DISCLAIMER: I find myself having to do this quite often in my blogs, emails or discussions for the
IDIOTS out there. Here I go, "This
DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL FEMALES, OK? Unless I state
ALL FEMALES or unless this applies to
YOUR thinking and/or behavior then don't
ASSume such or take it personal".
Females can practically
DICTATE the behavior of most males
IN A POSITIVE WAY with very little effort. Why don't they? Well, let me begin with
SELFISHNESS,
GREED,
IRRESPONSIBLE, LAZY and
INAPPROPRIATE behavior that she's
ALLOWED to get away with because
MOST males are
MENTALLY WEAKER when it comes to interacting with females they are attracted to and will
FOOLISHLY ACCEPT or
MAKE EXCUSES for her inappropriate behavior or bad attitude.
FEMALES CONTROL CHILD BIRTH not males. Females are
NOT IGNORANT of the potential consequences of willingly choosing the wrong man because this is no hidden secret and is publicized far too often in the media. Females
CLAIM to be
INTELLIGENT and
STRONG yet want
SYMPATHY and
SUPPORT after making those
KNOWN poor choices in men.
MOST OF THEM don't and will never care about you. They care about:
- what
SERVICES they can get from you to
BENEFIT THEM
- what
FINANCES they can get from you to
BENEFIT THEM
- what
INFORMATION they can get from you to
BENEFIT THEM
FEMALES are in
TOTAL CONTROL of their behavior:
-
They control whether or not to
AVOID decent, good men
-
They control whether or not to
PAY THEIR OWN WAY while with you
-
They control whether or not to
LISTEN to the bullshit that comes out of a man's mouth
-
They control whether or not to spend time with Players and Bad Boys depending upon their priorities
-
They control whether or not to
GET INTO a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
-
They control whether or not to
REMAIN in a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
-
They control whether to lay down, open their legs and
ALLOW these
PLAYERS and
BAD BOYS to ejaculated into them
-
They control whether or not to conceive
-
They control whether or not to get pregnant
-
They control whether or not to
LIE about who the biological father is
If females want to improve their
PERSONAL situations and relationships between males and females in general then they need to change
THEIR value system, thoughts and behaviors because
THEY HAVE THE POWER to do so.
Let me explain:
Females, beginning at a very young age, can determine the behavior of
MOST SANE males they come in contact with by the behavior they
ACCEPT or
REQUIRE from males.
HER criteria, priorities and choices, which primarily comes from her parent or parents as well as other relatives, friends and media, will dictate the types of males she accepts that comes in contact with her.
Here are, as a
MINIMUM, my suggestions of what
FEMALES can
EASILY do:
-
STOP EXPECTING or
REQUIRING the
FANTASY dress-to-impress, nice home, high income mate career, fine dining at expensive restaurants (that he pays for), smother you with attention, spend lots of money on you, take you on vacations (that he pays for) relationship
SALES PITCH because they are usually
TEMPORARY or just a bunch of
BULLSH^T LIES,
-
APPROACH WHAT APPEARS TO BE DECENT MALES in an attempt to get to know them,
-
DO NOT get personally involved with
MARRIED men or men that
CLAIM to be
SEPARATED from their wives,
-
BEHAVE in a
RESPONSIBLE and
MATURE manner and accept
NOTHING LESS from males,
-
ALLOW herself to be more open and
SOCIALLY approachable for more than just what you can get male(s) to give you or do for you,
-
NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate using clear and proper English but rather
ENCOURAGE him to improve his verbal communication skills,
-
NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate in a mature and intelligent manner but rather
ENCOURAGE him to communicate in a more mature and intelligent manner,
-
NOT DE-VALUE HIM if education is not a
HIGH priority in his life but rather
ENCOURAGE him to make education a high priority in his life,
-
NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he is making less money than you but rather
RESPECT him for earning an
HONEST living and work together with him,
-
NOT STRESS HIM to make more money to satisfy
YOUR UNNECESSARY but
SELFISH DESIRES but rather
CHANGE YOUR PRIORITIES,
ADJUST YOUR LIFESTYLE and
LIVE WITHIN YOUR FINANCIAL MEANS to make things easier for the both of you,
-
NOT IGNORE him if he displays
NO RESPECT for the elderly or the community but rather
ENCOURAGE him to be more respectful,
-
NOT IGNORE IT if he thinks dropping him pants
BELOW his butt and having a
HARD ATTITUDE is attractive and impressive to you but rather
REQUIRE him to pull his pants up and get a better attitude if he expects to gain your acceptance of him,
-
NOT IGNORE IT if he cannot communicate to you
WITHOUT using profanity but rather
REQUIRE him to not speak in that manner when in your company and
ENCOURAGE him to cease communicating in that manner period,
-
NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks spending
HIS MONEY on you makes him a man,
-
NOT INTERESTED in him if he
REFUSES to attempt to resolve issues or conflicts in a NON-
VIOLENT manner,
-
NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks
INITIATING VIOLENCE towards males or females makes him a man,
-
NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks being
LOUD and
RUDE is normal behavior,
-
NOT MATERIALISTICALLY motivated so do not
INSULT you by trying to impress you with material things,
-
NOT FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT on him and
DEMAND that you
PAY YOUR OWN WAY when spending time getting to know each other,
-
DO NOT WHORE your time nor your body so do not
ATTEMPT TO BUY either by spending money on you (NOTE: if she is a minor
HER PARENTS should be providing money to her if she's going out on dates),
-
WILL NOT engage in
UNPROTECTED sex,
-
WILL NOT have child(ren) until
AFTER i have 1) been in a
CONSISTENTLY healthy, non-marital relationship, 2) gotten married because of that healthy relationship, 3) have spent at least a year together in a healthy marriage and 4) have
PLANNED and
AGREED to
MUTUALLY providing time, resources and finances in the raising of
OUR child(ren),
-
WILL NOT have child(ren) until
AFTER i have completed my education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,
-
WILL NOT have child(ren) with him
IF him has not completed
HIS education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,
-
WILL NOT have child(ren) with him
IF he has multiple children by multiple women and was not married to them,
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WILL NOT have child(ren) with him
IF he already has child(ren) that he does not care for,
-
WILL NOT have children
UNLESS i am in a consistently healthy relationship with a man that wants to have children and
WILL provide time, resources and finances towards the care of those children or
UNLESS i can
SOLELY provide the necessary
TIME,
RESOURCES and
FINANCES to care for however many children i
CHOOSE to have.
The majority (i will say about 85 percent minimum) of what
MOST males do is in an attempt to get the attention, favor or acceptance from the female. Males,
IN GENERAL, have been socialized to be the salesmen. They typically will do the knocking on the female's door (i.e., approach her, initiate contact) and attempt to sell her his goods (i.e., himself).
Now depending on what
HER priorities are and what she is looking for, she will
OPEN THE DOOR OF OPPORTUNITY for him to enter be he an average guy, a criminal, a hustler, a player, a thug, a baller, a wealthy man, an entertainer, an athlete, a
MARRIED man, etc. (yea i said married man because there are
MANY females that
DO NOT RESPECT that
GOD SANCTIONED institution of marriage).
So with that said let me conclude with, "Females,
YOU GOT THE POWER to
CHANGE the mentality and behavior of males
WITHIN one generation if
YOU change your
ATTITUDE and
BEHAVIOR immediately".
I am a man, a sensible and decent man, so I am telling you that you can invoke
MAJOR CHANGE in how
MOST males are today. Look at the potential benefits to
SOCIETY in general and
YOU in particular by changing and adopting what I have stated above:
- a
HUGE DECREASE in divorces
- a
HUGE DECREASE in unwanted child births
- a
HUGE DECREASE in childhood delinquency
- a
HUGE DECREASE in domestic violence and deaths in relationships
- a
HUGE DECREASE in stress that contributes to mental and physical health issues
- a
HUGH INCREASE in your chances of make a better choice in males and having that happy, healthy relationship
NOTHING that I have stated above requires
MONEY or
EXTREME EFFORT. All it requires is
MINIMAL EFFORT and the
RIGHT ATTITUDE.
Do I believe the majority of females will
AGREE with this blog? Absolutely not.
Then
what is my point? Simple. I simply want to
PROVE that the
MAJORITY of females are
SELFISH LIARS when speaking about:
- How they want a
MUTUALLY LOVING,
HEALTHY and
LONG-LASTING relationship,
- How they play no part in becoming
VICTIMS of
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,
- How they are
SO CONCERNED about a child's future and well-being,
- Their claims of there are not being enough
GOOD MEN available
.
With all of that said, "Go ahead, take your best shots at me and let the chips fall where they may". I welcome
ALL comments be it from
MEN,
WOMEN,
PLAYERS,
WANNA-BE PLAYERS or
SKEEZERS.
Peace and much enlightenment to us all.
