(Excerpt from "How to Identify and Avoid a No Good Skeezer")There are far too many good men so desperate to have a female that they overlook what a skeezer really means when she is speaking to him. There is a difference between a skeezer’s statements and her thoughts. I will take just a few of their statements and expose their true thoughts for the good men that aren’t capable of doing so or they are in denial and won’t accept reality.
Skeezer’s Words:
I would like for us to try and be friends first.
Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I am not that attracted to you so I would like to see how much use you would be to me before I decide if I want to keep you around me.
Skeezer’s Words:
I like you but I don’t want to ruin our friendship.
Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I have no personal interest in you. I like what you do for me (no sex of course) so I want to keep you at a distance just in case I do meet someone that I am interested in.
Skeezer’s Words:
I don’t like a cheap man.
Skeezer’s Thoughts:
If you want to spend time with me you will have to spend your money on me.
Skeezer’s Words:
I will not have sex until after I am married.
Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I have dated men, I have had sex with all the men I was attracted to and they still did not marry me so now I am going to use religion or my frustration in making selfish choices as my sexual shield. Since you appear to be of no social or financial benefit to me being and I am not really that physically attracted to you I will make you wait.
Skeezer’s Words:
I am not interested in shallow men and I do not have friends who are.
Skeezer’s Thoughts:
I can’t handle rejection and especially if you are not physically attracted to me. I will never introduce you to any of my girlfriends that you may be attracted to. If I can’t be happy with you I will make sure that none of them will be.
My goodness.....
ReplyDeleteI've said all those words before to my current guy and here is what I mean :
Be friends first = I am not sure about your character and integrity and I don't know your social and professional circle enough (because you don't have LinkedIn, facebook, a registered company, employment contract, etc). I have a reputation to maintain that as a person I can be trusted to make good choices in sussing out a persons's character before I allow them into my inner-circle.
I like your qualities very much as a person and I hope things develop more meaningfully without letting attraction confuse what is for what is not.
To a different guy :
I like you but I don't want to ruin our friendship :
I value your character and good qualities but I have told you I have a romantic interest in another man. Although the other man is not responsive to me but to move on while I am not emotionally ready is just to treat you like a rebound. i respect you and I think you deserve more than what I can offer you emotionally at this point in my life.
In general :
I don't like a cheap man.
My meaning : I am not a cheap person so I don't like cheap people in general. Being cheap is classless. I don't like men who treat service people badly like make a mess coz someone else has to clean up. I don't like men who negotiate win-lose situations in business. I don't like men who squeeze blood out of a deal or squeeze a persons's business margin. I don't like men who don't give good benefits and bonuses but spends indiscriminately on entertainment bills for his friends instead of investing in benefits for people who work for him.
Don't want to have sex until after I get married :
I do not believe in abortions and I have stayed celibate (for 15 years) for these many years to avoid STDs which can cause health problems to any yet to be born child. Unless you are willing to take the same level of responsibility as I am when engaging in sex i.e willing to be responsible, loving parents to any child conceived regardless of whether we marry or not - we should not until our relationship becomes deeper.
I'm not interested in shallow men :
I am not interested in shallow men. Period.
I am starting to understand more and more why he responds differently from most other people - it's because he reads stuff like what you write and thus has a skewered perception of women.
ReplyDeleteNah, it has NOT skewered his perception of women. It has OPENED HIS EYES to the REALITY of MANY females. It's just that simple. He was TRAINED to look the other way and now I'm RE-TRAINING him to look IN THIER FACE and see them for whatever they truly are.
ReplyDeleteMentioned this to him and said I am so upset. He said I shouldn't believe everything I read and no one can claim to read anyone else's mind. Made me feel a lot better....
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