What is that Skeezer Really Thinking?

(Excerpt from "How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer")

There are far too many good men so desperate to have a female that they overlook what a skeezer really means when she is speaking to him. There is a difference between a skeezer’s statements and her thoughts. I will take just a few of their statements and expose their true thoughts for the good men that aren’t capable of doing so or they are in denial and won’t accept reality.

Skeezer’s Words:
I would like for us to try and be friends first.

Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I am not that attracted to you so I would like to see how much use you would be to me before I decide if I want to keep you around me.

Skeezer’s Words:
I like you but I don’t want to ruin our friendship.

Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I have no personal interest in you. I like what you do for me (no sex of course) so I want to keep you at a distance just in case I do meet someone that I am interested in.

Skeezer’s Words:
I don’t like a cheap man.

Skeezer’s Thoughts:
If you want to spend time with me you will have to spend your money on me.

Skeezer’s Words:
I will not have sex until after I am married.

Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I have dated men, I have had sex with all the men I was attracted to and they still did not marry me so now I am going to use religion or my frustration in making selfish choices as my sexual shield. Since you appear to be of no social or financial benefit to me being and I am not really that physically attracted to you I will make you wait.

Skeezer’s Words:
I am not interested in shallow men and I do not have friends who are.

Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I can’t handle rejection and especially if you are not physically attracted to me. I will never introduce you to any of my girlfriends that you may be attracted to. If I can’t be happy with you I will make sure that none of them will be.

Documented Skeezers – a Definite Dead End

(Excerpt from "How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer")

For the man that seeks excitement, game, challenge and a costly dysfunctional relationship, these personalities below are especially for you.

These types of women claim to be independent, strong, genuine, reasonable, spiritual/religious, and fair, but in actuality, they are all skeezers seeking to take advantage of a good man’s time, resources, and/or finances.

They are pretenders, hypocrites, hustlers, liars when it comes to interaction with a good man. Many of them may do well or pretend to be doing well when they don’t have a man in their life but when it comes to interacting with a good man, they will eventually dump their financial and physical responsibilities onto him.

There is no legitimate reason why any good man should waste his time with these types of women. These types of women have made poor choices in their lives, are now paying the price for it and looking for a good, suckerman to bail them out.

Skeezers do not like good men having a healthy relationship with their mothers because just as animals have that ability to smell fear MOTHERS HAVE THAT ABILITY TO SMELL SKEEZERS. From that point on, moms guards are up and looking out for her son’s best interest which skeezers despise.

The following are a few of documented skeezers and a brief description to assist you in identifying their behavior. The remainder of them are listed in the book.

MS PIGEON – She lives by the creed, “The more men I meet, the more free meals I should be able to eat”. She always ready to eat and expects a man to pay for her meals no matter how much money she has.

MS DRAMA QUEEN – If you want nothing else in life but arguments and stress this is the one. The only peace you will get from her is a good piece of ass.

MS BEGGA LOTT – She is usually financially over-extended due to her immature financial behavior. She is unable to pay her bills most of the time and expects you to pay or is able to pay and just expects you to pay them anyway.

MS INDEPENDENT – She plays the independent game well. Has a job (or self-employed), car, an apartment (or house), and claims she is independent and doesn’t need a man’s money. Go out on dates with her and see if she pays for her "so-called" independent self.

MS HOLY ROLLER – She is waiting on the Lord to send her that mate, but all you have to do is attend church regularly, dress in nice suits so she can be seen with you and accepted by her church peers, spend a little money on her and she will be the biggest freak you ever had before marriage and will justify it by saying that God sent you to her.

MS HOLY HUSTLER – She is the hypocritical and psychologically disturbed twin sister of Ms Holy Roller. She worships cash by way of the bible and is quite skilled in using the “God Game” to acquire case, assets, favors, etc., from men, and use that same “God Game” to keep good men at a safe, non-sexual but manipulative distance “In The Name of Jesus.”

MS PACKAGE DEAL – This is Ms. So Fine and good looking that in the past when she had no children and she would not give the good man the chance at a relationship. Now, with that package on her hip, she will say, “I made a mistake.” Years later and being unable to attract the same kind of men that knocked her up, she is ready to settle down with the types of men she ignored in the past. Are you ready to PRETEND that she now cares for you and give up your time and finances for HER (and some other man's) package?

MS GOLD DIGGER – A closet prostitute with the idea that you have to pay for the dates if you want to be with her. She typically juggles more than one man at a time and now with the internet, she’s a CYBER HO.

MS PARTY GIRL – She lives in the world of fantasy, fun & recreation. Typically, she is the young cutie that’s looking for that man that will allow her to continue to live that irresponsible, childish lifestyle. What she refuses to see is that with time and receiving all the attention, she will go from that YOUNG, FIRM CUTIE to that OLE’, LOOSE BOOTY CALL that no one will commit to.

MS N. DEE NILE (WAITING FOR EX) – Here is the CLASSIC case of being in DENIAL. She is waiting on her ex’s because the Look, Sex and/or Money were too good to let go of and she wants only him and is only killing time with you.

Whoso Findeth a Wife Findeth a Good Thing

(Excerpt from "How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer")

That phrase is used quite commonly with women and most (not all) don’t know what they are talking about.

First of all remember that you don’t meet a woman and she automatically becomes your wife. If you are not swayed by her looks then you should know that there is a process that she should follow before she becomes wife potential. I will move from the phrase backwards to help you out if you don’t know.

1. Before she can become your wife she has to DISPLAY wife-like qualities.

2 Before she can display wife-like qualities she has to KNOW what those qualities are.

3. Before she can know what those qualities are she has to LEARN those qualities.

4. The way to learn those qualities is to be TAUGHT by a knowledgeable, unselfish and sane male, female or group.

5. Before she can be taught those qualities she has to have the proper ATTITUDE.

Many women will have grown up with a selfish attitude and will have not been taught what wife-like qualities are. What most of them do know about being a wife was probably learned through direct observation at home of an emotionally damaged female that made selfish or poor choices in choosing a mate and will now blame the mate or ex’s for her dismal situation.

She may also have been negatively influenced by selfish and controlling women in dysfunctional relationships which typically have the man as a financial and material provider of her immature and selfish demands. That man will usually just give her what she wants to temporarily shut her up. Those types of females are usually never satisfied and the best thing he could do for himself is leave home and never return.

Until she can display those wife-like qualities on a consistent basis all you have found is a thing. You don’t know how good that thing is or if that thing is a good woman that can potentially become your wife or just another skeezer that will eventually become a physical, emotional and financial burden.

Unless you are foolish you should never allow her to bring stress or debt into your life because she will expect for you to help partially or totally bear her burdens. Just being a female does not qualify her to be your wife.

Is She A Good Woman Or Just Another Skeezer

(Excerpt from "How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer")

Some women have no clue what a good woman is because most men either don’t know or don’t tell them. Here are some positive and basic qualities that any good woman can and should consistently display. Don’t settle for less!!

- She is emotionally free and psychologically healthy.
- She has healthy relationships with those close to her.
- She takes care of her own responsibilities and will not expect you to rescue her from the drama, stress or debt that she has created.
- She can sensibly communicate her likes and dislikes to you.
- She is happy just being in your company without developing diarrhea of the mouth.
- She can be content at home and does not have to run the streets in order to be happy.
- She accepts you and does not try to change you.
- She can keep your business private and not become a public embarrassment.
- She is seeking companionship to enhance her happiness and not to make her happy.
- She knows how to cook a healthy meal and not just burgers and tacos.

Marriage Does Not Make A Man "Monogamous"

(Excerpt from "Rules of Engagement")

Rule #22: Marriage doesn’t make a man monogamous.

If the man WANTS a monogamous relationship and she is CONSISTENTLY satisfying his needs that will keep him monogamous. Both conditions must exist in order for him to be monogamous.

Marriage will make a man who DID NOT want to be monogamous or married PRETEND to be happy and cause him to violate that monogamous agreement at every opportunity.

Many marriages are based upon a foundation of lies, pressure and threats of termination of the relationship by the female if he doesn’t marry her. His conformance is due to society’s pressure, her pressure, his inability to get a woman to commit to him for any length of time or her INTENTIONALLY getting pregnant (there are very few mistakes these days and too many forms of birth control to use the "mistake excuse"). FACT: The female has COMPLETE CONTROL over that sperm once a male ejaculates into her. What happens with that sperm afterwards is by IGNORANCE or INTENT. I give females far too much credit to first assume them to be ignorant.

There are some males that get married so they can have someone at home to come to while they continue to have their flings outside of the home. These males refuse to see or accept that many females aren’t living by the old rule of sharing their man as long as she is living in the house and he is paying the bills. The female will wait until the appropriate “legal” opportunity and leave taking as much as she can.

If you don’t want to be monogamous then why would you get married or into a monogamous relationship? Let me guess. Would it be that you are just stupid and don’t care about your well-being? You don’t have a future so you don’t have anything to lose? Simply don’t know any better?

Response:

If you decide to get married never marry because you feel pressured. Never marry unless you are ready for a monogamous relationship, she has been consistent in her respect and love for you or you have no goals in life and you find a female that is financially in a position to take care of you.

Reason:

Many men cheat because the wife stopped doing those things she did to get him to marry her or he was not ready to commit to a marriage but gave in to the pressure to please her or others.

If you are that naive and jump into marriage due to pressure or marry because it’s a dysfunctional situation and you are hoping things will get better afterwards then you are making a wrong decision. You are taking foolish risks which usually lead to depression, stress, domestic, financial problems for the male and eventual divorce.

The remainder of this applies primarily to those younger males who seek benefits from females that are at least ten years older than they are. Women older than you will tend to do things for you that they won’t do for a man their age or older so take full advantage of it while you can.

IF YOU HAVE NO AMBITIONS IN LIFE to be financially successful then you will want to MARRY A FEMALE THAT IS AT LEAST 10 YEARS older than you and that is financially in a better position than you. That way if the two of you break up you should be able to legally take some of what she has and continue to live that lifestyle that you have been accustomed to just as females do.

Don’t put a priority on your sexual satisfaction from her. Do as they do and get you someone younger on the side to satisfy that desire. That is what many of them will do who is with an older man primarily for financial reasons. Remember you must think like them and not for them.

If they want a male’s behavior to change they should change their behavior. After all, your thoughts and behavior should be a reflection of hers.

DO NOT MARRY unless YOU are ready to commit to a monogamous relationship because in today's society YOU have "potentially" far more to lose than gain if you violate that marriage.

What Are The Weight Classes of Females?

(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - Rules of Engagement")

Rule #3: There are five basic weight classes of females
Be aware that there are five basic weight classes of females which have nothing to do with how heavy they are or their physical attractiveness. These classes are about her attitude and behavior. It is important that you realize and accept the fact that not all females are in the same weight class and thusly will not behave the same towards you. Most will not behave in a manner that you wish for them/her to do on a consistent basis when it comes to your initial contact and personal interaction.

Response:

You should use the word female when referring to the opposite sex until you get to know which class to put her in.

Reason:

The term female is generic, applies to all ages and does not lift her up on a pedestal and does not put her down in the gutter. You should realize that some minor as well as many adult females are adhering to those new rules that benefit them regardless of the consequences to you.

I place females in five basic weight classes. I understand that there may be other weight classes but for the purpose of simplicity and discussion these weight classes are going to be the only ones mentioned.

These weight classes are to apply based solely upon their mindset and behavior towards you and you are not to pre-judge them based upon any of your previous experiences but you better protect yourself at all time until you know what you are dealing with.

1. Featherweight,
2. Lightweight,
3. Welterweight,
4. Middleweight and
5. Heavyweight

Most females are conditioned to present themselves in one or more of the five weight classes.

Featherweight: Considerate, respectful and responsible with the highest potential to become a mate. She is willing to work with you and not against you in the ring, has a genuine interest in you, values you and not what you have, not what you can spend or not what she can get from you. Her understanding of loving a male and showing him respect has not been corrupted. She spends time with him without expecting or requiring an admission fee.

Lightweight: Considerate, respectful and responsible with good potential to become a mate or friend. Although she has been conditioned to take what she can, she is willing to work with a man and not against him and has a genuine interest in him, values him and not what he has or not what he can spend on her. She will spend time with him periodically expecting an admission fee due to her conditioning but not requiring it.

Welterweight: Non-combative and only in the ring for the attention and the benefits she knows that you will freely and foolishly give her in order to spend time with her. Many make themselves available on those online dating sites to increase their benefits quota.

Middleweight: Scrappy and competitive but will be very co-operative if you provide the finances required to spend time with her. She periodically will put up resistance but all you have to do is pull out that cash or credit card and she will cease the resistance and cater to your needs. They sell their time and what is done with it is negotiable which may NOT include sex if that’s what you were thinking. There are two basic sub-classes, affordable and overpriced. Of course overpriced depend solely upon your financial status so pay close attention and choose wisely.

Heavyweight: This one will go toe-to-toe, trade blows with you and knock your DUMB ASS out if you don’t keep your guards up and protect yourself. She is masterful in the ring. She expects you to spend money as well as cater to her. She expects you to expect nothing more than to be grateful that she has allowed you the opportunity to serve her when she (not you) wants service.

There are Super-Heavyweights prowling out there that are extremely bitter due to their own selfish and poor choices in males. Their mission in life is to seek and destroy the male by any means. They do not want what you have and do not function by any rules. They can knock you out even with your guards up so avoid them completely.

Do Females "Cheat" Too?

(Excerpt from "Rules of Engagement")

Concern #18: Females talk about how males cheat so much. Do females cheat as well?

I hear females talk about their men cheating all the time and how some of them will catch their man in the act of cheating. Why don’t I hear more about females cheating as well?

Answer:

That is a very good question that most will avoid. The problem with the idea of cheating is that, in most cases, there are never any conditions stated prior to commitment of what cheating is.

The primary reasons for not stating such are:

1) Fear of being rejected by that other person for bringing that discussion up,

2) That the person is aware of the other person’s behavior and is in denial hoping that he or she will change later on in the relationship which most of the time they never do or

3) That person, which is typically the female, will accept the male having other females in order to live a certain lifestyle that she is too lazy to provide for herself or incapable of doing so she accepts him “as is”.

Nowadays female are cheating just as much, if not more than males, and in categories that females don’t consider to be cheating because the weak and insecure male is programmed to just be so happy to have her that he will over-look the obvious.

Sexual relations with someone other than the person you are in a committed relationship with are universally considered to be cheating without either partner stating it in advance. So even if you don’t say that is cheating, it’s universally accepted to be such. Prior to entering into a committed, monogamous (which needs to be stated) relationship there are certain things that the male should state to the female as cheating which many females do on a regular basis that are in marital or non-marital monogamous relationships.

The reason many females will not consider what I am about to state as cheating is because it selfishly benefits them:

- Not informing males that have a personal interest in her that she is in a committed relationship,
- Allowing males to continue to give her attention knowing his interest are personal (females are not stupid, they know when a male has a personal interest in her),
- Allowing males to go to lunch with her and pay for her lunch,
- Allowing males to do things for her without her paying them for their time,
- Allowing males to continuously flirt with her in the workplace,
- Going to social places with her girlfriends and allowing males to buy her drinks, continuously flirt with her or dance and touch her,
- Violating their privacy by discussing their personal affairs or problems with others before attempting to discuss it with him,
- Spending of her money in a manner that will cause a disruption, a financial burden or stress in their relationship

Those are only a few of the known behaviors females allow and consider to be “not cheating”. What he don’t or refuse to realize is that at some point in time those lies the other males are promising her will eventually cause her to expect you to provide that kind of “attention” and “do those things” for her that the male that is trying to get between her thighs are promising to do for her.

Here is my suggestion to you. First of all, no one can control or stop anyone else from doing what they want to do and that includes you as well. You have no control over any female so accept that as a reality of life. You only control what she “allows” you to control. What you do have control over is what you will accept in your relationship. If you believe that the above is also forms of cheating then you should state that, before you enter into a monogamous relationship, stick to it and let her know that you will not remain in that relationship if she behaves in any of the manners above.