Never Get Personally Involved with a FixHerUpper Thinking that will eventually Improve the Quality of your Life

Rule #8:  Never Get Personally Involved with a FixHerUpper Thinking that will eventually Improve the Quality of Your Life

(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - Rules of Engagement")

Males have ruined their lives getting personally involved with what I call FixHerUppers.  They are unstable females that are riddled with emotional, financial and physical problems. 

The good man foolishly believes if he comes to her aid it will secure a relationship with her and eventually make his life better having her around. 

The truth of the matter is that in most cases it will not improve his lifestyle but rather bring a burden into his lifestyle and improve the quality of her life while she dumps her responsibilities, burdens and attitude onto him. 

Response:

Never reduce your quality of life by allowing a trouble-some female into your personal life and don’t allow her or her problems to move in with you.  If you are going to allow her into your social life then do so at an emotional distance.  Being social is fine as long as you are in control, not getting emotionally involved, not paying her way or helping her with her financial responsibilities. 

The moment that you begin to lose control or foolishly think of giving up that control; it’s time to toss in the towel and get out of that ring.

Reason:

You, in most cases, are simply a means to putting an end to her burdens and responsibilities.  She will generally cater to you or allow you to spend time with her in order to get you to bring her into your comfortable lifestyle.  Once she’s gotten in and you have relaxed she will place her burdens and responsibilities on you and probably cut back or quit doing the things she did initially to trick you into making that stupid decision. 

Once you have relieved her burdens you will no longer be of any use to her and she will either take total control of your life or dump you and move on.  That move is usually to an ex or someone that she has been seeing while with you.  If she had not been seeing anyone she will move on to be available to have men cater to her until THE ONE comes along that she will submit to that she knew all along definitely wasn’t you.

You Are NOT Her Father

MANY FEMALES will attempt to use that father tactic if they are not attracted to you and don’t value you. They will tell you, “I want a man to treat me like my father treated me”.

That is a sucker punch if you are stupid enough to fall for it.

Many fathers programmed their daughters with that “Princess Mentality” and the majority of them grew up believing that is the way they should be treated as an adult.

The reason why many of them say I want to be treated like a queen is because DADDY'S LITTLE PRINCESS has grown up. 

Well here is the problem that you will encounter if she manages to get you to treat her as her father did.

- Her father allowed her to be irresponsible, spoiled her and let her have her way,

- Her father gave her whatever she wanted (including money) to make her happy,

- Her father never held her accountable for her inappropriate behavior and,

- Her father DID NOT have sex with her (well, maybe her step-dad did or attempted to),

- Her father did those things expecting nothing in return but a smile, a hug and a thank you daddy.

Now if you are STUPID enough to treat her like her father and HOPE you receive something in return then you deserve exactly what you get which in most cases will be a smile, a hug and a thank you daddy.

Is that what you really what you want from her? Are you really that lonely, desperate or stupid?

RESPONSE:

If you want me to treat you like your father treated you then I need to know what exactly did he do for you and how will that benefit me?

REASON:

Most females can’t give you an explanation for an inconsiderate request like that and won’t if they don’t give a crap about you and is trying to take advantage of you. You just surprised her so keep the pressure on her.

Don’t change the question and DON'T ALLOW HER to divert to another conversation until she answers you. Her response will expose her true intentions.

Never Allow Yourself To Become HER Convenience Store Victim

There is a tendency for MANY females to INTENTIONALLY want to treat the good man that has or had an interest in her as her personal CONVENIENCE STORE without any regards for how it impacts him physically, emotionally or financially. 

She will ALLOW him into her space and CONTROL him when CONVENIENT for her or when she's bored because the male that she is WILLINGLY catering to is treating her like SHIT and not giving her the kind of attention and respect that the good men give her. 

[DISCLAIMER]

This DOES NOT APPLY to those males who LOVE being taken advantage of, stepped on and treated like a convenience store.

 

[END OF DISCLAIMER]

 

My STRONG position is, "Never allow yourself to be HER convenience store".  I've been there and done that many, many years ago and trust me when I say, "It only benefits HER and YOU WON'T get from her what you desire IF you have a personal interest in her so WHY WASTE YOUR TIME"?

 

There are males that will argue or have argued this point with me but I say if you want to be number one with her AND she does not want to be number one with you then you have two options:

 

- move on to someone that will have you as their number one, or

-  remain there FOOLishly HOPING she will change her mind which she won't.

Skeezers will APPEAR to treat you with respect ONLY IF they have no other options. Even then, they will only be with you UNTIL they find what they want and then they will DUMP YOU or place you in the WILL CALL bin.  They will NOT treat or give the decent, common, average Joe males the kind of attention or do for him like they do for males they are truly interested in.

 

[PRIDE and VALUE for SELF]

Far too many males have SURRENDERED their DIGNITY and PRIDE for the benefit of UNWORTHY females.  They need to restore that which they have willingly surrendered in exchange for something THEY WILL NEVER RECEIVE.

Your pledge:
 

- I WILL DEVELOP a POSITIVE ATTITUDE about me,
- I AM HAPPY WITH ME and not weak, desperate or lonely,
- I WILL VALUE ME before any desire for female companionship,
- I WILL STRENGHTEN MYSELF mentally, physically and financially,
- I WILL DEMAND not expect to be treated FAIRLY if you want my time,
- I WILL NEVER ALLOW any female to DISRESPECT or DE-VALUE me again,
- I WILL LEAVE any female that attempts any abuse or violence against me or attempts to LURE ME into any form of abuse or domestic violence against her and will NEVER RETURN TO HER AGAIN.
 

[CONCLUSION]

 

THERE ARE decent, man-loving women that WILL VALUE YOU and not treat you as a convenience store.  STOP wasting your time with inconsiderate, MAN-USING females.

FANTASY "Weddings" Are POSSIBLE but FANTASY "Marriages" Are IMPOSSIBLE For Most Couples

Fantasy Weddings Are POSSIBLE to obtain but Fantasy Marriages Are IMPOSSIBLE to sustain....

Come on ladies, isn't HALF of a fairytale far better than YOU having no fairytale at all? Why in the world would you want to have a simple wedding? That's no fun. A SIMPLE WEDDING is nothing to brag about and show off to your girlfriends and family, right? After all, the wedding ISN'T about longevity in your marriage, it's all about YOU, YOUR EGO and the moment REGARDLESS of it's consequences to the marriage afterwards, right?

Huh, you can ALWAYS get married again which you probably will do anyway after your first marriage for all the WRONG reasons to a man that was PRESSURED or FACED WITH AN ULTIMATUM to get married OR end the relationship. That HUGE wedding ceremony was all about YOU and your FIRST DIVORCE will probably be BLAMED ON HIM.

AFTER you've gone through the SELFISH fantasy, you can have a SIMPLE wedding and marry for the RIGHT reasons the second time around that will have a better chance of lasting.

If the second time around DOES NOT work as well, then go to the PET STORE and purchase YOUR lifelong companion that YOU can CONTROL and have your way with (LOL).

I typically will place some definitions before getting started to hopefully minimize ASSumptions and SENSELESS COMMENTS from those IDIOTS and MORONS out there who REFUSE to apply COMMON SENSE and are simply looking to start a SENSELESS argument. You can never really eliminate all stupid comments from them. You can only attempt to minimize their number of senseless comments.

DEFINITIONS:

Fantasy - The faculty or activity of imagining things that are impossible or improbable. If that fantasy is acheived, in most cases, it can ONLY be sustained for a limited period of time.

Wedding - The ceremony or process in which two individuals are united in marriage.

Marriage - The legal union of two individuals.

Let me begin by stating that I have long since STOPPED buying people wedding gifts. Hell, any two fools, idiots or morons can have a wedding and be married. After I decided to stop wasting my money on wedding gifts, due to the numbers of marriages that expired even BEFORE the warranty expired on my gift, I decided to start a NEW tradition for these newly weds. The tradition is simply this, "You Get Married and I Give You a 5 Year Anniversary Redeemable Certificate". This simply means that if you break up within 5 years I will have saved myself money (LOL).

FANTASY WEDDINGS ARE POSSIBLE - For the majority of the average, everyday people that wedding can bear a heavy price, IF NOT PLANNED MATURELY, in the form of "Pre-Wedding Preparation Stress" as well as "Pre & Post-Wedding Financial Stress" and/or "Post-Wedding Regrets". Usually the pre-wedding preparation stress begins to subside at the beginning of the wedding and after a SEXUALLY satisfying honeymoon.

FANTASY MARRIAGES ARE IMPOSSIBLE - For the majority of the average, everyday people their marriage was or will be based upon pressure, desperation, lies, entrapment, DENIAL or deceit. For more detail, go to my February 4, 2010 posting of "Marriage and the 3D's - Deceit, Desperation and Denial" if YOU aren't in denial or afraid to see the TRUTH about what your marital relationship might be like (LOL).

The thought of or an attempt at a FANTASY wedding and marriage will never go away because most people need a reason to be happy and satisfied with themselves due to their personal laziness, insecurities or shallowness which is PERFECT for ECONOMIC STIMULATION, DIVORCE COURTS and DIVORCE ATTORNEYS (LOL).

CONCLUSION

If you are to have or attempt to have that FANTASY wedding and marriage, make it based upon YOU and YOUR MATE'S obtainable and EASILY sustainable REALITY and not SOMEONE else's PAINFUL and SHORT-LIVED FANTASY.

FOR THE WEDDING GOERS keep in mind my traditional "5 Year Anniversary Redeemable Certificate" whether you choose to do it or not. If they have prepared themselves MATURELY, they should not be EXPECTING and ABUNDANCE of gifts anyway but rather an ABUNDANCE of family and friends in attendance and with nothing but smiles, positive attitudes and well wishes for the newlyweds.

Females Have The PowerTo Make a MAJOR Change but Will They?

DISCLAIMER: I find myself having to do this quite often in my blogs, emails or discussions for the IDIOTS out there. Here I go, "This DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL FEMALES, OK? Unless I state ALL FEMALES or unless this applies to YOUR thinking and/or behavior then don't ASSume such or take it personal".

Females can practically DICTATE the behavior of most males IN A POSITIVE WAY with very little effort. Why don't they? Well, let me begin with SELFISHNESS, GREED, IRRESPONSIBLE, LAZY and INAPPROPRIATE behavior that she's ALLOWED to get away with because MOST males are MENTALLY WEAKER when it comes to interacting with females they are attracted to and will FOOLISHLY ACCEPT or MAKE EXCUSES for her inappropriate behavior or bad attitude.

FEMALES CONTROL CHILD BIRTH not males. Females are NOT IGNORANT of the potential consequences of willingly choosing the wrong man because this is no hidden secret and is publicized far too often in the media. Females CLAIM to be INTELLIGENT and STRONG yet want SYMPATHY and SUPPORT after making those KNOWN poor choices in men.

MOST OF THEM don't and will never care about you. They care about:

- what SERVICES they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM
- what FINANCES they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM
- what INFORMATION they can get from you to BENEFIT THEM

FEMALES are in TOTAL CONTROL of their behavior:

- They control whether or not to AVOID decent, good men
- They control whether or not to PAY THEIR OWN WAY while with you
- They control whether or not to LISTEN to the bullshit that comes out of a man's mouth
- They control whether or not to spend time with Players and Bad Boys depending upon their priorities
- They control whether or not to GET INTO a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
- They control whether or not to REMAIN in a dysfunctional, abusive relationship
- They control whether to lay down, open their legs and ALLOW these PLAYERS and BAD BOYS to ejaculated into them
- They control whether or not to conceive
- They control whether or not to get pregnant
- They control whether or not to LIE about who the biological father is

If females want to improve their PERSONAL situations and relationships between males and females in general then they need to change THEIR value system, thoughts and behaviors because THEY HAVE THE POWER to do so.

Let me explain:

Females, beginning at a very young age, can determine the behavior of MOST SANE males they come in contact with by the behavior they ACCEPT or REQUIRE from males. HER criteria, priorities and choices, which primarily comes from her parent or parents as well as other relatives, friends and media, will dictate the types of males she accepts that comes in contact with her.

Here are, as a MINIMUM, my suggestions of what FEMALES can EASILY do:

- STOP EXPECTING or REQUIRING the FANTASY dress-to-impress, nice home, high income mate career, fine dining at expensive restaurants (that he pays for), smother you with attention, spend lots of money on you, take you on vacations (that he pays for) relationship SALES PITCH because they are usually TEMPORARY or just a bunch of BULLSH^T LIES,

- APPROACH WHAT APPEARS TO BE DECENT MALES in an attempt to get to know them,

- DO NOT get personally involved with MARRIED men or men that CLAIM to be SEPARATED from their wives,

- BEHAVE in a RESPONSIBLE and MATURE manner and accept NOTHING LESS from males,

- ALLOW herself to be more open and SOCIALLY approachable for more than just what you can get male(s) to give you or do for you,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate using clear and proper English but rather ENCOURAGE him to improve his verbal communication skills,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he cannot communicate in a mature and intelligent manner but rather ENCOURAGE him to communicate in a more mature and intelligent manner,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if education is not a HIGH priority in his life but rather ENCOURAGE him to make education a high priority in his life,

- NOT DE-VALUE HIM if he is making less money than you but rather RESPECT him for earning an HONEST living and work together with him,

- NOT STRESS HIM to make more money to satisfy YOUR UNNECESSARY but SELFISH DESIRES but rather CHANGE YOUR PRIORITIES, ADJUST YOUR LIFESTYLE and LIVE WITHIN YOUR FINANCIAL MEANS to make things easier for the both of you,

- NOT IGNORE him if he displays NO RESPECT for the elderly or the community but rather ENCOURAGE him to be more respectful,

- NOT IGNORE IT if he thinks dropping him pants BELOW his butt and having a HARD ATTITUDE is attractive and impressive to you but rather REQUIRE him to pull his pants up and get a better attitude if he expects to gain your acceptance of him,

- NOT IGNORE IT if he cannot communicate to you WITHOUT using profanity but rather REQUIRE him to not speak in that manner when in your company and ENCOURAGE him to cease communicating in that manner period,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks spending HIS MONEY on you makes him a man,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he REFUSES to attempt to resolve issues or conflicts in a NON-VIOLENT manner,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks INITIATING VIOLENCE towards males or females makes him a man,

- NOT INTERESTED in him if he thinks being LOUD and RUDE is normal behavior,

- NOT MATERIALISTICALLY motivated so do not INSULT you by trying to impress you with material things,

- NOT FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT on him and DEMAND that you PAY YOUR OWN WAY when spending time getting to know each other,

- DO NOT WHORE your time nor your body so do not ATTEMPT TO BUY either by spending money on you (NOTE: if she is a minor HER PARENTS should be providing money to her if she's going out on dates),

- WILL NOT engage in UNPROTECTED sex,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) until AFTER i have 1) been in a CONSISTENTLY healthy, non-marital relationship, 2) gotten married because of that healthy relationship, 3) have spent at least a year together in a healthy marriage and 4) have PLANNED and AGREED to MUTUALLY providing time, resources and finances in the raising of OUR child(ren),

- WILL NOT have child(ren) until AFTER i have completed my education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF him has not completed HIS education, have marketable skills and have gotten into a stable job or career,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF he has multiple children by multiple women and was not married to them,

- WILL NOT have child(ren) with him IF he already has child(ren) that he does not care for,

- WILL NOT have children UNLESS i am in a consistently healthy relationship with a man that wants to have children and WILL provide time, resources and finances towards the care of those children or UNLESS i can SOLELY provide the necessary TIME, RESOURCES and FINANCES to care for however many children i CHOOSE to have.

The majority (i will say about 85 percent minimum) of what MOST males do is in an attempt to get the attention, favor or acceptance from the female. Males, IN GENERAL, have been socialized to be the salesmen. They typically will do the knocking on the female's door (i.e., approach her, initiate contact) and attempt to sell her his goods (i.e., himself).

Now depending on what HER priorities are and what she is looking for, she will OPEN THE DOOR OF OPPORTUNITY for him to enter be he an average guy, a criminal, a hustler, a player, a thug, a baller, a wealthy man, an entertainer, an athlete, a MARRIED man, etc. (yea i said married man because there are MANY females that DO NOT RESPECT that GOD SANCTIONED institution of marriage).

So with that said let me conclude with, "Females, YOU GOT THE POWER to CHANGE the mentality and behavior of males WITHIN one generation if YOU change your ATTITUDE and BEHAVIOR immediately".

I am a man, a sensible and decent man, so I am telling you that you can invoke MAJOR CHANGE in how MOST males are today. Look at the potential benefits to SOCIETY in general and YOU in particular by changing and adopting what I have stated above:

- a HUGE DECREASE in divorces

- a HUGE DECREASE in unwanted child births

- a HUGE DECREASE in childhood delinquency

- a HUGE DECREASE in domestic violence and deaths in relationships

- a HUGE DECREASE in stress that contributes to mental and physical health issues

- a HUGH INCREASE in your chances of make a better choice in males and having that happy, healthy relationship


NOTHING that I have stated above requires MONEY or EXTREME EFFORT. All it requires is MINIMAL EFFORT and the RIGHT ATTITUDE.

Do I believe the majority of females will AGREE with this blog? Absolutely not.

Then what is my point? Simple. I simply want to PROVE that the MAJORITY of females are SELFISH LIARS when speaking about:

- How they want a MUTUALLY LOVING, HEALTHY and LONG-LASTING relationship,

- How they play no part in becoming VICTIMS of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,

- How they are SO CONCERNED about a child's future and well-being,

- Their claims of there are not being enough GOOD MEN available.


With all of that said, "Go ahead, take your best shots at me and let the chips fall where they may". I welcome ALL comments be it from MEN, WOMEN, PLAYERS, WANNA-BE PLAYERS or SKEEZERS.

Peace and much enlightenment to us all.

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(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - Rules of Engagement")

RULE #2: GO FIND YOURSELF SOME BALLS, ANY BALLS!!!!!

Knowledge is the key to success when attempting to engage in interaction with females. Now knowledge is no good if you don’t have the FUNCTIONING balls to use it.

Yea, I know we all carry a pair but for many of YOU (not me), you might as well DONATE them to the scientific community for research and strap on a pair that was designed by a MAN to benefit a man and not designed by a Skeezer to SERVE a Skeezer. Before you attempt to use any of my rules, I suggest that you print this coupon and redeem it at any CERTIFIED testicle transplant clinic.

For some unexplained reason there exists a large group of males that seem to fear the thought of not having a female in their company on a regular basis. Therefore they will do anything to get their attention and make them happy which includes, but not limited to, giving up whatever dignity and possessions he has.

I am sure that MANY of those emasculated males in those unhappy, miserable, domineering and BALL BUSTING relationships were counseled by other EMASCULATED males to REMAIN in those relationships (after all, emasculated males need the company of other emasculate male to relate to, right?) or those emasculated males were counseled by other females who themselves have EMASCULATED their man (or men).

Far too many males have lost the fortitude to apply these rules to a female that he’s attracted to because he has lost his balls or have had them removed. He also fears speaking openly and honestly about what he’s thinking or feeling regarding her or any female if he thinks it will upset her. He also will not speak about a subject he thinks she may not like without the fear of rejection or confrontation with her (i.e. no backbone). Knowledge is what I am attempting to give you but balls are what you have to acquire on your own if you’ve lost yours, had them disconnected or removed by some selfish, controlling, inconsiderate female.

Response:

Go and find yourself some balls and I mean any balls be it monkey balls, elephant balls, baseballs, meat balls, golf balls, tennis balls, ball bearings, etc. and have them attached to your backbone. At this point it really doesn’t matter what type of balls or where they come from as long as you have some until you can grow yours back.

Reason:

THERE ARE LOVING, CARING AND THOUGHTFUL WOMEN that exist that's seeking a mature, mutually respectful and rewarding relationship and won't de-value, emasculate or even attempt to emasculate YOU. There is no sensible reason why you should remain in an unhappy relationship UNLESS you know you CAN'T DO any better than what you are in now.

Balls are the source of power for your backbone and directly control your ability to stand upright to females and hold your ground. Having balls attached, of any kind, will allow your backbone to function in its natural manner so you will not tolerate any females’ nasty or selfish attitude, have no fear of expressing your own thoughts to her as well as saying NO to a female without fear of being rejected and especially by the females that you are attracted to.

You can acquire all the freedom, riches and respect that you are capable of but it’s your balls that will be the key to keeping what you have acquired when it comes to engaging with females. If you don’t have balls, chances are that you will foolishly and freely give up that which you have sacrificed and worked for to the next female you will be attracted to because you have NO BALLS.

J. Duval's 2 Date Rule

This blog IS for males who have PAID THE PRICE, been UNSUCCESSFUL but are still SEEKING COMPANIONSHIP with a THOUGHTFUL, CONSIDERATE and UNSELFISH woman.

This blog is here to MINIMIZE YOUR COST in your attempts to sort through the SH*T and find yourself a DECENT, LOVING woman.

I truly understand the MENTALITY of MOST women (and females) in today's times when it comes to dating (getting to know each other), the GAMES they play and their EXPECTATIONS of being INCONSIDERATELY STUCK ON SELFISH thinking the male is SUPPOSED to be the one to INITIATE and PAY for the dates.

The vast MAJORITY of females are TAKING ADVANTAGE OF and TAKING A FREE RIDE off the WALLETS of DECENT males that have a GENUINE interest in them that are functioning under those out-dated, traditional rules.


A considerate and unselfish woman would not accept you spending your money feeding or entertaining her IF she has no genuine interest in you. She would be considerate and pay her own way in that case to keep it FAIR.

On the other hand, there are males that draw the line as to what they will allow a female to get away with and many of those females that take advantage of good men will WILLINGLY SUBMIT to these males WITHOUT resistance or putting him through the OLD FASHIONED, TRADITIONAL routine that they put males through that they have NO PERSONAL INTEREST in.

This has NOTHING to do with trying to get a female into sexually compromising a situation. This has EVERYTHING to do with how some females will take advantage of some males under the PRETENSE of PATIENT, OLD FASHIONED, TRADITIONAL, GENTLEMAN-LIKE behavior and READILY submit to other males.

IDEALLY I would say agree to meet her at a park with a few bottles of water IF you had the BALLS to make such a request. Unfortunately, MOST of you have been MENTALLY EMASCULATED and CONDITIONED to FEED HER DRINKS and FOOD and she is CONDITIONED to EAT when you meet so the park request will be quite difficult to achieve UNLESS she has physically seen you and find you to be very desirable. If you HAVE to go that old-fashioned, out-dated and ineffective (for you not her) traditional route where the man invites and pays during the dating process, I suggest that you following my "2 DATE SCREENING RULE".


DATE 1 - WALK IN THE PARK or COFFEE/JUICE LOCATION
(Walk In The Park).  Although this is the HEALTHIEST date and MOST of them NEED to be walking in the park with a couple bottles of water as opposed to feeding their face, that is an ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE first date for MOST of them to accept.

(Coffee/Juice Location).  Meet her, not pick her up, so that you spend more time getting to know her as opposed to spending more money on her. If you get bad vibes about her during that time you have only spent a few bucks and you are done with her. If this first date goes well ask her if she would like to meet you for breakfast or lunch. If she looks away from you, does not smile or seem a bit hesitant she is not feeling you so don’t persist and consider this your first and last date with her.



DATE 2 - COFFEE/JUICE LOCATION, BREAKFAST or LUNCH
Again meet her and don't pick her up. NEVER ARRANGE for dinner or some form of entertainment on the first or second date because of the cost and secondly her attention will be on the entertainment and not you. These kinds of events you reserve for someone that has displayed a GENUINE interest in you.

Again, pay for the date (because she expects you to do so) but make sure you keep it to a minimum. Don't think that just because she is there that she is genuinely interested in you. Remember, you are paying and skeezers typically will NEVER REFUSE A FREE MEAL if they feel they will have control over the situation.

During that second date you want to get a feel for how her schedule is so include some of that in the conversation as a discovery process (the importance of it will come later). If she says that she is a very busy person then this will be your last date with her. At the end of the second date, get ready to now expose her intentions by following the script below:


You Say - "Hey, I think these have been a couple of pretty good dates. What do you think?". (Say nothing else and wait for her response. If she does not agree then you are done with her. If she does agree, which most will regardless, that's when you pop the BIG question).

You Say - "So when are you going to invite me out on a date?". (This is where the information about how busy her schedule comes into play. If she did not state that she was very busy then she should have no problem inviting you out UNLESS she really doesn't give a crap about you. If she says she isn't sure then you now know she has no genuine interest in you because she stated earlier that she was not that busy of a person.

NOTE: DO NOT be a whiner and say, "well, you said earlier that you were not that busy". Just accept it as a small price to pay to identify a skeezer and don't see, talk to or cater to her again. She does not have to know why you no longer want to see her because she is not being genuine with you. This shows you that she is just a skeezer using you.

There are some females accustomed to fine dining with males of financial means or $UCKERMEN and will expect you to bear the expenses if you want to dine with them. If you are a WEAK MALE, I would say avoid these types and leave them to the ABUSIVE TYPES (i.e., players, pretty boys, thugs, married men, etc.) who know how to run the proper game on them as they would on you if you are STUPID enough to think she won't. I would suggest that this tactic be used on any woman that you have a personal interest in if she has NOT PROVEN herself to NOT BE a skeezer:

IF you are FOOLish enough to attempt to IMPRESS a female by taking her to an expensive restaurant, here's a tip on identifying a woman that has no respect for you and is just killing time and/or looking for an opportunity to get you to spend your money on her. How are you going to know that in advance? In most cases, the majority of average males will not know so I suggest that they proceed with caution. A female that values you and has a genuine interest in you will not try to get a free ride off of you. If she is not interested in you, she will know before the date is over; she should pay her own way because she knows you are doing so due to a personal interest in her and not just to spend money. Then again, she would have to be a thoughtful and considerate person which many of them aren’t.

** WARNING ** IF you have LOW SELF-ESTEEM, LONELY and are a WEAK and SUBMISSIVE MALE, do not try this tactic below. Simply open your wallet to whatever she wants, PAY the bill, get that THANK YOU, BIG SMILE (cause her belly is full and she did not have to pay) and a HAND SHAKE or what I call that BOOTY OUT, 3 PATS ON THE BACK, MINIMAL CONTACT , I'M NOT PERSONALLY INTERESTED IN YOU hug (LOL) and WALK AWAY accepting yourself for what you are.

The following tactic, IF YOU HAVE BALLS, should be used to determine if a female has a genuine interest in you or is only using you to kill time and get a free meal.

This would have to be done at a sit-in restaurant where you pay after the meal is finished. Remember, you won't know her intentions until you get her to a restaurant and ask her the right question.

1. Agree to meet at a restaurant. Do not pick her up and do not mention paying for the date.

2. When you get the menu and are ready to order, "let her order for herself" (this is very important)

3. Let the conversation flow and at some point just prior to the meal being paid for look her directly in her eyes and ask, "Would you like to get together again and if so will you pick up the next tab?". Do not say another word until she gives you an answer and if she asks you to repeat what you said; say exactly the same thing. Don’t change the conversation. If she resists responding to your question, says she doesn’t want to see you again or says that she doesn't believe a woman should pay, simply pay your portion and not hers. You are being used as a sucker (i.e. fool). The restaurant cannot make you pay for her because you did not order for her.

4. After you pay your portion offer to walk her to her car and if she says no just walk away from her and consider yourself fortunate that you weren't another one of her suckers. See it as a victory because you had an opportunity to get out, you had a nice meal and you only paid for yourself.

Many will consider this tactic cruel and scandalous but if she has no personal interest in you she should state that in advance. Trust me, they know if they are physically attracted to you and have a personal interest. If she isn't interested in you and will not tell you or will not pay for her portion of the date then she has no respect for you. Any tactic you use on her, before she uses you, is justified. Do not let those weak males out there tell you otherwise.

FINALLY: If you are going to pay for the date you should NEVER allow her to tell you where she wants to go. You make that determination because you are the one paying. Don’t be STUPID and a FOOL all in one date. At least save one of them for the next date (LOL).