(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer)
Chapter 9 - If You Pay, Have It Your Way
I am sure that many of us are guilty of doing what I am about to say. You see a female you are attracted to and she finds you physically appealing, she will ALLOW you into her space and the opportunity to sell yourself.
IF she has been raised in the home or conditioned by other outside of the home to HO HER TIME, then you will have to spend money (which means also pay her way) if you want to spend time getting to know her.
Eventually, according to social protocol, you will ask her out on a date. Typically it will be a dining because that is the common place males will invite a female. Most females will not say no to a FREE meal if they feel comfortable with you. That level of comfort can range from them being physically attracted to you OR knowing that they will have complete control of you and the situation even though they are not physically attracted to you.
I have been guilty of the following, in my distant past, and I am sure that other males have been as well. You ask her out, she says yes and then you ask her where would she like to go? STOP RIGHT THERE!!!
NEVER, EVER ASK a female where she would like to go IF YOU ARE GOING TO PAY for the date. This is how females get the chance to eat at expensive places knowing that you will pay for it. IF YOU are going to PAY for the time to be with her then YOU should have exclusive rights to HER and that time. That simply means you will get her to agree that the time between the two of you belongs to the two of you and no one else BEFORE you go on a date. Keep those first few dates short. This will make it much easier for:
- NO sending or checking text messages
- NO talking on a cell phone UNLESS it's an emergency
If she can't agree to those REASONABLE conditions, you should not pay for the date although you can still go on the date. Now, I would recommend that you DO NOT PICK HER UP but rather meet her at the location. Reason is because IF she DISRESPECTS your wishes or the agreement between the two of you, simply get up and leave. She has her own transportation. She has shown you she has NO RESPECT for your wishes. Therefore, it should not matter to you (or probably her) if you leave.
***SPECIAL NOTE*** - If you go to a restaurant where they present a menu to you and you pay after you have eaten, DO NOT ORDER for her. Let her order for herself so if she turns out to be an ungrateful and inconsiderate bitch, simply PAY FOR YOUR ORDER and leave that bitch at the table. NEVER PAY for someone that DISRESPECT you. ***SPECIAL NOTE***
If she sees you as a SUCKERMAN that is desperate for a date with her, she is going to try and get you to take her on as an expensive date as she can. She will even have you thinking that this will impress her. Well, I have to agree that you will impress her but for a totally different reason than you what you are thinking.
You will be impressing (showing) her how WEAK and EASY you are for her to get you to do what she wants. They get offended or have very little patience for the man they are not attracted if he does not do what she wants. If this happens then she’s not into you.
You need to PLAN AHEAD and have a place or places in mind before you ask her out on a dining date. If she asks where you are going to be taking her go ahead and tell her. When you tell her where you are going to take her don’t ask her, “Is that place ok with you”? As long as the place is clean, safe and she likes you it will not matter to her. If she is going to take a FREE RIDE off of your wallet then:
- YOU CONTROL where the two of you are going
- YOU CONTROL how much money you are spending
- YOU CONTROL how much time the two of you will spend on that date
Do not feel special because she ALLOWED YOU to spend YOUR money on her. If you have to spend your money on her to spend time with her she does not value you as a person anyway. Whether it is dining or some other social event, make sure that you decide whether you want her undivided attention if you are going to pay.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Has She Ever Told You, "One Thing Just Led To Another"?
So the two of you argue AGAIN, huh? She left and later on, usually through a girlfriend of her's that she had an argument with, you find out that she DID NOT go to that girlfriend's apartment when she left you. You approached YOUR GIRL (we will call her that "for now") with the information HER girlfriend told you and she admits (which RARELY HAPPENS) to it and tells you, "One Thing Just Led To Another" and FOOLishly YOU accepted it. 
YOU DON'T HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT EXCUSE. There are women out there that DON'T play those games and NOT EMOTIONALLY STUCK ON STUPID for someone else so why WASTE YOUR TIME with someone like that?
That phrase MAY NOT be as easy a pill to swallow for MANY males out there and especially the ones that are desperate to be in a relationship and/or in denial about that relationship that they are in. Well, I am going to give you 2 versions of "One Thing Just Led To Another". Version 1 - What She Told You Happened and Version 2 - What Really Happened.
Version 1 - What She Told You Happened
- SHE decided she was NOT going to continue to argue (this is a good thing)
- SHE decided she was going to temporarily leave the house/apt (this is a good thing)
- SHE decided where she was going to go when she left
- One thing just led to another
- HE PENETRATES HER
- SHE leaves and returns home
** WARNING - PROCEED AT YOUR OWN RISK** - If you have ANY form of physical, emotional or mental health issues, I will not be held responsible if you proceed and ANY damage to your person or anyone else occurs as a result of your actions. Anyone with a PACEMAKER or a WEAK HEART should consult with a physician before continuing.
Version 2 - What Really Happened
- SHE decided she was NOT going to continue to argue (this is a good thing)
- SHE decided she was going to temporarily leave the house/apt (this is a good thing)
- SHE decided where she was going to go when she left
- SHE calls an ex or some other guy that been trying to "spank dat ass" so she can meet his somewhere and just talk (good men DEFINITELY excluded if one thing led to another)
- SHE meets him at a restaurant, bar, coffee shop, etc and discusses her situation (of course the guy will agree with everything she says)
- HE convinces her (which won't take much) to come to his place for a while so she can relax and compose herself before going back to her place (this part assumes that she did not just go directly to his place)
- SHE may or may not have (or have had) a drink so she simply sits and relaxes while ALL THE TIME he's trying to figure out how he's going to eventually "spank dat ass" before she walks out of his place
- SHE is spiling her guts out to him (maybe even crying) so he moves closer to console her
- SHE ALLOWS him to hold her and caress her
- HE moves in for more intimate contact with little or NO resistance from her
- SHE ALLOWS him to kiss her on the face, forehead, neck, etc again with little or NO resistance
- SHE responds by touching him which gives him the green light to continue with his advances
- HE reaches for the vital organs (breasts, inner thighs) and she puts up a little resistance for the purpose of her conscience
- HE continues and SHE co-signs it by ALLOWING him to continue
- HE is going for the flesh which means slowly removing her clothing with NO resistance (her conscience is clear since she resisted earlier so NOW she is simply a VICTIM of her EMOTIONS)
- Instead of RAW DOGGIN' her on the couch, he is going to show some CLASS (in her mind) by manervering her to his bedroom
- SHE WILLINGLY co-operates and goes to the bedroom with him
- HE proceeds to remove HER clothing WITHOUT RESISTANCE from her (oh yea, she may just help him out of his)
- THEY embrace, fondle each other and begin to kiss
- HE PENETRATES HER
- SHE ALLOWS him to do things to her that she may have not allowed you to do
- SHE DOES things to him that she may NOT have done to you (sorry playa')
- SHE leaves and returns home
REALITY CHECK
SHE had multiple opportunities to say NO and walk away but SHE chose to continue.
CONCLUSION YOU have to decide:
- "Is that relationship worth remaining in"?
- "What are the benefits to YOU, if any, to remain in it"?
- "Will you DEMOTE her to booty call status or remain IN LOVE"?
- "Can YOU trust HERin the future"?
- "Do you REALLY believe Version 1"?
- LASTLY, "IF she is now (or later on gets) pregnant, WILL YOU REQUIRE A DNA TEST"?
I leave you to YOUR DECISION since it's YOU that will have to live with it. If you decide to remain simply SHUT UP, don't bring it up again and BE HAPPY that she deicded to come back to YOU.
Friday, March 18, 2011
MOST Women Will ALWAYS Be A MOTHER First... Don't Hold That Against Them
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DON'T SHOOT the messenger.... Take time to CLEARLY understand the message.
From time to time I troll (not stalk, lol) those social sites and when I come up with what I believe to be an interesting profile I will share with those in my email distribution list or on my blog site. I read the profile and looked at her photos posted. This particular email has a couple of messages which I will now share.
Here is the message that was communicated between the two of us:
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Message History
J Duval:
hello Ms. HerNameRemoved, i read your profile and you state in the "About Me" section that you are "single by choice" but next to "Relationship Status" you indicate "In a Relationship". Which one is it? Have a good day!
! ! ! !MS. HerNameRemoved! ! ! !
get the definition of relationship. I'm in a relationship with my kids...that's who I am connected with and who gets all of my time right now.
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Profile Information
Name: ! ! ! !MS. HerNameRemoved! ! ! !
Gender: Female
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Age: 46
Relationship Status: In a Relationship
Interested In: Friends, Networking
Ethnicity: Black/African, Caucasian/White, Hispanic/Latino
Religion: Christian
Orientation: Straight
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APPLAUSE (for her)
I have to give her applauses and credit that she has decided to DEDICATE her time to HER children (6 boys and 1 step daughter which appears in the photo. They all seem to be no more than 12 years apart with the youngest about 4 and the oldest about 15 years old.). More single or divorced mothers should adopt this policy. Many females, especially at that age, are too busy running around trying to behave like they are younger, single and have no responsibilities. She is HONEST in which she states all of her time is dedicated to her children AND she posts photo of them on her page. I have a lot of respect for her IF she truly is committing all of her FREE time to raising her children and not just saying that until she meets what she believes to be THE ONE.
WARNING (to males)
Based upon the youngest being approx. 4 years old and she being 46 years old, she has around 14 years of committment left and then at 60 she will be AVAILABLE for a relationship. MANY of them will transition that motherly behavior to their GRAND-CHILDREN when there is no man in their life instead of placing that responsibility with her children. Unfortunately, for her, she will repeat that CYCLE and forfeit the opportunity to enjoy HERSELF (with or without a mate) as a woman without the responsibility of raising MORE children. Is this what YOU want to be a part of? Is this how you want to spend YOUR mid-life and senior years? If so, this is the type of woman for YOU. If not, DON'T start something that YOU may regret later.
There is NO need of you spending one second with someone in a position like this IF YOU aren't willing to function by HER (not your) availability. Why? Because she has already stated that ALL OF HER TIME is committed to HER children. Once you find a woman in a situation like this, simply WALK AWAY, DON'T LOOK BACK and DON'T CONTACT HER again. Leave her to HER responsibilities so that they DON'T eventually become YOURS. There may be very little free time and, in most cases, IF you decide to proceed, the majority of YOUR time spent may be with ALL OF THEM and VERY LITTLE PRIVATE TIME for you and her. In addition, your time spend with her will be dependent upon THE CHILDREN and not you. Expect constant interruptions IF the children are NOT at an age where they don't require parental supervision (age will vary) or they are NOT at a point where they DON'T see you as someone COMPETING for their mother's time with them.
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COMMENTS
This is NOT a NEGATIVE CRITICISM of her environment. This is a REALITY of her environment and what you may have to live with IF you are planning on trying to spend time with her. Some males FOOLishly believe that a woman in this situation will not have time to be out there fooling around with other males so it's a good situation for HIM so he proceeds to attempt to get into a relationship with her. He doesn't (or won't) realize that not only does she not have time to be available for other men, she won't have the time he desires to be available for and cater to him as well.
Males have to ACCEPT the FACT that most mother's minds almost NEVER STOP thinking about where or what their child is doing when they are not in her IMMEDIATE presence. So take that and multiply it by the number of children she has and you will see that there is NOT a lot of free time inside of her head to place on thinking about catering to YOU. If you aren't up for an occasional quickie together, which does not mean SEX all the time if that's what you were thinking, I suggest that you stay away. She may just want you to sit and listen to her talk or vent, sit and just hold her or go out for some dining and entertainment and then BACK TO THE CHILDREN and see you later.
Whether you choose to accept her situation and the LIMITED TIME for YOU is one thing but remember that SHE IS A MOTHER and IF she is behaving in the manner described above don't be so SELFISH and hold that against her.
There is a tendency for MARRIED WOMEN to engulf themselves into their grand-children's lives because they are (for whatever reason) BORED , DISSATISFIED WITH, NO LONGER ATTRACTED TO their marriage and their husband so the grand-child(ren) is used as a REPLACEMENT. That REPLACEMENT with the grand-children as opposed to reuniting with THEIR husband will create a void between husband and wife. I won't co-sign using the grand-children as a REPLACEMENT for one's marriage but then I'M NOT MARRIED (I'm single and happy) so I guess I'M NOT QUALIFIED to speak for married couples. It's just MY OPINION but don't blame YOUR husband if he decides to NOT wait until YOU are done raising the grand-children.
As I have stated earlier the best thing that you can do for YOU is RECOGNIZE and ACCEPT THE REALITY of a situation like this, DON'T START SOMETHING with unrealistic expectations of her behaving like a woman without children, WALK AWAY and LET HER DO WHAT SHE'S GOTTA DO AS A MOTHER.
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CONCLUSION
GIVE LOVE A CHANCE (SOMEWHERE ELSE) and stay away from situations like this IF you don't want to deal with the entire package. This is a CHOICE that these types of mothers have made, RESPECT IT and leave them to THEIR RESPONSIBILITY of raising THEIR (not your) children.
THERE ARE WOMEN out there with NO CHILDREN or who's fulfilled THEIR responsibility with THEIR children and the children are GROWN and ON THEIR OWN so if that is what you are seeking why would you want to get into a situation like the above and later on COMPLAIN about she not having enough time for YOU?
DON'T SHOOT the messenger.... Take time to CLEARLY understand the message.
From time to time I troll (not stalk, lol) those social sites and when I come up with what I believe to be an interesting profile I will share with those in my email distribution list or on my blog site. I read the profile and looked at her photos posted. This particular email has a couple of messages which I will now share.
Here is the message that was communicated between the two of us:
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Message History
J Duval:
hello Ms. HerNameRemoved
! ! ! !MS. HerNameRemoved
get the definition of relationship. I'm in a relationship with my kids...that's who I am connected with and who gets all of my time right now.
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Profile Information
Name: ! ! ! !MS. HerNameRemoved
Gender: Female
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Age: 46
Relationship Status: In a Relationship
Interested In: Friends, Networking
Ethnicity: Black/African, Caucasian/White, Hispanic/Latino
Religion: Christian
Orientation: Straight
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APPLAUSE (for her)
I have to give her applauses and credit that she has decided to DEDICATE her time to HER children (6 boys and 1 step daughter which appears in the photo. They all seem to be no more than 12 years apart with the youngest about 4 and the oldest about 15 years old.). More single or divorced mothers should adopt this policy. Many females, especially at that age, are too busy running around trying to behave like they are younger, single and have no responsibilities. She is HONEST in which she states all of her time is dedicated to her children AND she posts photo of them on her page. I have a lot of respect for her IF she truly is committing all of her FREE time to raising her children and not just saying that until she meets what she believes to be THE ONE.
WARNING (to males)
Based upon the youngest being approx. 4 years old and she being 46 years old, she has around 14 years of committment left and then at 60 she will be AVAILABLE for a relationship. MANY of them will transition that motherly behavior to their GRAND-CHILDREN when there is no man in their life instead of placing that responsibility with her children. Unfortunately, for her, she will repeat that CYCLE and forfeit the opportunity to enjoy HERSELF (with or without a mate) as a woman without the responsibility of raising MORE children. Is this what YOU want to be a part of? Is this how you want to spend YOUR mid-life and senior years? If so, this is the type of woman for YOU. If not, DON'T start something that YOU may regret later.
There is NO need of you spending one second with someone in a position like this IF YOU aren't willing to function by HER (not your) availability. Why? Because she has already stated that ALL OF HER TIME is committed to HER children. Once you find a woman in a situation like this, simply WALK AWAY, DON'T LOOK BACK and DON'T CONTACT HER again. Leave her to HER responsibilities so that they DON'T eventually become YOURS. There may be very little free time and, in most cases, IF you decide to proceed, the majority of YOUR time spent may be with ALL OF THEM and VERY LITTLE PRIVATE TIME for you and her. In addition, your time spend with her will be dependent upon THE CHILDREN and not you. Expect constant interruptions IF the children are NOT at an age where they don't require parental supervision (age will vary) or they are NOT at a point where they DON'T see you as someone COMPETING for their mother's time with them.
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COMMENTS
This is NOT a NEGATIVE CRITICISM of her environment. This is a REALITY of her environment and what you may have to live with IF you are planning on trying to spend time with her. Some males FOOLishly believe that a woman in this situation will not have time to be out there fooling around with other males so it's a good situation for HIM so he proceeds to attempt to get into a relationship with her. He doesn't (or won't) realize that not only does she not have time to be available for other men, she won't have the time he desires to be available for and cater to him as well.
Males have to ACCEPT the FACT that most mother's minds almost NEVER STOP thinking about where or what their child is doing when they are not in her IMMEDIATE presence. So take that and multiply it by the number of children she has and you will see that there is NOT a lot of free time inside of her head to place on thinking about catering to YOU. If you aren't up for an occasional quickie together, which does not mean SEX all the time if that's what you were thinking, I suggest that you stay away. She may just want you to sit and listen to her talk or vent, sit and just hold her or go out for some dining and entertainment and then BACK TO THE CHILDREN and see you later.
Whether you choose to accept her situation and the LIMITED TIME for YOU is one thing but remember that SHE IS A MOTHER and IF she is behaving in the manner described above don't be so SELFISH and hold that against her.
There is a tendency for MARRIED WOMEN to engulf themselves into their grand-children's lives because they are (for whatever reason) BORED , DISSATISFIED WITH, NO LONGER ATTRACTED TO their marriage and their husband so the grand-child(ren) is used as a REPLACEMENT. That REPLACEMENT with the grand-children as opposed to reuniting with THEIR husband will create a void between husband and wife. I won't co-sign using the grand-children as a REPLACEMENT for one's marriage but then I'M NOT MARRIED (I'm single and happy) so I guess I'M NOT QUALIFIED to speak for married couples. It's just MY OPINION but don't blame YOUR husband if he decides to NOT wait until YOU are done raising the grand-children.
As I have stated earlier the best thing that you can do for YOU is RECOGNIZE and ACCEPT THE REALITY of a situation like this, DON'T START SOMETHING with unrealistic expectations of her behaving like a woman without children, WALK AWAY and LET HER DO WHAT SHE'S GOTTA DO AS A MOTHER.
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CONCLUSION
GIVE LOVE A CHANCE (SOMEWHERE ELSE) and stay away from situations like this IF you don't want to deal with the entire package. This is a CHOICE that these types of mothers have made, RESPECT IT and leave them to THEIR RESPONSIBILITY of raising THEIR (not your) children.
THERE ARE WOMEN out there with NO CHILDREN or who's fulfilled THEIR responsibility with THEIR children and the children are GROWN and ON THEIR OWN so if that is what you are seeking why would you want to get into a situation like the above and later on COMPLAIN about she not having enough time for YOU?
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Stop Blaming Her for Your FOOLish and Stupid Choices
Yea I'm talking about you "Stupid", "Weak" and "Wanna-Be" Players out there. What?? You thought I was just gonna point the finger at females? If you don't like what I'm about to say, change YOUR behavior just as I say to those skeezing females out there.
It's time to get the record straight which mean MOST females and SOME males will NOT want to agree with. Before I begin let me state for the record, "There are considerate, sensible, caring, responsible, "practicing" independent WOMEN that exist so why waste your life away with an inconsiderate, loud mouth, uncaring, irresponsible, dependent FEMALE"?
Common Example
He is spending time with and putting out money on her ASSuming she will develop a personal interest in HIM. He makes NO verbal attempts to directly express his intentions to her and adopt that insecure "she should know" mentality. She enjoys the time and money spent (of course) on her but has no intention on developing a personal relationship with HIM. That does not mean she does not want a personal relationship. It simply means she does not want a personal relationship with HIM. In her mind, he is and will ALWAYS be her PLATONIC friend and in most cases at HIS expense. Later on she decides to bounce completely or gradually begin to make herself UNavailable for HIM. He finds out later that she is spending time with someone else.
Question
Is it her fault that she did not indicate to him she wasn't personally interested in him?
Answer
No. He should have stated his intentions once he began spending time with her. As I have always stated, "Give them the opportunity to set the bar". The bar being the truth or a lie by their response regarding HER intentions.
Reason
Unless she verbally misled him (i.e., lied to him and told him she wanted a personal relationship with him), he has no one to blame but HIMSELF.
Question
Should she be blamed for him spending his money on her and she eventually moving on to someone else?
Answer
No. All he had to do is observe her behavior and body language towards him. It would be more than obvious if she has a personal interest. From that point, it's his choice to WISELY MOVE ON or FOOLISHLY REMAIN.
Reason
MOST (not all for your knuckleheads out there) females, excluding Skeezers, will give a man an indication of being mutually attracted and interested. Of course, he has to be observant because females aren't taught to NOT verbalize their intent or desire UNLESS he's financially well-to-do, living in the right zip code and hopefully with a nice view, famous or EXACTLY what she desires physically which is typically a "pretty boy with a hard body" and she's gotta make her move BEFORE some other female does (lol).
Question
Is she wrong for not telling him she is NOT attracted to him in that manner?
Answer
Yes. Although she is not obligated to tell him, it's called being CONSIDERATE which many females (not all, again for you knuckleheads) AREN'T when they get the opportunity of having a male spend his money on her.
Reason
DON'T CONTINUE TO BE STUPID. Females know within seconds if they have enough of a PHYSICAL attraction in a male to ALLOW him to spend time with her. Trust me, in their minds, that physical attraction is being bounced around sexually so if there is no physical attraction there will be NO intimate (i.e., light touching, kissing, etc.) contact or sexual thoughts with MOST females. With that said, they also know within seconds if they DON'T have a physical interest in a male. Now they may make some efforts to financially contribute IF she knows (or it appears such) that he is financially well-to-do because she does not want to give the impression of being a gold-digger (in the beginning). In most cases, she will play it smart and wait until she's in a LEGAL position (i.e., married, pregnant w/child or have had child(ren) with him) and so she looks forward to playing her role and getting PAID on the back end (i.e., after marriage and having access to THEIR account or the ultimate prize DIVORCE and CHILD SUPPORT).
So What's My Point?
Far too many males BLAME the female for THEIR dismal condition AFTER making a STUPID choice of surrendering their lives to an UNPROVEN female in the beginning.
Why Do Males Do It?
Because they have been socially conditioned to easily surrender their lives and their SPERM, sorta speak, JUST BECAUSE he's attracted to her (in some form or fashion) and she APPERAS to have an interest in HIM. Many times that APPEAR is more in HIS mind than HERS which I encourage male to verbally communicate and get a verbal response.
What Should Males Do?
APPLY, not just read, some (or all) of the information that I am providing that can assist him in avoiding those inconsiderate skeezing females out there. If after reading my material he discovers that he is in a relationship with a skeezer, DUMP HER immediately or slowly (whichever method that causes HIM the least amount of effort and harm).
Think for HIS benefit FIRST. Don't be so quick to surrender your life, SPERM and possessions to a female.
Require her to show some CONSISTENT worthy behavior that QUALIFIES her as someone you want to share your life and possessions with. Make sure SHE is contributing just as much as YOU.
If she is someone you HAVE to spend money on in order to have a good time she it for what it is which is a "TEMPORARY John/Prostitute Business" relationship without any EMOTIONS or FUTURE until you find yourself a GENUINE, CONTRIBUTING PARTNER to share your life with. Don't be mad at her or call her foul names. Just DON'T fall in love with her. By the way, prostitute is NOT a foul name/label IF her behavior reflects such and I don't mean just sexual behavior. Many females will PROSTITUTE their TIME which means HE bears the expenses for simply spending time with her.
It's time to get the record straight which mean MOST females and SOME males will NOT want to agree with. Before I begin let me state for the record, "There are considerate, sensible, caring, responsible, "practicing" independent WOMEN that exist so why waste your life away with an inconsiderate, loud mouth, uncaring, irresponsible, dependent FEMALE"?
Common Example
He is spending time with and putting out money on her ASSuming she will develop a personal interest in HIM. He makes NO verbal attempts to directly express his intentions to her and adopt that insecure "she should know" mentality. She enjoys the time and money spent (of course) on her but has no intention on developing a personal relationship with HIM. That does not mean she does not want a personal relationship. It simply means she does not want a personal relationship with HIM. In her mind, he is and will ALWAYS be her PLATONIC friend and in most cases at HIS expense. Later on she decides to bounce completely or gradually begin to make herself UNavailable for HIM. He finds out later that she is spending time with someone else.
QuestionIs it her fault that she did not indicate to him she wasn't personally interested in him?
Answer
No. He should have stated his intentions once he began spending time with her. As I have always stated, "Give them the opportunity to set the bar". The bar being the truth or a lie by their response regarding HER intentions.
Reason
Unless she verbally misled him (i.e., lied to him and told him she wanted a personal relationship with him), he has no one to blame but HIMSELF.
Question
Should she be blamed for him spending his money on her and she eventually moving on to someone else?
Answer
No. All he had to do is observe her behavior and body language towards him. It would be more than obvious if she has a personal interest. From that point, it's his choice to WISELY MOVE ON or FOOLISHLY REMAIN.
Reason
MOST (not all for your knuckleheads out there) females, excluding Skeezers, will give a man an indication of being mutually attracted and interested. Of course, he has to be observant because females aren't taught to NOT verbalize their intent or desire UNLESS he's financially well-to-do, living in the right zip code and hopefully with a nice view, famous or EXACTLY what she desires physically which is typically a "pretty boy with a hard body" and she's gotta make her move BEFORE some other female does (lol).
Question
Is she wrong for not telling him she is NOT attracted to him in that manner?
Answer
Yes. Although she is not obligated to tell him, it's called being CONSIDERATE which many females (not all, again for you knuckleheads) AREN'T when they get the opportunity of having a male spend his money on her.
Reason
DON'T CONTINUE TO BE STUPID. Females know within seconds if they have enough of a PHYSICAL attraction in a male to ALLOW him to spend time with her. Trust me, in their minds, that physical attraction is being bounced around sexually so if there is no physical attraction there will be NO intimate (i.e., light touching, kissing, etc.) contact or sexual thoughts with MOST females. With that said, they also know within seconds if they DON'T have a physical interest in a male. Now they may make some efforts to financially contribute IF she knows (or it appears such) that he is financially well-to-do because she does not want to give the impression of being a gold-digger (in the beginning). In most cases, she will play it smart and wait until she's in a LEGAL position (i.e., married, pregnant w/child or have had child(ren) with him) and so she looks forward to playing her role and getting PAID on the back end (i.e., after marriage and having access to THEIR account or the ultimate prize DIVORCE and CHILD SUPPORT).
So What's My Point?
Far too many males BLAME the female for THEIR dismal condition AFTER making a STUPID choice of surrendering their lives to an UNPROVEN female in the beginning.
Why Do Males Do It?
Because they have been socially conditioned to easily surrender their lives and their SPERM, sorta speak, JUST BECAUSE he's attracted to her (in some form or fashion) and she APPERAS to have an interest in HIM. Many times that APPEAR is more in HIS mind than HERS which I encourage male to verbally communicate and get a verbal response.
What Should Males Do?
APPLY, not just read, some (or all) of the information that I am providing that can assist him in avoiding those inconsiderate skeezing females out there. If after reading my material he discovers that he is in a relationship with a skeezer, DUMP HER immediately or slowly (whichever method that causes HIM the least amount of effort and harm).
Think for HIS benefit FIRST. Don't be so quick to surrender your life, SPERM and possessions to a female.
Require her to show some CONSISTENT worthy behavior that QUALIFIES her as someone you want to share your life and possessions with. Make sure SHE is contributing just as much as YOU.
If she is someone you HAVE to spend money on in order to have a good time she it for what it is which is a "TEMPORARY John/Prostitute Business" relationship without any EMOTIONS or FUTURE until you find yourself a GENUINE, CONTRIBUTING PARTNER to share your life with. Don't be mad at her or call her foul names. Just DON'T fall in love with her. By the way, prostitute is NOT a foul name/label IF her behavior reflects such and I don't mean just sexual behavior. Many females will PROSTITUTE their TIME which means HE bears the expenses for simply spending time with her.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Real Men Limit Their Number Of Children
(Excerpt from "The Good Man's Survival Guide - Rules of Engagement")
Rule #20: Real Men Limit Their Number Of Children
Real men don’t take care of all the children they have; real men limit the number of children they can take care of.
Males are out there foolishly ejaculating inside of one or multiple females. After she’s had a child he will repeat that same behavior. After he gives or is force to give the mother or mothers all or some of his money towards the welfare of the child or children he’s considered a real man.
Response:
Never expect a female to go through conception, pregnancy and finally child birth unless you are prepared to physically, emotionally and financially contribute WITHOUT bringing physical, emotional and/or financial burden (not to be confused with financial responsibility) upon yourself.
Reason:
A foolish or unprepared incident like that can potentially destroy a male’s lifestyle for at least the next 18 years depending on how many children a female will have.
Many males will foolishly surrender their sperm which may result in many females intentionally getting pregnant and having a child or children to trap him or punish him. He will then have to extend himself beyond his comfortable level in order to support them or hide from her and the district attorney in order to avoid child support and incarceration.
In many cases he won’t be able to comfortably provide the necessary time, resources and finances for the care of that child or those children so he and the child or children will suffer. That should not be the case.
Many of them will have to; if they can, find a second job in order to make reasonable financial contributions. With all of that time spent working; he can’t give quality time to the child or children or have quality time for himself.
So a real man will limit the number of children to what he can comfortably take care of. He will also use better judgment in his choice of female sexual partners by making his best attempt to select one that’s not so quick to have a child or children without his mutual consent. He can begin by applying the qualities of a good woman in my first book as a baseline.
Only a fool or loser goes out and destroys his life by ejaculating inside of females without regards for the consequences. If you are that foolish then I suggest that for your benefit you change your way of thinking and behaving or prepare to live a struggling, stressful and/or a very poor lifestyle.
Many of these types of males usually end up with nothing, living in and out of their parents or friends homes, struggling to make ends meet or bouncing from one female to another living with them until they toss him out.
Do you really want this to happen to you? Do you think having children you struggle to raise will make you a real man? I don’t think so. If you don’t think about yourself, think about the child or children.
NEVER FORGET that the females has ABSOLUTE control over that sperm you deposit into her.
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to alter YOUR lifestyle
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to conceive or not conceive
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to wait until both parents are ready for a child
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to bring a child into this world prepared or unprepared
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to bring a child into this world in a dysfunctional or healthy relationship
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to bring a child into this world with a father who is ready and willingly to participate or with a father who DOES NOT want to have a child
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to be absolutely selfish, manipulative and unconcerned about the child's development in an environment that DOES NOT includes both parents functioning in a responsible, healthy and co-operative manner.
With all that said, do you seriously think placing your SPERM into that NOT-SO-SAFE DEPOSIT box is going to be worth proving you are a REAL MAN?
CONCLUSION
If not for you then for the child or children sake, think about the return BEFORE you make the deposit.
Rule #20: Real Men Limit Their Number Of Children
Real men don’t take care of all the children they have; real men limit the number of children they can take care of.
Males are out there foolishly ejaculating inside of one or multiple females. After she’s had a child he will repeat that same behavior. After he gives or is force to give the mother or mothers all or some of his money towards the welfare of the child or children he’s considered a real man.
Response:
Never expect a female to go through conception, pregnancy and finally child birth unless you are prepared to physically, emotionally and financially contribute WITHOUT bringing physical, emotional and/or financial burden (not to be confused with financial responsibility) upon yourself.
Reason:
A foolish or unprepared incident like that can potentially destroy a male’s lifestyle for at least the next 18 years depending on how many children a female will have.
Many males will foolishly surrender their sperm which may result in many females intentionally getting pregnant and having a child or children to trap him or punish him. He will then have to extend himself beyond his comfortable level in order to support them or hide from her and the district attorney in order to avoid child support and incarceration.
In many cases he won’t be able to comfortably provide the necessary time, resources and finances for the care of that child or those children so he and the child or children will suffer. That should not be the case.
Many of them will have to; if they can, find a second job in order to make reasonable financial contributions. With all of that time spent working; he can’t give quality time to the child or children or have quality time for himself.
So a real man will limit the number of children to what he can comfortably take care of. He will also use better judgment in his choice of female sexual partners by making his best attempt to select one that’s not so quick to have a child or children without his mutual consent. He can begin by applying the qualities of a good woman in my first book as a baseline.
Only a fool or loser goes out and destroys his life by ejaculating inside of females without regards for the consequences. If you are that foolish then I suggest that for your benefit you change your way of thinking and behaving or prepare to live a struggling, stressful and/or a very poor lifestyle.
Many of these types of males usually end up with nothing, living in and out of their parents or friends homes, struggling to make ends meet or bouncing from one female to another living with them until they toss him out.
Do you really want this to happen to you? Do you think having children you struggle to raise will make you a real man? I don’t think so. If you don’t think about yourself, think about the child or children.
NEVER FORGET that the females has ABSOLUTE control over that sperm you deposit into her.
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to alter YOUR lifestyle
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to conceive or not conceive
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to wait until both parents are ready for a child
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to bring a child into this world prepared or unprepared
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to bring a child into this world in a dysfunctional or healthy relationship
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to bring a child into this world with a father who is ready and willingly to participate or with a father who DOES NOT want to have a child
- She has TOTAL CONTROL to be absolutely selfish, manipulative and unconcerned about the child's development in an environment that DOES NOT includes both parents functioning in a responsible, healthy and co-operative manner.
With all that said, do you seriously think placing your SPERM into that NOT-SO-SAFE DEPOSIT box is going to be worth proving you are a REAL MAN?
CONCLUSION
If not for you then for the child or children sake, think about the return BEFORE you make the deposit.
Monday, January 31, 2011
The Female's PERFECT MATE
This DOES NOT apply to all females in this situation but it DEFINITELY applies to MOST that think and behave in this manner. Also, there are plenty of QUALITY women AVAILABLE that DON'T think or behave like what I am about to describe so you don't have to try to UNCOMFORTABLY fit yourself into HER PERFECT WORLD.
I have been telling certain females for years that they need to find a mate with these qualities so that they can GROW OLD together instead of GROWING OLD AND ALONE IN THIER PERFECT WORLD. These are the qualities of that PERFECT MATE many of them have been waiting all their lives for GOD TO SEND TO THEM and all the time they were right under their noses:
- ALWAYS eager to see her,
- NEVER becoming bored with her,
- Make her feel SAFE and SECURE,
- WILL ALWAYS snuggle up on the couch with her,
- ALWAYS eager to give her plenty of love and attention,
- OBEDIENT, SUBMISSIVE and always ready to serve her,
- WON'T ABANDON her in his middle years for a younger trophy,
- WON'T turn away from her if she gains 5, 10, 50 pounds or more,
- WILL exercise, go shopping, go dining and even go dancing with her.
- KISSING, CUDDLING and LICKING any time, manner and location she wants it.
More females nowadays are NOT SETTLING for that UNFAITHFUL mate and going out there, GETTING that perfect mate and bring him home to live with her. Here are excerpts from the article that led me to produce this particular blog. To see the complete article simply search your browser for "more women find the perfect man". This article was posted Sept. 19, 2007 but things have not changed today.
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(Excerpt)
I was talking to a girlfriend on the phone the other day when the love of her life sauntered into the room.
"Hey, you," she cooed.
I pulled the phone away from my ear as she began furiously making out, huge wet slurping kisses punctuated by her giggles and his low growls of animal pleasure.
"Come on!" I yelled after a few minutes. "I'm talking here."
"Sorry," my friend said, but I could tell we'd reached the end of any kind of intelligent conversation. I could picture her on the other end of the line, staring moony-eyed at her special guy -- his tousled brown hair, his deep golden eyes.
Like many single women these days, my friend Michelle is madly in love with her dog.
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Forget about men being dogs. These days, dogs have ALMOST completely REPLACED men. If only they had a CREDIT CARD, right?
I have stated that I would NEVER get seriously involved with a female that has a four legged pet living in the house with her. I'm speaking mainly about MALE dogs because we all know just how difficult and damn near IMPOSSIBLE it is for two FEMALES to PEACEFULLY exist for any duration of time be it dog or cat.
Here are a few questions that I ask myself when I come in contact with a female that has a four legged pet living inside of her residence:
- Would I casually date her? Sure.
- Would I dine at her place? ONLY AFTER close observation of her pet's activity.
- Would I get into her bed? ONLY AFTER finding out if she shares it with her pet sometimes.
- Would I allow her to bring her pet inside of my house? Absolutely Not.
MOST of these females treat those pets as MATES or THEIR CHILD which brings to mind another point. There are males that have reached a point in their lives that they DO NOT want to date and/or get seriously involved with a female who has children STILL IN THE HOUSE. Well, I suggest that you change that to Children or Four Legged Pets because there is NO DIFFERENCE in behavior by the female. There is an attachment that will not be broken in most cases. You WILL have to share her with her in-house mate/pet and trust me when I say, THEY CAN SENSE when there's someone threatening THEIR position with THEIR mate. That's right, just as she has developed that bond so has the pet and that pet will whine, growl, etc. in competition with YOU.
TRUE TESTIMONIAL from my experience: This one particular female used to have to put her MATE (i.e., dog) in another room when I visited because when we went to her bedroom that dog would whine and scratch on the door in an attempt to get in. Kinda made me wonder just HOW CLOSE the two of them really were.
Am I criticizing those female's behavior with their pets? Absolutely not because they have the right to do anything they want to as long as it's not HARMFUL to others. I am simply INFORMING males of what to expect in MOST situations like that.
CONSLUSION
Whether she refers to YOU as a dog or not, IF you are dating a female that has an in-house, four legged pet (i.e., dog) YOU are DEFINITELY in COMPETITION with another DOG for HER attention and service.
Oh yea, I don't give a damn what PETA members have to say about this blog.
I have been telling certain females for years that they need to find a mate with these qualities so that they can GROW OLD together instead of GROWING OLD AND ALONE IN THIER PERFECT WORLD. These are the qualities of that PERFECT MATE many of them have been waiting all their lives for GOD TO SEND TO THEM and all the time they were right under their noses:
- ALWAYS eager to see her,
- NEVER becoming bored with her,
- Make her feel SAFE and SECURE,
- WILL ALWAYS snuggle up on the couch with her,
- ALWAYS eager to give her plenty of love and attention,
- OBEDIENT, SUBMISSIVE and always ready to serve her,
- WON'T ABANDON her in his middle years for a younger trophy,
- WON'T turn away from her if she gains 5, 10, 50 pounds or more,
- WILL exercise, go shopping, go dining and even go dancing with her.
- KISSING, CUDDLING and LICKING any time, manner and location she wants it.
More females nowadays are NOT SETTLING for that UNFAITHFUL mate and going out there, GETTING that perfect mate and bring him home to live with her. Here are excerpts from the article that led me to produce this particular blog. To see the complete article simply search your browser for "more women find the perfect man". This article was posted Sept. 19, 2007 but things have not changed today.
=====
(Excerpt)
I was talking to a girlfriend on the phone the other day when the love of her life sauntered into the room.
"Hey, you," she cooed.
I pulled the phone away from my ear as she began furiously making out, huge wet slurping kisses punctuated by her giggles and his low growls of animal pleasure.
"Come on!" I yelled after a few minutes. "I'm talking here."
"Sorry," my friend said, but I could tell we'd reached the end of any kind of intelligent conversation. I could picture her on the other end of the line, staring moony-eyed at her special guy -- his tousled brown hair, his deep golden eyes.
Like many single women these days, my friend Michelle is madly in love with her dog.
=====
Forget about men being dogs. These days, dogs have ALMOST completely REPLACED men. If only they had a CREDIT CARD, right?
I have stated that I would NEVER get seriously involved with a female that has a four legged pet living in the house with her. I'm speaking mainly about MALE dogs because we all know just how difficult and damn near IMPOSSIBLE it is for two FEMALES to PEACEFULLY exist for any duration of time be it dog or cat.
Here are a few questions that I ask myself when I come in contact with a female that has a four legged pet living inside of her residence:
- Would I casually date her? Sure.
- Would I dine at her place? ONLY AFTER close observation of her pet's activity.
- Would I get into her bed? ONLY AFTER finding out if she shares it with her pet sometimes.
- Would I allow her to bring her pet inside of my house? Absolutely Not.
MOST of these females treat those pets as MATES or THEIR CHILD which brings to mind another point. There are males that have reached a point in their lives that they DO NOT want to date and/or get seriously involved with a female who has children STILL IN THE HOUSE. Well, I suggest that you change that to Children or Four Legged Pets because there is NO DIFFERENCE in behavior by the female. There is an attachment that will not be broken in most cases. You WILL have to share her with her in-house mate/pet and trust me when I say, THEY CAN SENSE when there's someone threatening THEIR position with THEIR mate. That's right, just as she has developed that bond so has the pet and that pet will whine, growl, etc. in competition with YOU.
TRUE TESTIMONIAL from my experience: This one particular female used to have to put her MATE (i.e., dog) in another room when I visited because when we went to her bedroom that dog would whine and scratch on the door in an attempt to get in. Kinda made me wonder just HOW CLOSE the two of them really were.
Am I criticizing those female's behavior with their pets? Absolutely not because they have the right to do anything they want to as long as it's not HARMFUL to others. I am simply INFORMING males of what to expect in MOST situations like that.
CONSLUSION
Whether she refers to YOU as a dog or not, IF you are dating a female that has an in-house, four legged pet (i.e., dog) YOU are DEFINITELY in COMPETITION with another DOG for HER attention and service.
Oh yea, I don't give a damn what PETA members have to say about this blog.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Q&A Session with J. Duval
I've decided to take a little time and post some of the REPETITIVE questions that I am asked. If you have any additional questions simply place it in the comment box and I will respond to them when time permits. Thanks!
Question/Comment:
What makes you a Relationship Expert?
Answer:
I am NOT a Relationship Expert and have NEVER claimed to be one. I AM a REALationship Expert which means I provide males advice on how to NOT waste unnecessary time, screw up, ruin, sacrifice or destroy THEIR present or future by making poor and/or emotional decisions when attempting to spend-time-with or choose a female for companionship because they have been conditioned to choose the female BEFORE she has proven any kind of WORTHINESS and HE pays a financial and emotional price later for his POOR decision.
Question/Comment:
Do you stand-by your advice and practice what you preach?
Answer:
Yes, without hesitation.
Question/Comment:
How successful have you been in obtaining a REALationship as you call it?
Answer:
Very unsuccessful so far.
Question/Comment:
Hah. Well, it seems that your adivce is no good, huh?
Answer:
Quite the contrary. It proves that my advice is very good because since applying it to myself I HAVE NOT wasted unnecessary time, have not screwed up, ruined, sacrificed or destroyed my present or future. I am ENJOYING myself proving that my advice does work by recognizing and avoiding SKEEZERS.
Question/Comment:
It appears that you haven't found happiness.
Answer:
When did I say that I was unhappy? Since I apply my advice to myself I have NO REASON to be miserable which make me very happy. My happiness, peace-of-mind and contentment comes from within as opposed to many males that have been conditioned to believe they NEED to have and make a female happy FIRST and keep her happy in order to acquire those conditions.
Question/Comment:
So you think that you know everything, huh?
Answer:
No, but I do know enough to NOT make a poor choice and allow the WRONG female into my life and cause me to be miserable.
Question/Comment:
So are you saying that men should not have female companionship?
Answer:
Absolutely not. I am saying that males should NOT compromise, settle and give up prosperity and peace-of-mind by selecting the WRONG female.
Question/Comment:
Seems like you are a bitter man. Who hurt you that bad and caused you to hate women so much?
Answer:
I am NOT bitter or angry. Did I get my feelings hurt at any time? Of course I did but that was BEFORE I realized the useless game that many females play these days. I now place wisdom BEFORE emotions.
Question/Comment:
Sound to me like you are a very sad and lonely man.
Answer:
Did you know that there is a difference between BEING LONELY and BEING ALONE? I am quite happy, ALONE and doing very well for myself which gives me NO reason to be sad or lonely. I didn't say that I did not have access to women. I have plenty of that simply because I am in EXCELLENT financial, emotional and physical health which I can't say all of those exists for many males that I know. I am NOT in dismal or miserable situations like some of my male friends are. Sure, I've ventured out there and made attempts to date and got ACCEPTED by some and REJECTED by others but my bottom line is I DON'T CHASE EM, I REPLACE EM if I have to play that silly PURSUIT GAME. If she doesn't VALUE me as an individual and my interest in getting to know her or she isn't MATURED enough to behave in that manner then I move on. I don't complicate dating, I keep it very simple and stress FREE.
Question/Comment:
Do you believe that you will ever get in a monogamous relationship?
Answer:
Sure I will when the right person comes along. Let me state, for the record, that the right person is NOT just about physical apperance before you bring that up. The physical WILL get my attention but it's the ATTITUDE and BEHAVIOR that will determine IF she remains. I am NO LONGER that STUPID such that I will accept an attractive female with a BAD and INCONSIDERATE attitude.
Question/Comment:
So do you have any hobbies?
Answer:
Yep, it's REMAINING happy, prosperous and maintaining a peace-of-mind.
END OF Q&A SESSION
Question/Comment:
What makes you a Relationship Expert?
Answer:
I am NOT a Relationship Expert and have NEVER claimed to be one. I AM a REALationship Expert which means I provide males advice on how to NOT waste unnecessary time, screw up, ruin, sacrifice or destroy THEIR present or future by making poor and/or emotional decisions when attempting to spend-time-with or choose a female for companionship because they have been conditioned to choose the female BEFORE she has proven any kind of WORTHINESS and HE pays a financial and emotional price later for his POOR decision.
Question/Comment:
Do you stand-by your advice and practice what you preach?
Answer:
Yes, without hesitation.
Question/Comment:
How successful have you been in obtaining a REALationship as you call it?
Answer:
Very unsuccessful so far.
Question/Comment:
Hah. Well, it seems that your adivce is no good, huh?
Answer:
Quite the contrary. It proves that my advice is very good because since applying it to myself I HAVE NOT wasted unnecessary time, have not screwed up, ruined, sacrificed or destroyed my present or future. I am ENJOYING myself proving that my advice does work by recognizing and avoiding SKEEZERS.
Question/Comment:
It appears that you haven't found happiness.
Answer:
When did I say that I was unhappy? Since I apply my advice to myself I have NO REASON to be miserable which make me very happy. My happiness, peace-of-mind and contentment comes from within as opposed to many males that have been conditioned to believe they NEED to have and make a female happy FIRST and keep her happy in order to acquire those conditions.
Question/Comment:
So you think that you know everything, huh?
Answer:
No, but I do know enough to NOT make a poor choice and allow the WRONG female into my life and cause me to be miserable.
Question/Comment:
So are you saying that men should not have female companionship?
Answer:
Absolutely not. I am saying that males should NOT compromise, settle and give up prosperity and peace-of-mind by selecting the WRONG female.
Question/Comment:
Seems like you are a bitter man. Who hurt you that bad and caused you to hate women so much?
Answer:
I am NOT bitter or angry. Did I get my feelings hurt at any time? Of course I did but that was BEFORE I realized the useless game that many females play these days. I now place wisdom BEFORE emotions.
Question/Comment:
Sound to me like you are a very sad and lonely man.
Answer:
Did you know that there is a difference between BEING LONELY and BEING ALONE? I am quite happy, ALONE and doing very well for myself which gives me NO reason to be sad or lonely. I didn't say that I did not have access to women. I have plenty of that simply because I am in EXCELLENT financial, emotional and physical health which I can't say all of those exists for many males that I know. I am NOT in dismal or miserable situations like some of my male friends are. Sure, I've ventured out there and made attempts to date and got ACCEPTED by some and REJECTED by others but my bottom line is I DON'T CHASE EM, I REPLACE EM if I have to play that silly PURSUIT GAME. If she doesn't VALUE me as an individual and my interest in getting to know her or she isn't MATURED enough to behave in that manner then I move on. I don't complicate dating, I keep it very simple and stress FREE.
Question/Comment:
Do you believe that you will ever get in a monogamous relationship?
Answer:
Sure I will when the right person comes along. Let me state, for the record, that the right person is NOT just about physical apperance before you bring that up. The physical WILL get my attention but it's the ATTITUDE and BEHAVIOR that will determine IF she remains. I am NO LONGER that STUPID such that I will accept an attractive female with a BAD and INCONSIDERATE attitude.
Question/Comment:
So do you have any hobbies?
Answer:
Yep, it's REMAINING happy, prosperous and maintaining a peace-of-mind.
END OF Q&A SESSION
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