Some adults are just accustomed to NOT having their statements questioned, accustomed to talking to others who think in the same manner or talking AT (not with) adults/minors who dare not question them. I truly believe their perception of a good conversation is, "You listen to me and don't disagree with or question what I have to say and then I listen to you and don't disagree with or question what you have to say. That way we will have a good conversation between the two of us". In other words, they can't handle being challenged, can't handle truth about themselves if it's not what they want to hear and will typically enclose themselves into a world that they have the perception of control. Hey, if it works for them.... WHATEVER (lol).

From time to time I will have a discussion with people and in doing so I will ask for clarification to a statement they make about one of my topics, a topic in general or if they make an ASSumption about me based upon something they think I have said or written. I will ask for clarification in an attempt to clearly understand what they are saying so that I can INTELLIGENTLY respond to them as well as make corrections IF they can give me a clear and reasonable explanation to defend their statements. IF they can provide me with a clear and reasonable explanation I have no problem changing or retracting my statement(s) without any attitude or harsh feelings towards that or those individuals.

Why can I so easily change or retract my statement you ask?? It's because when I engage in a discussion (unless it's just bullshitting between us), I try to be as clear and sensible as possible so that I WON'T make myself look like a babbling idiot or foolish person. I try to make a point of NOT flaunting my IGNORANCE and will very seldom say something that I can't back up with more than a "just because" or "because I said so" response. Definiton of Ignorance: "displaying a lack of knowledge in a particular topic" so if you get angry at my use of the word ignorance then you have begun do display your ignorance about the definition of ignorance (lol). No one's knows everything and we all can make mistakes.

It takes a MATURE person to admit to their mistakes as well as be capable of discussing a point they have made when someone else disagrees with him/her. The ones that can't handle being questioned will typically want to drop the discussion and move on to another topic or terminate the communication with YOU all together. DON'T take it personal or be angry with him/her. Just accept them for who they are and realize their limitations with it comes to INTELLIGENT, non-bullshit dialog UNLESS you will agree with everything that comes out of his/her mouth.

Please provide your comments in the box below. I am sure that we all know at least one person that fit the above behavior. If so, why not send this link to them. I would love to read their comment on my blogpage and well as let others read it too.


ANYONE that challenges you opens themselves up to have their challenges challenged so don't be so defensive when it occurs.

Accept the FACT that other people have opinions regarding what you say and just as they can challenge what YOU say, you can also challenge what THEY say about what YOU'VE said to validate them or make them look foolish. Now if you can't justify YOUR statements and he/she can't justify THEIR challenge then both of you are simply bullshitting each other so accept it.


  1. If you keep it up you may just win the "Asshole of the Year" award. How you like that?

  2. Hey Angela, thanks for the compliment. I hope that you cast your vote for me as well. I feel honored to be in the running as opposed to being nominated for "P^ssy of the Year". Please tell your friends to vote for me as well.