Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Marriages ARE NOT Legal Prostitution

Let me begin by stating that there are QUALITY ladies available if you take the time to screen them out and NOT RUSH and SETTLE for less.

I am pro-Happiness, Prosperity and Peace-of-Mind be it in a marital or non-marital relationship. I am against and would NEVER be in (or remain in) ANY relationship that creates an environment that will not allow the above to exist. Why would I NEVER? It's because I love me FIRST, I have sacrificed and EARNED happiness, prosperity and peace-of-mind and NOBODY is worth me giving that up for or giving that to. If you don't bring those 3 components to the table then YOU should not be at ANYONE'S TABLE expecting to get it from them. Get off of YOUR lazy, inconsiderate, entitlement ass and go get it so that YOU can bring something of value to the table BESIDES that THING you are sitting on that YOU believe you can use as a manipulation tool.

There is an ole saying that, "Marriages Are Nothing But Legal PROSTITUTION". Well you can go ahead and flush that saying down the toilet because, IN MOST CASES, that no longer exist.

MANY marriages within recent years have EVOLVED into nothing but Legal EXTORTION.

That "mutually accepted, unspoken, prostitute/john", SEXUAL Quid Pro Quo relationship (commonly referred to as marriage) has existed in the past, exists in the present and will continue to exist in the future. Unfortunately, it has been corrupted and damaged by Skeezers. A skeezer expects to receive what SHE wants and in return gives him what SHE wants to give (if she gives anything at all) as opposed to him receiving what HE wants to receive in exchange.

Nowadays, "Many (not all) Marriages Are Legal EXTORTION". I included "not all" because there are IDIOTS that will ignore the word "most" and claim I am applying this to all marriages. Why would they ASSume all? It's quite simple. They ASSume all because that is what IDIOTS are supposed to do.

Let me begin by first defining those three key words (prostitution, extortion and coercion). I typically will define words or phrases to eliminate any unwanted drama and confusion when attempting to INTELLIGENTLY communicate. I can behave like an idiot to sometimes but this is not the time.


PROSTITUTION is the act or practice of providing sexual services to another person in return for payment. Closet prostitutes are those that are NOT professionals selling their services openly. These are the go-to-work or stay-at-home types that have expectations of compensation in order for you to engage in sexual activity with them (i.e., direct deposit, vacations, material items, etc).

EXTORTION is when a person illegally obtains either money, property or services from a person(s), entity, or institution, through coercion. In this case, the extortion is legal by way of marriage.

COERCION is the practice of forcing another party to behave in an involuntary manner (whether through action or inaction) by use of threats, intimidation or some other form of pressure or force. In this case, the coercion is legal by way of divorce threats.


ONCE UPON A TIME one of the services that a female was REQUIRED to provide her husband was sex and in turn she received access to those basic services in life as well as money, gifts, etc and OH YEA..... she was receiving sex in exchange for sex (dah). This would fall under the category of prostitution based upon the above definition.

FAST FORWARDING TO THE PRESENT many married females have decided that SEX and other spousal services are to be considered an OPTION when SHE feels the need as opposed to being a DESIRE. She imposes this option while she is receiving benefits of marriage such as physical services (things that are too heavy to lift, too difficult to do or things she just don't want to do), gifts, money, entertainment expenses paid by him when they are out and about, all or a portion of HER personal bills being paid by him to name just a few.

On the other hand, he (that just may be you), is required to continue to perform those physical and financial services that are required to maintain that relationship and "keep her happy and satisfied" regardless of what HE is not receiving.


My Equation (as it relates to sex and the reality of most marriages):



My Explanation (So simple even a "Caveman" or an "Idiot" should understand it):

The female will (extort) obtain services, things or monies from the husband with no intent of (prostitution) providing sexual services in exchange and if the husband does not provide what she wants she will (coercion) pressure him with constant nagging, cease other services she MAY have been providing or threaten him with divorce.



Is there anything wrong with prostitution in marriages? I say absolutely NOT. The problem is not prostitution. The problem is extortion and the extortionist receiving what they want. I call those types of extortionists "skeezers" based SOLELY on their BEHAVIOR. If you aren't capable of marrying (if that's what you choose to do) a lady that does NOT behave like an extortionist, my philosophy is:

If you are going to engage in a relationship with a (closet) prostitute then LEASE instead of MARRY because eventually she will show herself to be the TRUE SKEEZER that she is. Not only will you be MARRIED and STUCK with that skeezer but you will probably have to PAY a price in order to rid yourself of her.

"It's Wiser To LEASE an AFFORDABLE (closet) prostitute than to MARRY a SKEEZER until you find that NON-EXTORTING, CO-OPERATIVE LADY to marry IF you can find one at all". They do exist but are quite RARE these days.


  1. Mrs. I'm Worth ItJanuary 7, 2011 at 9:29 AM

    Yes I hold sex back from my husband from time to time when he is not giving me what I want. I consider my body to be a prize worth going the extra mile for. Any woman that does not feel that way is selling herself short.

  2. Married and MiserableJanuary 7, 2011 at 2:38 PM

    Man this is so true. The marriage started out ok and after 3 years and one child the extortion began. It seems as if the only time she really seemed to cooperate with sex is during the holidays knowing she was going to get things, birthday or after she constantly nagged me to buy her something. Practically everytime I voiced my disgust she would tell me if I didn't like it I could go and the next person I would be talking to is her attorney.

    I love my child but if I had it to do over again I would have never married her. Too bad you weren't around 3 years ago when I was contemplating if I should marry her. I read another blog and you are correct about the family, friends and religious pressure to marry. The only thing that keeps me sane in the same house with her is this other woman that I am involved with. If it wasn't for that, I don't know what I would have done. I know that I will not be able to remain with the ungrateful woman until our child is an adult. It's just a matter of time and opportunity and then I'm gone.

    I don't know about the other men reading your blogs but I really appreciate what you are doing and hopefully other men will read and not make the mistake giving in to pressure to marry.

  3. YoBo ""January 7, 2011 at 3:35 PM

    J -- talk to the attorney. Yeah she will hit him in his hip pocket but by the time child is an adult he will owe 9 years spousal support. And whatever he does, don't trade in wife for the side piece bc in a few months he will have a carbon copy of his wife. Also practice safe sex bc we women like to orchestrate pregnancies, unless of course, she's got a husband. Praise the Lord and let's keep it real.

  4. Sounds like Prostitution to me; after reading her comment.

  5. Hey, cows aren't giving the milk away for free anymore. We the got milk, you want some so pay up or move out the way because there are others that will pay. You can call it what you want but if you ain't paying you ain't playing with my milk or any other women that think like me.

  6. Mr. Duval, why shouldn't a man pay a little extra if that is what he wants from his wife. My husband gives me things and I reward him so what's the problem with that? I believe that marriages and the world would be a better place if people like you did not exist so why don't you do all of us a favor and step off. It's people like you that give marriages a bad impression.

  7. Brenda I am not saying that you SHOULD NOT be a prostitute because it's your choice to prostitute yourself and it's LEGAL if you are married and you are prostituting yourself to YOUR husband. Hopefully, for him, he is getting what HE wants (since he is paying as you have put it) as opposed to giving him what YOU want to give him. PROSTITUTING (yourself) is good for you and him but SKEEZING is bad for him.