Don't You Act STUPID Because She's STUCK on STUPID

"A STRONG man is not afraid to SPEAK TRUTH, A WEAK man will remain SILENT, A PLAYER will SPIT GAME and A FOOL will simply BABBLE" - J. Duval

I will leave you to decide if this is TRUTH, GAME or BABBLE. Feel free to provide comments afterwards.

THERE ARE FEMALES out there stuck on stupid for a particular man.
THERE ARE FEMALES out there stuck on stupid for a particular lifestyle they can't afford.
THERE ARE WOMEN out there NOT stuck on stupid that will want to spend time getting to know you.

Let the Stuck on Stupid female show interest in you AFTER she's been SEVERLY ABUSED by the male that does not give a crap about her because that's almost the only way she will come out of her STUPID condition and see any value in YOU the average Joe good man.

It's Ok to see her and like what you see.
It's Ok to like and let her know of your interest.
It's Ok to put forth some effort in your attempt to get to know her.
It's NOT Ok to continue that effort if you find out she is Stuck on Stupid for someone else.

My Definition of Stupid

1. KNOWINGLY doing something that will benefit her NOW and NEVER you.
2. KNOWINGLY doing something that will benefit her NOW and HOPING it will benefit you later.

My Description of Stuck on Stupid Behavior

1. FOOLishly attached emotionally to some man that has NO GENUINE interest in her.
2. Won't let go of the FANTASY of hopefully getting back together with a man that's taking advantage of HER STUPIDITY.
3. May spend time with another or other men but mentally is on tactical alert FOOLishly wating for that recall notification.
4. Will accept practically any kind of disrespectful or ABUSIVE (emotional, physical or financial) treatment from that man.
5. Will ignore or overlook opportunities with good men waiting on the man that does not give a crap about her.
6. Will ALLOW that man to put her on hold while he spends time with the female he is interested in.
7. Will ACCEPT being that BOOTY CALL when HIS primary woman is not around FOOLishly thinking she can convince him to leave her.

My ASSumptions for that Stuck on Stupid Behavior (one or a combination may apply)

1. Is financially dependent on him and don't want to let go of it.
2. Want to live a certain upgraded lifestyle that she can't or won't provide for herself.
3. Has a child or children with him and is hoping that eventually they will get back together.
4. Has a chemical dependency and feels that only he can provide her the satisfaction she desires.
5. Has been turned out SEXUALLY and feels as if ONLY HE can provide her the satisfaction she desires.

Why Should You Be Aware of Your Behavior With Her?

Females have been capitalizing off of a good man's STUPID behavior for years. You will cross paths with many females out there that are Stuck on Stupid for some other man. It does not matter how much YOU like her, if she's stuck on stupid for some other man YOU are wasting your time. While she is stuck on stupid, the best that would happend to you is she allows you to kill time with her until she is recalled by the man she is stuck on stupid for.

Impact To You As A Result of Spending Time with a Stuck on Stupid Female

1. Wasted time and effort.
2. No chance of her wanting you.
3. YOU potentially becoming Stuck on Stupid for her so now you have two idiots in that Stuck on Stupid circle (you wanting her and she wanting him).

The Difference between "Not Sure If She's Interested in You" and "Stuck on Stupid".

1. If she is "not sure she's interested in you" that means she WILL spend time together with you getting to know you and then the two of you MATURELY deciding where to go from there.
2. If she is "stuck on stupid" that means no matter what you say or do it will never be enough to convince her to want you because she wants someone else that does not want her other than for an occasional, when the other woman is not around BOOTY CALL.

Cure for a Stuck on Stupid Female

1. SEVERE ABUSE. Yes, I said ABUSE because those types of females typically will not break away from that man until something like that happens. I am not speaking of MILD abuse, I'm speaking of SEVERE physical or emotional abuse. Even in cases of abuse, many of them may not go back to THAT MAN but eventually will gravitate to the same type of man and NEVER display any type of genuine interest in or efforts toward having a good man.
2. MARKETABLE VALUE DIMINISHING. I'm speaking of that which causes her physical appearance to degrade and the attention from males SHE is intereted in to diminish which can come from aging, physical abuse, stress worring about that man that does not give a crap about her, depression because she is not with THAT MAN, alcohol or drugs to ease her pain of depression, etc.

What Happens If She Is Abused Enough to Break Away from Him

1. There is no guarantee that she will have an interest in YOU even if she tells you she does not want to be with him again.
2. She WILL BE emotionally (and possibly physically) damaged goods for a period of time. The key with her is the recovery period which varies from female to female AND how much effort SHE puts into wanting to be with YOU.

Advice to a Good Man if She Contacts You Afterwards

1. OBSERVE her behavior very closely.
2. Make your renewed interest in her known to her.
3. DO NOT immediately emotionally attach yourself to her.
4. DO NOT allow her to just come into your life and alter it.
5. She has to DISPLAY a genuine interest in you and EARN your confidence in her. Remember, she (not you) didn't want the opportunity.

Advice to a Good Man THE MOMENT YOU begin to feel ANY emotion for a female

Unless YOU are a FOOL, you MUST ask this question?

"Is there anyone or anything that you are STILL emotionally attached to that can prevent us from spending QUALITY time together and attempting to get to know each other in a serious manner"?

The reason for asking is because you don't want to make any ASSumptions. You want to based HER behavior afterwards SOLELY upon HER response to the above question. DO NOT ask her the question and then give multiple choice answers to her. Simply ask the question and SHUT UP. It's important that you do not lead her into a response.

If she is uncomfortable with the question or want to avoid it one of two (or both) can be ASSumed:

1. She is still emotionally attached.
2. She has no personal or genuine interest in YOU.

If that's the case, as hard as it may be for you to do, you've got to move on.

Conclusion

I'm sure some of you (especially females) are still steaming due to my statement of SEVERE ABUSE as a cure for Stuck on Stupid females. Well, I stand by that and let me paint a picture for you. It's like someone standing on the edge of a building about to jump off and commit suicide. TRYING TO TALK the suicide person down (talking them out of that Stuck on Stupid, dysfunctional, one-sided relationship) has proven to be futile. You now have 2 choices: 1) Allow her to jump to her "relationship" death (i.e., remain in that Stuck on Stupid, dead-end state) or 2) Shoot her in the leg (i.e., allow him to SEVERLY ABUSE her) which will be very painful but save their life and her chances of her moving away from him and eventually "hopefully" onto a healthy relatiohship with a good, caring man). That's my take on Stuck on Stupid females. She can foolishly remain, accept whatever kind of ABUSE he chooses to inflict upon her while she hope he changes his mind about her. Those are the PRIMARY options with a Stuck on Stupid female and I have NO SYMPATHY if SHE FOOLishly chooses to remain in that dead-end, abusive situation.

The above information is no secret and is "again" not intended for the Abusive types of males (i.e., Bad Boy, Pretty Boy, Thuggish, Ballers, etc.). They know how to handle females and NOT emotionally attach themselves to them. This information is for the good men, nice guys, naive guys that just don't know or don't want to know what they MAY possibly be getting into when dealing with a female that's STUCK ON STUPID as opposed to a GOOD woman that's loving, caring and NOT stuck on stupid for a male that does not give a crap about her.

I am here attempting to guide you in the direction of the GOOD WOMEN out there. Hopefully you will apply your common sense and take my advice. If you choose to IGNORE my advice, YOU deserve whatever emotional, physical and FINANCIAL pain and suffering YOU receive.

The Female Version of "Friends with Benefits"

I have created this particular blog based upon conversations I've heard and postings I've seen on several social site profiles of females. Many of them will state, "I'm not interested in a relationship now and I'm just looking for a friend to do things with" or "I'm not interested in men that are looking for a friend with benefits".

I sometimes like to begin with defining certains words to get a clear understanding in attempts to minimize or eliminate confusion and meaningless confrontation. I realize that there are IDIOTS out there that regardless of how much clarity you bring forth they will always bring about meaningless confrontation. That's a given so let me continue for those SENSIBLE people who will be reading this blog.

MALES

The average, everyday Joe and NOT the bad boy, thuggish, baller or pretty boy types.

FRIENDS

A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual relations.

BENEFITS

An advantage or profit gained from something.

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment.

**BREAKING NEWS FLASH** - Scientists have now made 2 remarkable discoveries:

- The male mouse has a defective gene in his brain that MAY cause him to behave in a STUPID, SELF-DESTRUCTIVE, SUBMISSIVE or ABUSIVE manner when interacting with female mice he is attracted to,

- SEX is not the only benefit that can be derived from friends with benefits.

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Now that I've defined 4 key words/phrases let me continue. I can and do respect a female's wishes to NOT engage in sexual activity and just be friends. I'm not one of those desperate, deprived, always-in-heat, gotta-put-that-notch-on-my-belt type males that feel the need to "hit it" just because I'm with you. Yes there are males that exist with that mentality and I have no problem stating such but that's not me nor my point.

My point is those female that like to put that "no friends with benefits here" sign in some males faces yet they selfishly play that GAME and expect to benefit from it.

Let me list a few other benefits that can come about due to HER ALLOWING HIM to be her friend:

1. HE paying her way when they go places
2. HE doing little favors when she needs help
3. HE doing physical things that she can't or don't want to do
4. HE listening to her talk about things when he really isn't in the mood to listen
5. HE taking her places or go places with her that she feels uncomfortable going to alone or just don't want to go alone

The above brief list are ALL BENEFITS that she can potentially receive while holding that "I'm not gonna be your friend with benefits" sign in his face. Oh yea, here's another:

6. SHE receiving sex when SHE desires it from him eventhough SHE stipulated she will NOT be "friends with benefits"

I don't see anything wrong with HIM receiving the first five benefits IF she is going to receive them. Afterall, shouldn't FRIENDSHIP behavior go both ways? Yea, right (LOL).

UNFORTUNATELY, most males are WEAK (when it comes to interacting with a female he is attracted to) and will do STUPID things in HOPES of being rewarded with sex, receiving continual time with her or getting into a relationship as a reward for doing those "friends with benefits" items that, in most cases, SHE WILL NOT REFUSE and in many cases SHE EXPECT to receive.

Q & A


Q1. Will most males continue to foolishly do the above things eventhough she's indicated "friends with no benefits"?
A1. Absolutely. Males are conditioned to do and simply "HOPE for the best".


Q2. Will many females continue to expect the male to do those things regardless of her claims to "friends with no benefits"?
A2. Absolutely. Many females are conditioned to de-value a male by expecting him to EARN the right to be accepted by her.


Q3. Will many female STOP playing the female game version of "friends with benefits" after reading this blog?
A3. Of course not and why should they. It benefits them too much to give it up and there are plenty of FOOLish males available to cater to them in that manner.


Q4. If many females won't stop expecting to receive, what is your point posting this blog?
A4. My point is to make males aware that IF she places that "I'm NOT gonna be a friend with benefits" expectation on him he should accept as long as she accepts his response of "I'm not gonna be a friend with benefits (as stated above) for you either" and then see just how much of a friend she really is going to be. Unfortunately, most males will continue to behave in the manner of Answer #1 but if I can get a few males to change then I've done a good thing.